one day, you will be ecstatic when you finally get what you dream of. But it was only a short-term joy. After the joy, your heart will be a little melancholy, and you think that what you get is nothing more than that. You even regret it a little. Why did you want it when you were dying to live?
If you can't get it, it will arouse your desire to struggle. You always feel that there is a goal waving to you far away, and you are always full of expectations and fantasies.
What you can't get is always the best, because if you don't get it, you can't get in touch with it at zero distance, you won't see through its advantages and disadvantages, and you will feel that it is a perfect thing, a rare treasure, the best among people, but ~ ~
For what you can't get, you think it is always the best. Of course, the same is true for love that can't be obtained.
we always fantasize about its beauty. Because it always stands in your distance. I have some vague feelings about you. Maybe that's the so-called beauty of feeling. Is not true. In fact, if you really get it, the other person's love is strong and you are not lucky enough to enjoy it! It's not a good result in the end!
Most people don't appreciate the goodness of others. Since they don't cherish it, why should they stay in their hands? If they don't love it, why don't they let others seek happiness? If they don't cherish it, it shows that they are out of step and don't complement each other. Instead of being competitive, you can't cherish it if you like it. It's better to let go of your personality, study hard and settle yourself so that time and love are not discarded at will. It's not easy for people to come to life. No matter what happens, you should think of others and do more things for others. You will not be so narrow-minded, so you must cherish it when you get it, and you must discard other small thoughts.
The reason lies in the gap in your heart. When you don't have it, you are eager to get it, and you will fantasize about how good it is. When you actually get it, you find that it is too different from the ideal, which leads to imbalance in your heart and feels that you deserve better. But once you lose it, look around and find that there is no better one at all, or even no worse one, you will feel remorse. There are many similar scenes in life, which are essentially caused by greed. I always think that I deserve better, but I don't look at my virtue.
Nine don't understand:
1. If you don't know how to cherish, you won't be happy when you are guarding the golden mountain.
2. If you don't know tolerance, no matter how many friends will leave.
3. If you don't know gratitude, no matter how good you are, it will be difficult to succeed.
4. No matter how clever you are, you can't make a dream come true.
5. If you don't know how to cooperate, it will be difficult to achieve success no matter how hard you work.
6. If you don't know how to accumulate, it's hard to be rich again.
7. No matter how rich you are, you can't be happy if you don't know how to be satisfied.
8. If you don't know how to keep in good health, you can't live long after treatment.
9. If you don't understand life, the longer you live, the more boring you will be.
In fact, this is a situation that most people encounter. Men and women are the same, regardless of their feelings. This is caused by a psychological factor. Husband and wife, lovers, whatever they get, are satisfied, and they always feel that they will wave their hands and don't cherish it. When they lose it one day, they will always regret it. Just like our lives, no one knows which will come first, tomorrow or accident. We always feel that there will be today. Actually, maybe we have no tomorrow after today, and time is the same for everyone. We don't cherish it when we get it, but regret it when we lose it, especially when it comes to couples and lovers. Maybe we will meet people we particularly like, and they are congenial, two of a kind, but when we get along, we will inevitably have differences because of their respective personalities and tempers, and then there will be contradictions. After a long time, we will have estrangements and even break up, and finally part ways. People are an independent body, and everyone wants to change each other, instead of thinking about adapting to each other and changing themselves. Therefore, there will definitely be friction when people get along with each other, but this is not a reason for separation, unless there is a big problem of principle. To put it bluntly, this is a common psychological problem that we face together. We will regret it if we don't cherish it, so we must face up to this problem, straighten our mentality and grasp it well.
I am too narcissistic, and I feel that I am charming. I can't stand the casual praise of others. After I get it, I feel that I can be better. After I lose it, I feel unwilling, and my heart is not enough. Greedy people often lose more. As the saying goes, the happiest thing in life is that an ugly wife is rotten and her cotton-padded jacket is broken. If her family doesn't care about her, she will come back when she goes out. No matter how rotten the field is, some people will eat and break her cotton-padded jacket. Haha, cherish the present!
there are two possibilities, one is slag, and the other is hindsight. Slag is that when you have it, you don't take your feelings seriously. When you break up, you regret it and feel a little unwilling. In hindsight, I didn't feel much when I was together, but I didn't know how much I cared about him or her until I was separated. So you will not cherish it at first, and you will regret it when you lose it. Mature people understand the coexistence of rationality and sensibility, and know the degree of mastery, but it also has a lot to do with the individual. It may be young and ignorant, it may be caused by personality, it may be psychological factors and so on. It varies from person to person
First of all, I'm really curious. Why do you want to ask this question? After reading your question, I feel like describing me.
I am also very confused about this question. No matter when I was a child or now, I really want to cherish it, but I can't.
Although others don't know it, I often feel particularly cold. Although I am happy after I get it, I can soon find out the problems, as if I am not suitable for anyone, but after I leave, I feel it is. This state is mutual, and he will treat you in a better state. Even if someone pretends to be tired, it is worthwhile, because if you don't get it, no one can blame it, but you are willing. If you think like this, you won't feel that the other person has problems, and you are willing to have problems. If you don't cherish it, you won't be so tired.
2, distance produces beauty, not only because you don't get it. You can't observe so many details. When you can't see them, you fill his image through your understanding and imagination. In your heart, whether it is friendship or love, the imaginary image is at least greater than or equal to the real image. You miss him, and it's all your favorite side. When he is not around you, you will feel that you actually like him more and need him more. Invisibly, you put your position in a lower position than him. For more contact, you give him more tolerance and more love. You think you love him more. Because there is no definite relationship with each other, you are more polite and more worried that you may be separated. Of course, novelty is also affecting you
3. If you are not together all the time, or you are not getting it, you will not think about the long-term future. How can you worry about the messy things afterwards? For example, your friend or lover just likes to complain. If there is a problem, he will complain incessantly. Back to the first point, he will definitely not complain as much at first as he did after the relationship was confirmed. What you think about is just what is happening now and you think it is within your tolerance. If you want to be friends and couples for decades, after confirmation, you will enlarge the problem, which is naturally more difficult to accept than before, not as glamorous as the original image, and of course it is easy not to cherish it. Or before, you couldn't imagine what it was like to complain for a long time. You thought you could accept it, but in fact you just didn't know that you couldn't accept it. 4. You saw what you couldn't see. The ugly daughter-in-law always had to see her in-laws, and then she could show her good side and hide her bad side. After being together, the days were longer, and you could always find other shortcomings. Naturally, you felt that it was not as good as before and it was not worth cherishing. < p When you can't get it, you decide whether to cherish it or not. If you feel good, you will continue to work hard. If you don't think about it, you will cherish everything you want. After getting it, it's like a commodity, whether it's a buyer's show or a seller's show. You won't know until the goods arrive. Before that, only you want to buy it. If you don't buy it, don't look. It won't take the initiative to find you. If he takes the initiative to find you, it can only show that you are the commodity. Compared with two people, one is definitely more active and the other is more passive.
In fact, I seldom regret it. Later, I regret that
what I said before about not cherishing is a positive push. After you lose, losing and getting are antonyms. As long as the order is reversed, you can push it back. If you leave someone, the goodwill is definitely greater than or equal to that you are in a certain relationship with someone, except for being madly in love. . . It's very simple. You are at the lowest place on the mountain, where you are higher than here, and you have also experienced the lowest place of affection. No matter how you look at it, it's better. If you change, you will regret it. < P > In fact, this is a situation that most people encounter. Men and women are the same, regardless of their feelings. This is caused by a psychological factor. Whether it's a husband or wife or a lover, it's always bad to wave your hand. There will always be remorse, just like our life. No one knows which comes first, tomorrow or accident. We always feel that there will be tomorrow after today, and the day after tomorrow and the day after tomorrow. Actually, maybe we have no tomorrow after today, and time is the same for everyone. We don't cherish it when we get it, but we regret it when we lose it, especially when it comes to couples and lovers. Maybe we will meet someone we particularly like and get along with each other, two of a kind. It is inevitable that there will be differences because of their respective personalities and tempers, and then there will be contradictions. After a long time, there will be estrangement and even breaking up. In the end, we will go our separate ways. In fact, we are all wrong. Everyone wants to change each other, instead of considering adapting to each other and changing themselves. Therefore, there will definitely be friction when people get along with each other, but this is not a reason for separation, unless there is a big problem of principle. To put it bluntly, this is. It's a common psychological problem. We don't cherish it when we get it, and regret it when we lose it. So we must face up to this problem, straighten our mentality, grasp what we have now and live in the present!
Be swayed by considerations of gain and loss,
Our junior high school biology teacher asked in the first class: Students, what is a person? The students looked blank, and the teacher said, then I'll tell you the answer now. People are bitches.