Asking for names is the second ritual among the six rituals of ancient wedding customs. That is, the man sends a matchmaker to the woman's house to ask her for her name, date of birth and horoscope. After getting back the Geng Tie, the fortune teller will combine the horoscope and the auspicious sign. It is also said that asking for the name means that the man sends an envoy to ask the woman the surname of her biological mother in order to distinguish the legitimate concubines. Later, the scope of the name expanded to include family status, position, property, appearance, health and other aspects. You also need to bring a gift when asking for your name, usually using a wild goose.
The second of six ancient Chinese wedding rituals. Said: ?Ask for the name: Those who ask for the name will predict their good or bad luck. "Book of Rites" Fang Shi's Notes also says: "Those who ask about a girl's name should also ask about a girl's mother's surname." ?When asked about his name, use wild goose as a gift for Zhi Jian. "Bai Hu Tong" Volume 4 "Marriage" says: "Nacai, asking for names, Naji, asking for an appointment, personally welcoming, with wild geese." Na Zheng said Xuan Qi, so Yan Zhi was not used. ?
After the groom’s family performs the wedding ceremony, they ask the matchmaker to ask the woman’s name, date and time of birth, so that the groom’s family can decide whether to get married or not, and how good or bad the marriage will be. Some people think that asking for the name means that the man sends an envoy to ask the woman for her biological mother's surname in order to distinguish the legitimate concubines. Later, the scope of the name expanded to include family status, position, property, appearance, health and other aspects. You also need to bring a gift when asking for your name, usually using a wild goose. Ethnic minorities in Guangdong, Hainan and southwest my country often use betel nut as a gift when asking for names. The woman's Gengtie and the man's birth date were divined to make sure they were ready for marriage before performing the Naji ceremony.
"Etiquette: Scholars' Fainting Ceremony": The guest holds the goose, please ask for his name; the master agrees, and the guest enters the ceremony. ?Zheng Xuan's note: ?Those who ask about their names will be able to predict their good or bad luck. ?Jia Gongyanshu: ?If you ask for a name, ask for the girl's surname. ? During the Eastern Han, Wei and Jin Dynasties, affected by the war-torn environment at that time, many people got married in a hurry and were not prepared for the six etiquettes. Naturally, the etiquette of asking for names was not performed. Du You's "Tongdian" said: "Since the Eastern Han, Wei and Jin Dynasties, times have been difficult and dangerous, good luck has occurred at every age, and people are eager to get married, so they have given up all the six rites." After the Sui and Tang Dynasties, the "Six Rites" also became popular among the bureaucrats and wealthy merchants. "History of the Song Dynasty" stipulates the etiquette system of the Song Dynasty: at the wedding of scholars and common people, they should ask for their names in Nacai and ask for an appointment at Nazheng. In the Song Dynasty, the etiquette and custom of asking for a name was also called "tie arm". "Xinbianshi Wenleiju Hanmo Quanshu B Collection 4" says: There were six wedding rituals in ancient times, and the wedding rituals in Wen Gong's family were kept simple. Since the marriage was proposed, on the first day I accepted the money and asked for my name; on the second day after I received the money, I asked for my name; and on the next day I welcomed him in person. The acceptance of money is the present tie-up, the payment of coins is the present appointment, the invitation is the present reminder, and the wedding is complete when the person arrives. ?From the phrase "asking for the name, that is, tying the arms", we can know that during the Song Dynasty, the engagement arm may be tied with yarn to show that the two parties were married. It can be said that a marriage of a thousand miles is held together by a thread.
?In modern times, the ritual of asking for names has been merged with nacai, and its common name is "fa matchmaking". Volume 7 of the first volume of Hu Puan's "China National Customs Chronicles" "Shaanxi Etiquette Xianyang County Chronicles" contains: When asked about the name, the county custom is similar to the matchmaker. Gai first communicated, and then the master informed the temple and prepared a banquet. The matchmaker uses geese to go to the female family. If Yangjiu gave a speech, the hostess also told the temple to reply. There is a letter, each with a male and female name, date of birth.
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