Some children cry more than others for several reasons:
1, born with a sensitive personality, takes small things seriously. For example, he fell a small hole in his knee and cried endlessly;
2. Parents subconsciously encourage crying. For example, if a child has a small cut on his knee, his parents will always "care" about him, and then they will ask and touch him, indicating that they are too worried; For example, why do children cry when they are dissatisfied with something? His parents tried their best to stop him from crying and give him everything he wanted.
Although the child often cries, he is not happy. Sensitive children cry freely, laugh freely and vent freely. It will be better after crying. Researchers believe that tears can help people reduce harmful chemicals produced by the brain when they are depressed. There are also some researchers who believe that people who love to cry are not worse emotionally and physically than those who don't.
So don't be nervous when you see a child crying, try to stop it.
In order to reduce children's crying appropriately, you can try the following methods:
1, pay attention to children's sensitivity. Sensitive children, for pain, for "major events" (such as the beloved doll's arm falling off, the built building blocks being knocked down by other children, and so on. ) I feel worse than other children. Therefore, it is wrong to laugh at this sensitivity or deny its legitimacy, or even criticize it. We must respond with understanding and sympathy to help him out of the predicament. However, don't go too far, or you will go too far. Endurance is exercised.
2. Cultivate children's self-esteem. Inferiority will make him more sensitive and cry more. Therefore, it is very useful to promote children's self-evaluation and praise good behavior from time to time. You shouldn't ask too much of him or do things beyond his ability.
Don't encourage him to cry. Children's crying should be neither rewarded nor punished, and should be treated with a neutral attitude. However, when the child is too excited, you can play some entertaining games with him to distract him or give him some kind comfort. However, don't give too much sympathy, otherwise it will give the child "motivation" to cry.
4. Help (or guide) children to turn crying into language. Teach him to speak out his thoughts when he encounters difficulties or unsatisfactory things, so that his parents can better understand his thoughts and demands and solve them for him more pertinently.
Don't show your negative emotions, or he will imitate them. If an adult cries, he will cry at once. If you really have something emotional, you should avoid showing it in front of him and don't let him imitate it.
6. Don't criticize children's desire and efforts to learn and do something. Even if the result is not ideal, don't criticize, but encourage and help. For example, he wants to paint. He paints flowers and plants on paper with colored strokes. The painting is good, but he paints on the wall. At this time, your task is to praise his painting ability and educate him not to paint on the wall. In this way, he will be willing to correct, do better and get more praise. At this time, if you only criticize what he painted on the wall, he will feel wronged and cry.
7. Don't strictly prohibit children from crying, and don't be overly sympathetic. Often frown and shake your head at your child's bad behavior to show your attitude.
8. Make rules for a five-year-old child and tell him what he can and can't do. However, the rules should be easy to implement, for example, adults should not make loud noises when taking a nap; Clean up the toys after playing; If the child falls, he should get up. Ask an adult to see if he needs to be sent to hospital for treatment. When making rules, you should make some sense simply and clearly. If he understood, it would be better implemented. For example, toys should be cleaned up after playing, so that they can be found next time; Adults don't talk loudly when they take a nap. This is to leave a quiet environment for adults and let them sleep soundly.
When the child is not bad for a month or two and cries less than before, we should praise him vigorously.
9. Don't label him as a "crying child", and don't call him crying in front of others to protect his self-esteem.
10, you should respond when your child cries, and you can't ignore it. If we ignore it, sometimes danger may occur, and the problem will be big. For example, he fell and cried, and he was going to see what was wrong. My leg is broken. I must deal with it. I have a headache. I have to go to the hospital for examination. But if he has nothing to cry about, distract him, let him play some games, and don't give him everything.