But to tell the truth, even now that we are married, we try our best to be filial to our parents, but my mother-in-law's thoughts are still a little different from ours, and sometimes she will say a lot of ugly words in front of me, such as that it is glorious for someone's daughter-in-law to give birth to them before marriage, and that someone's daughter-in-law took the man before marriage and didn't want anything after marriage. These words are very harsh to me as a newly married daughter-in-law. Even so, I didn't talk back to her, but my husband couldn't stand it, so he sometimes quarreled with her, and he tried to communicate with my father-in-law to make him more considerate of us. In my father's words, it is not easy for parents to bring up their children, even if they are wrong. The same sentence, when communicating with my father-in-law, I also gave it to my father-in-law, and he understood it. I can only say that my in-laws didn't give birth to us after all, and it's normal to have differences with our thoughts. I believe that time will make us get used to each other better.
In the final analysis, the most important thing is your future husband's attitude towards you. Of course, in advance, you try your best to treat his parents as your own parents. He has no reason to criticize you any more and will naturally help you. Otherwise, it's up to you to sort out his problems first and make him understand you. In this way, even if the eight characters of two people are really bad, he will stand on your side and fight with his parents. Similarly, only when two people's hearts are towards each other can they create your own future together. If he insists on not understanding you, he should choose again while he is young.