A lot, probably no less than yours. This should be a common phenomenon in rural areas. I summarized it and found that they can actually be divided into two categories:
The first category is those who cannot be married.
Including the poor. For example, one of my aunts and cousins, their family is very poor, and the house is still leaking. How could such a matchmaker come to the door? Girls are not willing to suffer like this with him. There are two reasons for being poor. First, my parents can't help much and are incompetent. They can only earn 20,000 to 30,000 yuan a year, which is enough to pay for family expenses. There is no money for the bride price, and she is still waiting for her son to support her in her old age. Also, he doesn't know how to make money himself. He usually doesn't read any books or learn any other skills. When he goes out to work, he can be cheated by his boss or friends and colleagues. After working outside for so many years, I never gave any money to my family, and sometimes I had to give him some money from home. Anyway, my family is poor and there is no hope for the future.
There are also those with physical disabilities or mental disorders. There are several old bachelors in our village who are in this situation. They are either born with physical disabilities, such as being deaf-mute, lame, etc. They can take care of themselves just fine, but they cannot be expected to take on the burden of life. There are also those who burn out their brains due to illness and become idiots the day after tomorrow. They usually have difficulty communicating with others, and sometimes they do stupid things and bad things, causing trouble for their families. They may be single for the rest of their lives, which is even more hopeless.
In addition, they have poor ideological and moral character, are lazy, cheat, and even have criminal records. The nearby villagers knew all about them. It was impossible for anyone with a daughter to marry him. No one would watch their daughter jump into the fire pit, right? I won’t help introduce relatives and friends to their homes, and I can’t harm others.
There is another category that is self-inflicted.
Including those who have been emotionally injured. This is the case with a neighbor brother of mine. A few years ago, he dated a girlfriend for several years. He spent a lot of money on her, both emotionally and financially. Later, the girl broke up with him when she wanted to go out to work, and he didn't want to go with her. Maybe he was too affectionate. Now I don't know if he is still waiting for the girl to come back or if he has really lost the ability to love. No matter whether his parents urged him or his neighbors introduced him, he was unmoved and said that he didn't. I have lost my motivation and don’t believe I will ever meet the right one again.
There is also a personality that is too reserved. There are many people like this, who have an honest and friendly personality and don't like to interact with the people around them. They dare not go out or are unwilling to go out. They usually stay at home when they have nothing to do. When they see a girl, they blush and hide, and they are even less likely to take the initiative to pursue her. Even those who ask someone at home to introduce me to a blind date are unwilling to go, or they go once and then nothing happens again.
In addition, he has a very high vision. Even though some people have average conditions, they have a lot of requirements when choosing a partner. They have to be young and beautiful; they can’t do it if they are fat and they eat too much; they can’t support them if they are too thin; they can’t give birth to a son if they don’t have a butt; Those who are healthy are not good, and children who grow up in single-parent families have dark hearts; those who are single children are not good, and the burden of caring for the elderly in the future will be too heavy; some even have to calculate the girl's horoscope first to see if she is compatible with them, or if she is destined to have a prosperous husband... In short, there are so many different tricks, so I think I am so popular.
Summary
It is a common phenomenon that there are many bachelors in rural areas. The reasons for this phenomenon are multi-faceted and very complex. There are reasons for the lack of girls, and there are also reasons for the shortcomings of boys themselves. . Therefore, it is very difficult to solve it. It cannot be explained clearly in one or two sentences. In short, I think the problem of rural bachelors should be taken seriously. We should work together and prescribe the right medicine. It may not be completely solved, but it should be alleviated and improved.
In our rural areas, this should be considered good. There are only more than 30 single men over the age of 27 in one village. There are twenty or thirty villager groups in each village. Each villager group is at least thirty or forty households. , there are at least seven or eight thousand people in a village! One or two unmarried men in a village group is really not that many. There are at least a hundred older unmarried men in my village.
In fact, unmarried men over the age of 27 cannot be considered leftover men. Only those over 35 years old can be considered leftover men. I don’t know what the age of marriage is in other places. In our rural areas, 27 is the right time to get married. I Tell us about our situation here!
My place is a rural area in northern Jiangxi, and the geographical location is relatively remote, but our place is rich in beauties. It is said that King Li Chuang was defeated and three thousand concubines were left in our place, so the reputation of being rich in beauties should be well-deserved. Because of the geographical location, the prevailing literary style, the desire for knowledge and the inheritance of culture, more children here read. Of course, there are also some people who fell in love in junior high school and dropped out of school to get married. It makes sense for those who become fathers at the age of fifteen or sixteen.
There are also some more honest people in rural areas. They are simple-minded and do not work hard to improve their personal qualities and abilities. They do not want to make progress. They just go fishing and play mahjong every day, doing nothing all day long. , like a loser, it is natural that such a boy cannot find a wife.
Most of them are individuals who are particularly diligent and hardworking. Through their own efforts, they have been admitted to college and worked outside.
Generally, those who graduate from college are over the age of 22, and some take postgraduate entrance examinations and Ph.D.s. Most of these boys are unmarried at the age of 27, and it is normal for girls to be unmarried at the age of 27. You will have to work for a few years after graduation, not to mention the fact that housing prices in the city are so high. Nowadays, there are a few people who are willing to get married naked. Basically, a house and a car are standard equipment. In a small town primary school here, there are more than a dozen single female teachers in their twenties and seventies, not to mention those boys!
So according to the current situation, being unmarried at the age of twenty-seven is really nothing! You can be considered a bachelor if you are at least thirty-five years old. However, there are exceptions, such as those who have successful careers and are still diamonds at the age of 40! It’s not like you don’t have to worry about getting a wife!
These are common phenomena in rural areas. For example, there are more than 20 households from one family in our village, and there are more than ten unmarried men over the age of 30. If there are more unmarried men in the whole village . Some men understand that there are still some opportunities to go out to work, but if they stay in the village, they will be single. There are fewer girls now, and most of them go to study and work outside, and then choose to marry in the city. Ideology has also changed, and there are more demands. As a result, for many single men in the countryside, retirement care will also be a problem in a few decades. At that time, the country will still have to face these single pension policies.
Yes, both men and women advocate non-marriage and freedom of enjoyment
According to general statistics in our village, there are nearly 80 people who have not found a wife, and our village has not found a wife in the past three years. The most critical reason for marrying someone new is poverty, but there are also other reasons.
In recent years, due to the increase in betrothal gifts and the increasing cost of marriage, such as the need to buy a building in the city, the need to buy a car, etc., it has become increasingly difficult for many economically backward rural areas to find a wife, and this has happened. The phenomenon has both objective causes and subjective causes among young rural men!
1. Affected by traditional thinking, the ratio of men to women is imbalanced; according to statistics, there are nearly 30 million more men than women, and this number will further expand in the future. The imbalance between men and women has resulted in many young men Finding a wife becomes difficult.
2. The rural economy is backward. This is the main reason. During the interviews, we found that the more economically backward the rural areas, the more single young men there are. Therefore, the backwardness of the rural economy is the most important reason for single young men in rural areas. The main and most direct reason.
3. Rural young men’s own subjective reasons; when visiting rural areas, it was found that many young men in rural areas have a certain phenomenon of nibbling on old age. They are afraid of going out to work and can only stay in the village. However, in rural areas There are relatively few development opportunities, which leads to backward conditions and it becomes extremely difficult to find a wife.
Therefore, if we want to solve this problem, we must promote the idea that equality between men and women is passed down to future generations, vigorously develop the rural economy, and allow more young men to have a certain economic income. Only then can this phenomenon be achieved ease.
Nowadays, older men are affected everywhere. There are more than 1,900 people in our village, and there are currently more than 30 older men and young people in their thirties.
There are nearly 20 women in the village...all of them are as beautiful as flowers. Just don’t marry...that’s weird
1. I’m not the same as you. This problem is common nowadays. When men look for wives, they mainly need cars, houses, and money, which affects every man. In addition, he hopes to find his partner as soon as possible. Thank you
There is a phenomenon, I don’t know if you have noticed it. After a woman has gone out to work for a few years and seen some of the world outside, many boys in the countryside do not like her, but the girl’s own conditions are not that good. There are many boys in the city who don't like her, and then they stay single
Most of them, I am from Wenzhou! There are a lot of people over 30 in the town. There are those with high incomes and those with low incomes! I am born in the 1980s, and among my middle school and high school classmates, there seem to be 15-20 singles. The number of divorces is unknown.
What a sad group of classmates