Nowadays, there is nothing special about weddings in Bazhong. They are all based on the agreement between the two parties.
The old wedding customs in Bazhong: asking questions, asking questions, horoscopes, eating wine, blind dates, paying homage, announcing the date, welcoming the bride, weeping for the wedding, leaving the palace, paying homage, having a bridal chamber, and returning home.
1. Questioning
Also known as visiting relatives. The matchmaker will inquire whether the couple has any intention of getting married, and then discuss whether to get married.
2. Picking up words
The man is also known as steady talk, and the woman is also known as accurate talk. The man prepares gifts and invites a matchmaker to deliver them to the woman's home as a first pass to stabilize the conversation.
3. Combined Bazi
In some places along the Tongjiang River, it is also called planting incense, bowing one’s head, kowtowing, and walking into a small household. The man's family prepares gifts, and goes to the woman's house with a matchmaker to write the woman's birth year, month, day, and hour on red paper and takes it to the man's family. If the man's family presses it under the incense burner in the shrine, if there is no damage to the house within seven days, he will call a fortune teller. "Combined eight characters". It is best to combine eight characters, six characters is acceptable, four characters is barely possible, and only two characters cannot be engaged.
4. Eat "meeting wine"
If the horoscopes are not incompatible, the groom's family will invite the girl's parents and elders to have "meeting wine" to express their agreement to get engaged.
5. Blind Date
If a man and a woman have the same horoscope, their parents will be in love. The husband's parents go to the girl's house to see the daughter-in-law; the girl's parents go to the husband's house to see the son-in-law and his family's situation, and find out whether the house has firewood and water.
6. Luobai
It is also called taking red Geng, Luo Dabai, going to a big family, and also called Xingpin. It is a great ceremony for the man to recognize the woman's family. The man and woman's family agree on a time, and the man's family prepares clothing materials (or clothes), jewelry, food, gift boxes, and a red post. On the left side of the red post "Open the door", write "The boy will give birth to Geng" and a couplet to give to the woman. Give a red envelope to the person in the lower line; in the morning, the poor family will be carried by the matchmaker, and the rich family will pick it up with the "carrying box" to the girl's family; in the afternoon, the girl's family will match the lower line of the couplet on the red post, write the daughter's birthday on the right, and return it together with the gift. In the male family, this is also called Kai Geng in the male family and Hui Geng in the female family. There are also men who prepare Geng-Cambodian and Yuan-Cambodian: Yuan-Cambodian is called Feng Tie, which preserves the girl's family; Geng-Cambodian is called Bianjian, which returns to the man's family.
7. Deadline
Also known as Geng Shu and due date. The man asks a fortune teller to determine the wedding date, writes a "prospectus letter" on a red post, prepares gifts, and sends them to the woman's house by the matchmaker to discuss the ceremony. After that, the woman buys a dowry based on the amount of "betrothal gift" sent by the man.
8. Welcoming a bride
Also known as paying a courtesy, paying a courtesy, and receiving a person. The first day of the wedding is a "guest break", and the groom's family invites the matchmaker, the hostess, the trumpeter, and the guests for lunch at noon. In the afternoon, those who performed the ceremony went to the bride's house to welcome the bride, playing music and playing music. The people who attended the ceremony included the groom, the bride-to-be's family, Mr. Aili, the matchmaker, the bride-to-be, the Yunti Department, the Drum Division, etc. The people who attended the ceremony arrived at the dam of the bride's house, and Mr. Aili went into the middle hall to throw in the "Announcement Card". After the "Nine Arches and Eighteen Bows", the wine ceremony is said, the guests greet the guests, and then the guests enter the room and take their seats. There are certain rules for "giving gifts" after dinner: when all the gifts are put together, Mr. Xi must first tell, report, salute, bow, and open the "Cambodian". If the gift is not thoughtful, he must apologize. If the "kitchen gift" is missing, he must make up for it. The first step is to give the "Cooking Card" and invite the cook to "open the box"; the last step is to give the "Bedroom Card" before arranging the guests to go to bed.
9. Crying at marriage
The girl from the girl’s family will cry for her parents in the morning and evening three days before the wedding to express her feelings of farewell and miss her upbringing. In the morning of the wedding day, someone will ask someone to "open the face" (twist the hair on the face with gray thread), and the girl will not eat from then on, so as not to be inconvenient in the toilet during the wedding; from the afternoon of the wedding day, the girl will cry to her parents, relatives and friends, and invite some girls to accompany her Crying; sitting around a table filled with candies and refreshments, crying and singing while eating, crying in a monotonous voice that sounds like crying and singing. When crying, accompany the crying girl out of the room and invite the person being cried among the guests. The person being cried will send the prepared crying money to the girl's resting room and encourage her to cry.
10. Leaving the pavilion
When a woman leaves the pavilion, she first covers her head with a red cloth, which is called "head covering", and then carries her to her husband's house in a sedan chair. Before leaving the palace, the woman's virtuous elders will cover the sedan chair, saying that it can avoid the "evil spirit" in the sedan chair. Before leaving the pavilion, a woman covers her head, wears red clothes, wears a phoenix crown, and hangs a magic mirror on her chest. A woman helps her out. After going to the main room to say goodbye to her ancestors, parents, and relatives, she crosses the overpass (putting a bench on the threshold of the main room), fights, and throws Chopsticks (a handful at the front and back), and then in the sedan chair, four brothers carry them first for a short ride. After the sedan chair reaches the groom's courtyard, the chef bites the cock's comb to bleed and throws it over the top of the sedan chair, which is called "Hui Sha". The bridegroom opens the sedan curtain, hands in the red envelope given by her parents-in-law, and asks the bride to get off the sedan (if the red envelope contains too little money, some brides will not be able to get out of the sedan chair, so it is called "getting off the sedan chair").
11. Make obeisance and enter the bridal chamber
After the bride gets off the sedan, she and the groom worship together with the groom on the left and right along the steps, enter the hall, worship the ancestors, and enter the bridal chamber to drink a cup of wine. Uncover the hijab. During this process, in order to prevent the bride's feet from touching the ground before entering the new house, two blankets must be used to pave the ground in turn; the groom must run faster from the main room to the bridal chamber to avoid being punched by his peers, which is commonly known as "happy beating"; When couples are making love, they all compete to step on the carpet first, saying that the one who steps on it first can "pinch" the other person; when drinking a glass of wine, the two people also have to have a heart-to-heart relationship, such as secretly sitting on the corner of the other person's clothes and chewing it. "overwhelm" the opponent.
After lunch, when paying homage to the guests, the chief guest invites the elders of the clan to perform the homage; then the aunts, uncles, and aunts are greeted one by one, and they all "hang red" (draping red satin or red cloth on the shoulders of the bride and groom); finally, the parents are invited to be homage and give When the bride is happy with money, she gives her son and daughter-in-law a bowl of rice each to represent food and clothing. The son and daughter-in-law dig up the money as they walk to the new house. Before the wedding, the bride will find a little boy under five years old to roll on the bed in the new house, which means that the bride and groom can have a boy after marriage. Before dark, newlyweds visit the graves of their ancestors (nearby).
12. Making trouble in the bridal chamber
In the evening, some young people go to the bridal chamber to eat wedding cigarettes, wedding candies, peanuts and melon seeds, make the bride talk and laugh, and rest late at night.
13. Return home
On the morning after the wedding, the new daughter-in-law should give pillows, shoes, and handkerchiefs to her parents to show her filial piety. Then he went to the kitchen to cook, and gave the chef red envelopes, candies, and hand towels, and the chef responded with auspicious words. Then the bride has to make a symbolic breakfast, which is called "making morning fire". After breakfast, before seeing off relatives and guests, they hand over invitations to the groom's family and invite the newlyweds to "come back." Some people return three days after the wedding, which is called "Guining to visit relatives" or "walk back."