Rural people habitually believe that the six relatives refer to close relatives such as father, mother, brothers and sisters, wife, uncles and aunts, uncles and aunts. The connotations of the "six relatives" in the past dynasties are different, but they are all close relatives who have blood ties and marriage ties that break the bones and connect the tendons.
The separation of relatives when a person is poor can be interpreted from three different aspects:
01 From the perspective of the poor themselves, the old saying in rural areas that "the family is cut off when a person is poor" is related to "the poor do not leave relatives". The beauty of different tunes but the same tune.
Some poor people are poor and strong-willed, and do not want their rich relatives to think that they come to them because they hope that their rich relatives will help them and they are seeking help from their rich relatives. Therefore, the poor never take the initiative to visit relatives and friends; some will Because the exchange of favors with rich relatives is like a saw, I am not as embarrassed as others when collecting money, and I am embarrassed to associate with rich relatives.
Some people have an inferiority complex and always feel that their rich relatives will look down on them. They are afraid of being looked down upon. They also always think that they are inferior and inferior to others and are afraid of being shabby. Even if their rich relatives come to visit them, When we meet, we always ask and answer each other, and some of them rarely even talk to each other. They always sit in the corner and say nothing. This situation makes people feel that it is better not to meet each other, so they are reluctant to move around and do not interact with each other for a long time. The feelings between relatives are getting weaker and weaker, and this relationship is gradually forgotten.
02 "A person who is poor is cut off from all his relatives" is also a manifestation of the coldness of the world. It is somewhat similar to the saying in "Zengguang Xianwen" that "if you are poor in the downtown area, no one cares about you, but if you are rich in the mountains, you have distant relatives."
Some wealthy relatives really do not want to associate with poor relatives because they are afraid that they will not be able to support them. Putting their own interests first, they feel that the poor have no value and are unwilling to interact with them. They are also afraid that they will stick to them and borrow money from them again and again, so they adopt an attitude of avoiding them. The poor see that Their attitude has already made their hearts cold and cold, and they have stopped communicating with relatives.
03 There is another situation, that is, there is a kind of poor relative who is really never satisfied.
Using a kind of moral kidnapping method, he feels that his rich relatives should help him of course, and he confidently asks for money from his rich relatives, and never mentions repaying the money. Such poor people either borrow money or find jobs, and sometimes they stay at relatives' homes, affecting other people's normal married life and making the two relatives very unhappy. In the end, the rich relatives had no choice but to break up and issue an ultimatum. So it really became "a man is cut off from all his relatives when he is poor".
An old saying in rural areas: When a person is poor, he loses all six relatives, which refers to the closest relatives such as father, mother, brothers and sisters, wife, uncles and aunts, uncles and aunts.