How to correctly choose an auspicious time and auspicious day for marriage
How to correctly choose an auspicious time and auspicious day for marriage. The wedding day is very important. In Chinese tradition, great importance is attached to weddings. Yes, weddings are usually held on a date based on the couple’s birthdays, so how should we correctly choose the auspicious time and day for the wedding? Let’s take a look below.
How to correctly choose an auspicious time and day for marriage 1
1. Choosing an auspicious day for marriage
Look at the choice of marriage from the "big profit month" and "little profit month" On the day of marriage, from the perspective of "the lucky month of a girl's destiny to marry", when choosing a wedding date, you must first consider the month of marriage.
Each zodiac sign has two "big profit months" and two "small profit months" in a year.
The mantra of "Big Lucky Moon" is:
Right, seven welcomes chickens and rabbits, two, eight tigers and monkeys, three, nine snakes and pigs, four, ten dragons and dogs, In May and November, cattle and sheep appear, while in June and December, rats and horses appear.
The mantra of "Little Profit Moon" is:
The right and seventh days welcome the dragon and dog, the second and eighth oxen and sheep walk, the third and ninth rats and horses walk, and the fourth and tenth roosters and rabbits welcome Tigers and monkeys appear in May and November, while snakes and pigs appear in June and December.
In order to bring good luck, people often use the "big profit month". If the marriage cannot be consummated for some reason during the "big profit month", you can also search in the "little profit month".
2. The date of marriage should be chosen based on the woman’s birth date.
The date should be chosen based on the woman’s birth date. One principle for choosing a date is to focus on the bride’s birth date and refer to the birth dates of the groom and others. As the saying goes: "A son depends on the day when he is born, and a girl depends on the day of marriage." This shows the importance of the woman's choice of date. If this principle is reversed or ignored, it will lead to marital problems or even divorce. Couples must not ignore it.
3. It is advisable to choose a leap month in a leap year for an auspicious wedding day
Chinese people attach great importance to the choice of wedding date, and are very particular about the theory of "leap month" and "leap year". When choosing an auspicious day for marriage, it is best to choose a year with a leap month, as it will bring good omens. Of course, if there are no "leap months" or "leap years" in that year, there is no need to force it. Note that "leap year" can be divided into solar calendar and lunar calendar.
4. On auspicious days for marriage, you must avoid those unfavorable days
As the saying goes, "On the fifth, fourteenth and twenty-third of the lunar month, a poor-mouthed mouse will not leave the nunnery", so every The fifth, fourteenth and twenty-third of the month are generally not suitable as auspicious days for weddings. Avoid March, July and September of the lunar calendar. It is best to avoid choosing auspicious dates in March, July and September of the lunar calendar, because these three months coincide with the "Qingming", "Olan" and "Chonggong" respectively, which are traditional "ghost festivals" and are not suitable to be held. happy event.
5. Avoid the Sanniang evil spirit on auspicious days for marriage
According to legend, Yue Lao did not hold the red string for Sanniang, so she could not get married. Out of revenge, Sanniang goes against Yue Lao and specializes in destroying the couple's happy event. Therefore, it is not suitable to get married on the Sanniang evil day of each month, namely the third, seventh, thirteenth, eighteenth, twenty-second and twenty-seventh day of the month.
6. The auspicious date for marriage must avoid the birthday of parents
In traditional numerology, the birthday of parents should not be the same as the auspicious date for marriage, that is, it is not suitable to get married on the day of parents’ birthday.
7. The date of the wedding ceremony should be the main one.
If you decide to separate the dates of registration and wedding ceremony, it is best to choose dates on these two days. If you have to choose, you should choose to hold it on an auspicious day based on the traditional etiquette of welcoming the bride and serving wine, because Chinese tradition always regards this day as the real wedding day. How to correctly choose an auspicious time and auspicious day for marriage 2
1. Does the date of marriage have to depend on the date?
Good times and auspicious days are sometimes collectively called auspicious days of the zodiac, which are very important in traditional Chinese numerology. It uses the six constellations of Qinglong, Mingtang, Jingui, Tiande, Yutang, and Siming as coordinates to determine the misfortunes and blessings in a day. Unless the six constellations appear on the same day, everything will be done. Suitable for all, do not avoid bad luck.
In the traditional Chinese feudal society, children must choose a good and auspicious day to get married. Not only that, the birth dates and facial zodiac animals need to be matched one by one to ensure that there is no conflict. When it comes to getting married, society today still retains the habit of choosing a good time and auspicious day to get married, but is this still necessary?
If we take China’s feudal era as an example, a series of marriage arrangements have a strong sense of superiority and inferiority. They are an extension of the ancient background of three obediences and four virtues, and are of course necessary. Nowadays, some parents still attach great importance to such procedures and set an auspicious day after being matched by a fortune teller. However, both men and women are busy with official duties on this day. If the time passes, it will be delayed for a long time. The woman's parents insist on They got married on the same day. For this reason, the children and their parents refused to give in to each other, making this beautiful ceremony uneasy and wanting to stop it.
Contradictions like this are actually completely unnecessary today, because the necessity of a whole set of activities in ancient times was based on a huge survival background, and obviously today's society has already changed There has been a fundamental change. Nowadays, choosing auspiciousness is more about seeking luck and adding to the joy in the heart.
But having said that, as a traditional culture and custom, it is not unreasonable to choose auspicious weddings. If you ignore it completely, it is very easy to fall into disaster. Eight-character numerology and Feng Shui are a way for the ancients to understand the relationship between the natural world and oneself. After a long period of observation and summary, a set of theories about the influence of weather on human beings was derived. This is what we call the choice of good and auspicious days. The key is to make a rainy day plan for a happy marriage if the horoscopes are not the same or the timing is wrong. If you can understand this, you may wish to further understand some elements of choosing auspiciousness for marriage, and maybe it can open another window for everyone's view of marriage.
2. How to get married according to the date
First of all, in the ancient law of auspicious selection principles, priority is given to the woman. Although the reason is the consciousness that men are superior to women, it seems to be a very humane example today. There is a saying that "A son depends on the year when he is born, and a girl depends on the year when she gets married." It means that a woman's marriage is important to her life. Therefore, when choosing an auspicious time to get married, you should put the woman's horoscope first, which is the starting point for a happy marriage.
Secondly, try to avoid unlucky times. Since you are planning a big event, of course you cannot choose some unlucky and cold times, such as March, July, and September of the lunar calendar, which correspond to Qingming, Yulan and Chonggong respectively, which are not suitable for happy events. At the same time, you should not choose the time when your parents have passed away. The monthly node is easy to cause trouble.
Thirdly, it is better to choose a pair of auspicious things than just one. Couples naturally need to be in pairs when they get married, and the same goes for choosing a date.
Understand your own horoscope
Usually we think that the zodiac sign does not match, that is, the horoscope does not match. In the traditional horoscope, the zodiac sign is only one of them, so the incompatibility of the zodiac sign only represents one of them. First, personal affiliation does not play a decisive role in marriage. Analyze and understand the horoscopes of both parties, see whether they are compatible or not, and choose auspicious days and auspicious times. If both men and women combine with the auspicious days, they will have a happy marriage and prosperous children and grandchildren.
Listen to the opinions of your elders
When your children start a family and start a business, the elders in the family will definitely care more than anyone else, so the newlyweds must discuss more with the elders in the family and respect their ideas. Make decisions together again.
3. Selection of an auspicious wedding day
Emotions as the foundation The only thing that works is not because a certain "good day" will lead to a good life, so don't be too obsessed with "auspicious days".
Make the choice mainly based on the bride’s date of birth
As the saying goes: “A son depends on the time of birth, and a girl depends on the year of marriage.” If this principle is reversed or ignored, it will lead to marital problems after marriage. It is best to choose the wedding day in the woman's wedding month. It is best for the man to listen to the woman's opinions as much as possible and avoid the woman's menstrual period on the day of marriage. But at the same time, the opinions of other people (especially the father-in-law, mother-in-law, and groom) should also be taken seriously. After all, it is related to the future happiness and harmony of the family.
Choose a day when both parties are healthy
It is best to hold the wedding on a day when both parties are healthy, otherwise it will not only affect the harmony of the new life, but also aggravate the condition. It is necessary to avoid the busy periods of study and work for both parties, and arrange the wedding and honeymoon schedule in advance. Discuss the day on which the wedding will be held, and inform the parents of both parties in advance to ensure that when the wedding takes place, the elderly in the family, relatives and friends can attend the wedding and enjoy a festive and harmonious scene.