Many people may not be familiar with the concepts of physiognomy, physiognomy, or people observation. In fact, in layman's terms, the art of observing people in physiognomy is to observe a person's character and character through his words and deeds. It is a little different from physiognomy. The purpose of physiognomy is more focused on predicting a person's good or bad fortune through "looks" (face, palm, bone, etc.). The focus of the art of observing people is to observe and appreciate the character of the person.
Jiangnan Yilin did not deliberately learn the art of observing people at first. It was just because of the living environment when he was a child that he was good at observing words and colors since he was a child. The most typical thing is that TV was not widely available in elementary school, so I often had to go to other people’s homes to watch TV. Of course, there is no more freedom in other people's homes than in one's own. Sometimes people are going to bed, or they are unhappy, and they usually don't say it openly, but the young Jiangnan Yilin is often quick to understand the implication of adults' words. This may also be regarded as a kind of endowment.
When I was in college, I read similar books, some written by modern people, and some ancient ones, such as "Bing Jian" by Zeng Guofan.
In recent years, Jiangnan Yilin has gradually formed his own system of observing people after combining traditional physiognomy and modern related theoretical systems. If Jiangnan Yilin can get along with a person for even half an hour, For example, if you play cards together, have a drink, or take Jiangnan Yilin to his/her room, Jiangnan Yilin can basically tell the person's general personality, preferences and character.
When I am on the street, I like to look at the people coming and going, their faces, the expressions on their faces, and their walking postures. . . The same goes for watching TV, especially documentary programs such as Legal Online. Jiangnan Yilin is often very interested in those real people. For example, for criminals, Jiangnan Yilin will observe their words and deeds to verify their character. Evil people have a vicious appearance, and blessed people have a blessed attitude. Jiangnan Yilin is very interested in these things that people usually don't pay much attention to, and can often see a lot of things.
Friends and netizens often send photos to Jiangnan Yilin. Jiangnan Yilin can roughly tell his personality through the photos. Although each photo is different, some Things cannot be changed. People have different charms in different periods, such as eyes. No one can disguise their eyes.
Jiangnan Yilin said this not to be mysterious or to show off, but to illustrate an important truth: Pay attention and learn everywhere! A lot of wisdom comes from life, after all, everything in books is dead. 1. The method of observing people with six relatives
Jiangnan Yi Lin first talked about the most common method of observing people that developed very early: "The method of observing people with six relatives".
In horoscopes, there is also the concept of six relatives. The so-called six relatives refer to nothing more than father, mother, elder brother, younger brother, wife, and son. You comprehensively evaluate a person's personality through his attitude towards his parents, brothers, wife, children and friends. The focus is on how he gets along with his six relatives and whether his words and deeds are consistent. But this method also has drawbacks. For example, a ruffian or a traitor may also be a filial son or a kind father. A good comrade whom everyone praises at work may be a tyrant at home.
Jiangnan Yilin was also confused about this. Later, when Jiangnan Yilin was studying the theory of Western novels, he suddenly understood and integrated it through the methods of character creation in classics. Comprehension involves the art of observing people. This method is of great benefit whether you read novels, watch TV, make friends in real life, or create characters in novels. Now Jiangnan Yilin will share this truth he has realized, hoping to inspire others. Any similarity is purely coincidental. Jiangnan Yilin believes that there may be people who know this writing theory, but there are probably very few people who consciously apply it to the art of observing people. At least Jiangnan Yilin has not seen any modern person say this. 2. Three-Dimensional Observation of People
In order to conveniently call this theory, we might as well call it "Three-Dimensional Observation of People". Which three dimensions specifically? The so-called three-dimensional is actually three levels.
The first dimension: the social level, you look at how this person gets along with his leaders, colleagues, partners or competitors, what he says, how he acts, and whether his words and deeds are consistent.
The second dimension: the family level, is actually the six-parent method of observing people. Focus on how he treats his parents, brothers, wife, children and friends, and see what he says and does, and whether his words and deeds are consistent.
The third dimension: the personal level, is actually to see what he likes and does when he is alone. Because no matter what kind of person he is, when he faces himself alone, he is often completely exposed and undisguised. Of course, the kind of person who lies in his secret diary or puts on a show when he is alone is definitely an anomaly.
Of course, the points mentioned above are just an outline or three guidelines. As for the specific details, due to space limitations, we will not elaborate too much. When looking at people, it is very important to be objective and not be fooled by superficial phenomena and personal emotions.
In fact, we all may often have this feeling. For your friends, you can often sum up his personality in one sentence or a few words, but for the people you are most familiar with, such as Parents or spouses often cannot see clearly and find it difficult to summarize in one sentence or a few words. This may be because we know them too well, are too familiar with them, and know too many details, but they are vague.
If you are a writer and you can express a person from the above three aspects, then Jiangnan Yilin thinks this person should be more plump and three-dimensional. The same is true if you are watching TV or a movie. You can examine a person in three dimensions. Because on TV, we can even hear the protagonist talking to himself. In real life, it is relatively difficult to understand the personal aspects of others. However, he will often reveal this information unintentionally in his words and deeds, or if you have the chance to visit the other person's dormitory or bedroom, everything will be exposed.
Of course, learning how to observe people well, like physiognomy and fortune-telling, all requires talent, especially related to the personality of the learner. Many things can only be understood but cannot be expressed in words. Some people are self-taught in the art of observing people. Some people may have been with another person for several years and cannot tell what kind of person the other person is. This may be due to a lack of observation skills, and secondly, a lack of generalization ability.
You might as well give it a try according to the method Jiangnan Yilin said. When making friends, getting married, or serving as an official, you must choose the right person!