I believe that most people, especially girls, have been taught to be obedient since childhood. They should obediently follow the route designed by their parents. When I was a teenager, I turned a deaf ear to things outside the window and read only sage books. After graduating from college at the age of 22, they went back to their hometown to take an examination of civil servants and found a job with stable income and leisure. After working for a period of time, they can consider finding someone with a stable income and a suitable family. Of course, with the change of policy, there are more practical problems now, such as when to have a second child and when to consider having a third child. Parents tell you that there will be no problems and no big risks in this life, which can protect you from harm and let you live a truly "happy" life. Strictly speaking, this kind of "suggestion" can really help inexperienced young people make plans in advance, avoid risks, correct unformed values and keep them away from bad styles. No problem. But does such a rigid life and such universal values really apply to all people in the society? Perhaps some girls yearn for such a dull, peaceful and happy life, find a suitable person, raise a pair of children and live a "small life" for ordinary people. However, in this era of gradual pursuit of freedom and individual liberation, more women's self-awareness began to awaken. They don't want to suppress their inner real needs and desires, but want to explore a planned life path. Some girls like to travel and pursue extreme sports; Some girls like tattoos and drinking, pursuing maverick, and some girls are independent in spirit. They don't intend to take a penny from home, but want to make a living by themselves and work hard for the future with their own hands, just like most boys. In the eyes of most parents, these girls are disobedient "rebellious girls". Adults will think you're fooling around. It's meaningless. What's the use of taking drugs when you are young? Don't you have to get married and have children, and honestly take a stable life route?
Is that really the case? Are girls who don't want to follow the schedule really fooling around? My answer is no. We were born to be human. From the day we cut the umbilical cord, we left our mother's womb and were alone. Affection, friendship and love are all products given to us by society, and they are the ties to maintain various relationships. We accept their sense of responsibility and mission, but we must take the initiative to make a choice. Only in this way can we control life and time instead of letting life control me. For a simple example, friend A, according to the arrangement of her parents, went to work in an institution in her hometown after graduation and lived a stable life. After working for a year, her parents arranged a blind date for her and finally married an ordinary-looking doctor. Live a husband and wife life after marriage. But she never felt happy. She told me that her husband is very busy and usually very dull. He never expresses his love. Their fields of work do not intersect with each other, and there are few * * * in common language. The only thing involved is the child. But this kind of life is quite different from what she thought. "I'm afraid my life will be so dull." She told me so. Friend B is the opposite of friend A. My friend B is full of vigor and vitality, and his interest has remained unchanged since childhood. Guitar, calligraphy, photography, handicrafts ... are all her strengths. After graduating from college, she didn't go to work in institutions or enterprises like most people, but chose to go to Southeast Asia to be a volunteer in China and do what she likes in a foreign country. After volunteering, she began to travel around the world, traveling around the world with inspiration and meeting the romance in the book. She's still on her way, and she doesn't know where to go home. In this way, she is confident and unobtrusive, beautiful and romantic.
Throughout the ages, even after more ideological emancipation, people still have prejudice against women. It is believed that women should still shoulder the responsibility of having children, taking care of each other and cleaning the housework. Reproduction is the ultimate embodiment of women's value. But everyone has his own ambition, and everyone has his own value appeal in this world. It is not advisable to measure and demand everyone with universal values. Some things, how do you know if you haven't tried them? How do you know that some goals can't be achieved without getting close? No matter what age you are, you must firmly believe that your present life will be the beginning of everything. Always have a childlike innocence and always be young.
Learn to get up early and give yourself a good start. A day's plan lies in the morning, and having morning sunshine is equivalent to having nutrients for a day. Get up early, give yourself a glass of lemonade, give yourself a warm greeting, let a few lines of words soak in five minutes, and let a few meters of sunshine path make your thoughts clear. I believe in getting up early and choosing to broaden my life.
Learn to meditate and let yourself learn to be free. Being born in the world, we are always dragged by worldly desires and all kinds of troubles, unable to move forward happily, truly sticking to our own hearts and taking our own life path. Learn to meditate, let the mood relax and let the soul settle down. Find the detachment and peace of life in one breath, then precipitate yourself and polish yourself seriously.
Learn to travel alone and broaden your horizons. How can a girl be considered to have seen the world? I think only with more experience and knowledge can we broaden our horizons better. Otherwise, it's easy to think that the whole world is in front of us. Therefore, I am trapped in prison, which will only increase my trouble. Traveling more and experiencing the world, nature and humanity will give you answers that you can't find in the boudoir.
So, girl, do you still think the timetable is so important? Can universal values complete your life instead of you? Learn to jump out, learn to listen to your inner voice, and be a woman who makes you satisfied.