But often this girl is not necessarily what you like.
Therefore, it is not important to take off the bill, what is important is how to take off the bill with the girl you like!
1. Psychological construction
In fact, no matter what you do, mental state construction must be the first.
This thing is like the internal skill of a peerless master, with profound skill and full power with one punch and one palm; No matter how powerful the martial arts cheats are and how many skills are taught to you, you won't need them. On the contrary, you may be possessed.
I feel that I am not good-looking, so I can't catch up with girls.
In this world, it is a single and one-sided view to attribute failure to one problem without exception.
Not tall and handsome, so no girls like it?
In a word, with the emotional intelligence and efforts of contemporary young people, it is far from the point of fighting for value.
The biggest fear is that you are not tall or handsome, you are still straight, you still don't tidy up, you are still addicted to games, you still don't read books to learn skills, you still don't believe in sunshine, and you still smoke and drink and stay up late.
Finally, the pursuit of girls was rejected, secretly saying: bah, sure enough, women are creatures who look at their faces.
In fact, according to evolutionary psychology, men are the creatures who really look at faces. Because of the different division of labor in primitive society, men provide survival value and women provide reproduction value.
Therefore, the attraction switch derived from men and women is: men are more attracted to women's looks and bodies; On the other hand, women are more easily attracted by men's status and wealth.
That's why we think it's acceptable for a rich woman with a big belly to hug a beautiful young woman, but it's strange for a rich woman with a bad complexion to surround several young men.
So don't immerse yourself in inferiority and escape from reality. It is up to you to see your parents before the age of 25.
Appearance and figure are also part of the effort, and I will write in detail how to greatly improve my image in later articles.
Here is a book recommended by Bai, called Inferiority and Transcendence.
After reading it, you will find that inferiority is actually a kind of wealth and strength. Face it positively, use it, and it will make you better.
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3. Take girls too seriously
If you treat a girl as the "right girl" in the process of pursuing her, she will never marry in her life. Then there's a 99% chance that you won't catch up with this girl.
Why? Not only people, no matter what, as long as you take ta too seriously, you will be swayed by considerations of gain and loss.
Be careful when chatting, for fear of saying a wrong sentence or typing a wrong word; When the other party doesn't reply to the message for a period of time, it becomes restless. Finally, a message was sent to the girls, which completely exposed the sense of demand and greatly reduced their sense of value.
Women need men to lead them. Once a woman thinks that this man's shelf is lower than her and that you have been eaten by her, then you will lose the unique leadership temperament and charm of a man, which is precisely the place where men attract women most.
Many men are also ordinary, but there are always women who say he is handsome and manly. This kind of masculinity is actually his leadership temperament.
When we pursue a girl, it is inevitable that we will take her too seriously, which is a psychological necessity. To overcome this mentality, you can choose to cast a wide net and chat with several girls at the same time, so that even if one or two feedback is not good, you will not be flustered because you have other choices.
Some people may say that this is not scum? What I want to say is that it's not scum to contact multiple girls before catching up with them. Scum is to catch up with girls and cheat P to run away, and then find the next prey by himself.
Catch up with the girl you like with skills, then be nice to her and give her a future and dependence. How can it be counted as scum? Those who say PUA are even worse. I just want to say that the poison is not the ability, but some people with ulterior motives.
4. Shape construction and value display
Maybe you really have a profound connotation and a good upbringing, but you are sloppy, and other girls have no reason and obligation to dig your "gold".
Although it is said that women value men's survival more, it doesn't mean that people don't look at their faces.
And your face and figure largely represent your self-discipline. After all, it takes effort to have a clean face and a well-proportioned figure.
There are really no ugly men in the world, only lazy men.
If you insist on the following 6 o'clock every day and haven't taken off the bill after half a year, come to me.
1. A glass of warm water every morning won't budge.
This is an invincible super good habit. Sleeping all night, in fact, the human body is in a state of water shortage. A cup of boiling water with a suitable temperature can help you accelerate the circulation in your body, activate your body functions quickly, and is also conducive to the discharge of stool.
I have to say that this seemingly inconspicuous good habit will definitely help you become handsome!
2. Fitness.
To be honest, you don't have to go to the gym to keep fit.
I just do three groups of push-ups at home every day, 30 in each group.
It is worth reminding that physical fitness is the most important thing. Doing 100 a day is far worse than doing it every day.
Anyway, being brawny really adds points.
3. hairstyle.
Needless to say, a good hairstyle is really equivalent to going to Korea for plastic surgery.
Look at my previous hairstyle. It's 15 hair on the edge of the community. Now I will choose a high-end beauty shop for a haircut, which is only 50 or 60 yuan.
They will give appropriate advice and cut the hairstyle that suits you best.
After changing his hairstyle, this greasy middle-aged man became charming and mature.
If it's too expensive, you can take a photo after going there once, and then go to a general barber shop for a haircut according to this requirement. As long as you can say what hairstyle you want, they can still cut it.
4. clothes.
Men don't need to buy many beautiful clothes in the closet like women.
The eight-character motto for men to buy clothes is "good quality, expensive price".
Yes, it's the kind that is expensive and of good quality at first sight.
Remember that woman's attraction switch mentioned earlier? A high-quality dress can really win the favor of girls to a certain extent.
So instead of buying a bunch of "bargains", it is better to buy a high-end dress. At the same time, boys should wear clothes as simply as possible, and the whole body color should not exceed three.
Good clothes even directly determine your painting style!
5. Skin care.
Boys also need skin care! Boys also need skin care! Boys also need skin care!
The important thing is said three times, many straight men think that skin care is a girl's business, and boys do it as a mother's performance. Anyway, the boys who care for skin have found beautiful girls, and I feel that my mother is still struggling to pursue it ~
In fact, boys' skin care doesn't need to be as complicated as girls' bottles. Just do a good job of basic cleaning, hydrating and sun protection, and don't even need to apply a mask.
You still have to choose a product, which can be found everywhere in Zhihu, depending on whether you are willing to do it.
The skin is better, and the face value is also rising.
6. study.
Reading a good book not only helps to improve one's opinion and listening, but also sublimes one's temperament imperceptibly.
In today's society, fewer and fewer people are studying, but it is an opportunity to "overtake in a corner".
If you really can't understand paper books, you can also listen to them. Like me, I can't calm down at first, and I feel anxious after reading a few pages. Later, after listening to Reading by Fan Deng for a year, the whole person's perspective on the world and the way of treating people have settled down a lot. This sense of maturity will also bring good feelings to my sister.
With the above foundation, isn't it easy to show value?
Sit in Starbucks, take a book and find a better angle to pose; When exercising, take a small video and feel your efforts and achievements; Go out to play, shoot concave shapes, shoot your own clothes and fashion.
As long as you insist on the above things, I'm really not afraid of girls not coming. I used to be a diaosi who was not favored by girls. Now my trouble has become choosing a girlfriend.
All talk and no practice, let's do it, brothers!
5. You can chat
If you want a boy to like you, you choose to work with him; If you want a girl to like you, you should talk to her more.
This is the difference in thinking between men and women, which shows how important it is to chat with girls.
Some people say that girls don't chat with us at all, or just reply "hmm" and "oh", and there is no way to chat at all.
If you encounter such a situation, either consider that your value display is not in place and it is not attractive enough for girls; Either you are chasing the wrong person, that is to say, you have tried your best, but this girl is still higher than you. It is the wisest choice to give up at this time and turn to other goals.
When a boy comes into contact with a girl, it must be the dominant topic. Don't expect girls to take the initiative to open the topic. What you have to do is to make the girls answer easily, not coldly.
Next, I'll teach you some ways to make girls fall in love with you through chatting.
① Cold reading method
This technique is very suitable for when we first met girls. Generally speaking, at the beginning, many boys like to "check their hukou", such as asking questions like "Where are you from", "How old are you" and "Where did you graduate".
We really need to get these basic information, but it is easy to arouse girls' disgust with such questions. Here we might as well try the "cold reading" technology.
What is "cold reading"? To put it bluntly, it is speculation.
For example, if we want to know where girls come from, we can ask, "You must be from the south!" " " .
This will easily arouse a girl's appetite, and she will naturally be interested in what you put forward this question based on, and the topic will naturally extend.
If the paragraph is higher, you can directly ask, "Look at your white skin, you must be from the south!"
Praise a girl naturally, so it is easy for her to have a good impression on you and get the information she wants at the same time.
② "Our Expression"
According to the intimacy between people, conversation can be divided into several wonderful levels. They are as follows:
The first level: platitudes. (Example: It's a beautiful day today)
The second layer: facts. (Example: It has been several days in a row)
The third level: the problem of feeling and personalization. (Example: I like this weather very much)
The fourth level: the expression of "we". Example: In such fine weather, we really should go out to play together.
Generally speaking, in the early days of love, people often feel that it is not time to say "we". But when smart men use "our expression" in advance, the right person will subconsciously feel that the two have become much closer.
(3) reversal-causing her mood swings.
If you want a girl to like you, there is only one thing you have to do: arouse her mood swings.
When I was not with my girlfriend, she asked me to evaluate my impression of her in one sentence.
The average boy would say:
"Beautiful and lovely, gentle and kind."
"It's cold when you're unfamiliar, and then you're interesting when you get to know it."
"Humorous and humorous, with a positive attitude towards life."
There is nothing wrong with these, but they are wrong, meaningless and not brilliant.
So I said, "There is a plain life hidden under the good-looking appearance, and there is a stunning soul hidden in the plain life."
① From "good-looking" to "average" and then to "stunning", several reversals can make girls feel emotional fluctuations.
The word "hidden" means that I know her better than most people.
3 "fright" is used to enhance the depth of perception.
One of my daily coquettish operations, smart people will extract the essence, and draw inferences from others. People who are not so smart will only copy it and use it.
There used to be a popular saying on the Internet: Some people would rather suffer the hardships of life than study.
This sentence also applies to feelings: some people would rather endure the pain of love than learn how to have love.
I hope you study hard, get rid of the pain of lovesickness as soon as possible and win the favor of the goddess.