Marriage:
In the southern part of the country, men and women are arranged to get married, and if the parents of both parties are interested, they first "combine their horoscopes", "blind date", "visit people's homes", and then "get engaged" . In the northern region, the parents first ask a matchmaker or the matchmaker takes the initiative to arrange a marriage for both parties. After both parents think that they are "a good match", the man chooses a day and asks the matchmaker to bring his birthday wallet to the other party to ask for the woman's birth date, that is, the birthday card. , called Tong Cao Tie. The matchmaker presses this cursive note at the foot of the incense burner on the stove. If the bowl is broken within 3 days, it will be rejected and the eight-character note will be returned to the woman. If the man agrees, he will ask a fortune teller to arrange the horoscopes for marriage; if the horoscopes do not match, the matchmaker will ask the matchmaker to return the woman's birth certificate, and the birth month money will not be refunded.
Appointment:
The appointment process in the northern part of the country is relatively complicated. The first is a small appointment. After the eight characters are combined, the man chooses an auspicious day and asks a matchmaker to bring gifts to the appointment. The formal negotiation If it is done properly, you cannot regret it from now on, otherwise it will be regarded as a failure to marry and cause litigation. If the man refuses to marry, the bride price will not be refunded; if the woman refuses to marry, the bride price will be returned and the loss of the wine will be compensated. Xiaoding gifts are usually bracelets, rings, necklaces and other gold and silver jewelry or clothing materials and necessary tea, food and cakes. Then there is the gift giving. Every Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival, and Spring Festival, the man prepares gifts such as fish, meat, cakes, wine, sugar, tea, etc., and gives them to the woman through a matchmaker. The woman will give back half of everything except the meat, and it must be in pairs, and she must also have cakes, which symbolizes "high comes and high goes", which is called "return gift". Then comes the day of sending off. The man chooses an auspicious day and writes the wedding date on a "dragon and phoenix post" to the woman. Along with the post, he sends dragon and phoenix wedding cakes, tea, sugar, dates, fish, meat and a red paper bag requested by the woman. The next step is to carry the dowry. Before the wedding, the man brings a certain amount of wedding gifts to the woman, such as fish, meat, cakes, sugar, rice dumplings and various red paper bags, cigarettes, tea and a "mother return mat". Relatives and friends come to collect dowry. The dowry is only allowed to be carried after the woman is satisfied. Finally, there is a banquet with the matchmaker. On the night before the wedding, the groom will entertain the matchmaker with a banquet of above standard and plan the wedding to go smoothly the next day.