The matchmaker played the role of matchmaker in China's marriage. The male matchmaker is also called Yue Lao, and the female matchmaker is generally called the matchmaker or Dajinjie. Matchmakers are also women who have arranged marriages.
In ancient marriages, the matchmaker received a gift and the wedding ceremony was attended by the newlyweds. After giving birth to children, under the bondage of feudal ethics, men and women were preached that "giving and receiving are not close", "three-year-old beds are different, and five-year-old seats are different", "a good woman can't leave the house" and "a woman without talent is virtue", which cut off the communication between young men and women and made normal love between men and women impossible.
Pairing skills
Matchmaking should also have skills. It is necessary to be familiar with the actual family situation of both men and women, and to make every effort to propose marriage. It is also necessary to accurately reflect each other's situation to both men and women and their parents, and to suppress evil and promote good as much as possible, so that both sides can fully understand each other's strengths and are willing to reach a marriage agreement.
In other words, if you want Niu Yi to be a matchmaker, you should be diligent in running errands. From the day you start to match men and women, you should always go back and forth between men and women, exchange information, convey each other's wishes and demands, and prevent unexpected changes. Traditionally, both men and women have the obligation to entertain the matchmaker, so there is a saying that "coal is used for every meal".
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