In the first part, the mother's way of speaking determines the height of the child's life, and the child unconsciously listens to the parents' words, which has become the conscious influence of the child. Nobel Prize in Literature winner Mo Yan said in an interview that he was born ugly. Many people in the village laughed at her face to face. Several students at school even beat him for it. He went home in pain, and his mother said to him, you are not ugly, you have no shortage of nose and eyes, and your limbs are sound. Where is the ugliness? And as long as you are kind-hearted and do more good deeds, you can become beautiful even if you are worried. Mo Yan's achievement today is that his mother taught you what life is and what life is.
The second part, the quietness, weakness and kindness in mother's words are the cultivation and cultivation of mother's life. The real strength of a mother is her kindness, gentleness and love. Mother's image is the rule, words are the direction, diligence can make up for mistakes, and diligence can make you wise. In addition to cultivating kindness, mothers should learn to show weakness to their children. Confucius' family didn't know how to scold, and Ceng Zi's family didn't deserve to be angry, so they were born to be easy to teach. It is difficult for children of strong mothers to be confident. A mother's strength will be weakened a little in front of her children. Learning to show weakness in front of children is to support them.
The third part, how should a mother talk well with her children? First of all, mothers should teach their children to be cautious and not to say a word. Talking parents will tell their children to be different. Secondly, mother must control her emotions first. Children who often look at their parents' faces will have two faces. The natural environment and social environment in this world have no deeper influence on children than parents' faces, because your face is their whole world.
Finally, I will teach you how to communicate with your children correctly through sight and hearing. When the child talks to you, create a warm speaking atmosphere, smile, look at the child's eyes, reach out and gently put it on the child's shoulder, or hold his hand, so that the child can feel the link of the body. Finally, gently turn your ear to the child's direction and say that the child says your mother is listening. When the child says, you just have to nod and smile in response. Well, me? Can I say it now? It may be that the child's cognitive behavior is incorrect in the process of speaking. As long as it is not a serious event involving life and morality, don't rush to criticize and disapprove of him. Tell the children that I have different ideas. Listen and watch. Let's discuss it together. Even if the child doesn't accept your advice for a while, minor problems can make the child try to fail, and growing up in setbacks can build a mature, complete and stable heart for the child. The best way to comfort is to listen to him first and let the children feel concerned and warm. At the moment when children speak, their hearts are nourished and healed. For mothers, parenting is actually educating themselves. To run a happy family and educate a sensible child, we should start with talking well.