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After singing "Song of My Mothers", I was surrounded by two women and got into the sedan chair. Firecrackers went off all the way to my husband's house. It was a routine wedding ceremony.
Once a woman gets married and enters the bridal chamber, her thoughts are different. I don't have to think about everything at home, but I want to know what my husband looks like. What's your personality like? Where are my in-laws and sister-in-law? It's really full of worries. The red candle has burned out for less than half, and only footsteps can be heard. It was the groom who entered the bridal chamber. The two women who sent the bride and groom to the wedding hurried to prepare the wine for the bride and groom. Who thinks things are new? I saw the groom generously handed me the wine in person and said, "Eat the wine, eat the wine I poured, and we will eat together!" " Not only the two ladies were surprised, but I also couldn't help looking at the groom in surprise. After a look, a stone that was originally in my heart suddenly fell down. This man is a handsome young man. He stood in front of me with a smile and a wine in his hand. He is my husband Li Zongren, whom I have entrusted all my life.
After drinking, the husband went out to socialize in the main room. It was not until the red candle burned more than half that he saw him slightly drunk and hurried into the house. After the two women who accompanied me went out, he poured himself a cup of tea, took a sip and handed it to me, saying, "Have some tea, too. You are really tired today. " I just shook my head, but I wasn't shy. I was cheerful and lively since I was a child. Unlike ordinary girls, when I saw my husband in the bridal chamber, I was a little stiff and not embarrassed. I don't think he is like those men in the countryside, but more like a plane scholar.
What's more, he asked me over tea, "Can you read?" I shook my head: "What's the use of literacy if women can't read?" He said, "Be literate! Read! Illiteracy means blindness. You won't see it when I reply later, and you don't know if you have been cheated. I'll teach you! As long as you are willing to learn, the days are long. " These words are like giving me a bowl of liqueur, sweet, warm and hot. At that time, who heard the words that men were willing to let women study, or that newlyweds said in the bridal chamber? After that, I went back to my parents' house and told my sisters about it, all of which were kind words. Everyone says that Li Zongren reads foreign books, which is different from others. I wonder what's new in the future.
Later, my husband became my first teacher. He taught me to read and write the word "Li". He said it was very interesting: Lee was very interesting. You and I are both surnamed Li and can write this word, so it is not difficult to write other words, because the word "Li" is horizontal and vertical, left and right, curved and hooked, with few strokes and complete. He also gave me a name "Xiuwen", saying that two of these three words are similar, and the word "Xiuwen" is very similar to the word "Li", and the word "Wen" is easy to write. In this way, I became both Li Zongren's wife and his student.
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It's a pity that he didn't stay at home for long. When he got married, he had been studying martial arts in Guangxi Army Primary School. I got married during the holiday and then left home after school. Every rest day, he always goes home to have a look. The army primary school is in Guilin, more than 60 miles away from home. Start on the road in the morning and get home after noon. Later, he kept practicing martial arts outside and went home less and less, but he never forgot to let me read and write. Every time he comes back, he asks his father to let us women study.
In February of the 7th year of the Republic of China, I gave birth to a young neighbor in Xinhui. He is the only son of Li Zongren and me. When her husband was in Xinhui, he became a battalion commander and an acting county magistrate. Xinhui county is the hometown of overseas Chinese, which is much more open than Guilin, Guangxi. There are hospitals and midwives specializing in delivery. With a young neighbor, everything is convenient, and my husband also invited a middle-aged woman to take care of my confinement.
My husband is a new character, and he wants to break old habits, so as soon as he heard the baby crying, he hurried into the room. Before the midwife could stop him, he approached my bed, and he didn't go out laughing until he knew that I had given birth to a boy safely. The battalion commander Li's teasing joy came from the battalion headquarters, and the county government also made a lot of noise. At that time, many people came to congratulate him, and her husband was naturally happy to socialize.
When the son was full moon, the father said, let's call this child a little neighbor. I hope he can inherit his stepfather's career.
On the day of the young neighbor's full moon, I thought that many people would come to celebrate, so I naturally invited wine. My husband is also happy and busy all day. On this day, we received many gifts, including golden locks, jade locks, eighteen arhats of the golden Buddha, golden anklets and gold bracelets, all for newborn children. I'm surprised at so many gold gifts. Is it appropriate to give such a heavy gift when you have a baby? The husband smiled and said, "It was inappropriate, but these people have to send it. I have turned down several big gifts, and this time I said Qing Ji was the main student, so I have to accept it. Forget it! Forget it! " Later, I learned that my husband could get rich just by letting go in Xinhui County, but he refused to let go, so he also offended some local gentry and rich families.
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In the winter of 12 years of the Republic of China, the war situation gradually calmed down, and their headquarters in Germany was located in Guiping. When my in-laws learned the news in Shanghai, they suggested that I take my children to Guiping to be sent by one of my uncles. Who knows this, my fate has changed dramatically. It turned out that my husband was introduced in Guiping and married Guo Dejie, and there was another new person on the sofa. What will my status be? When I was in Shanghai, my in-laws received a letter from my German neighbor telling me about it, which naturally made my heart sour. But in the old society, it was not surprising that dignitaries had three wives and four concubines, and my husband also needed personal care. As for me, first, I am not used to official entertainment; Second, it is inconvenient to take children to travel. Therefore, I also think that it is beyond reproach for a husband to marry another woman. My in-laws advocate that I go to Guiping because I feel sorry for me and I am afraid that I will be left out in the cold. I just want to see how my husband treats me before coming to Guiping.
When I arrived at the travel department, my husband was already standing on the steps outside the hall waiting for me. He looked at me without any bad feelings, then smiled and picked up the baby and said, "Ha, my son is so big, how much he looks like Lao Zi!" " The child was five years old at that time, and he seemed to remember that the person holding him was his father. He opened his eyes and looked for a long time before calling his father. The husband kissed his son and asked, "How many days have you been on the road? Did something happen? That year, the civilian ship hit the rocks in Pingle, which really worried me ... "My uncle who sent me immediately came forward to answer them one by one. After that, I was greeted by other servants.
After sitting down in the hall, the husband shouted, "Dejie, come out quickly." After saying his word, a slim and handsome young woman came out. I guess this woman is her husband's new favorite. She nodded, smiled generously at me, turned around and poured me a cup of hot tea. When I took the tea, she took the baby from her husband and held Doby. Who knows that the child is very shy and still stands next to me when he slips down. Guo turns around and goes in. Or the husband said, "I married Sister De to have more social activities outside and take care of me." You're here. Let's be company. Do you like it? "I listened to my husband very easily and calmly. It seems that such a thing is harmless to me, and I can't say anything. Besides, I've never been angry with him, so I said, "OK. "We have met at this point. Looking at Guo's appearance, she knows a lot of manners. I think she's standing and sitting with me, a little guilty. I want to sit down, too, or my husband sits down and says, "Look at you, look at you, family, forget it." Her name is Dejie. She is young and should respect you. In the past two years, you and I have been separated, and many things have been left unattended. Dejie's here. Much better. You should eat less snacks in the future. She is a female student, and she understands reason. If anything happens, just tell her. "Listen to my husband, I can't say anything more, can only be kind.
I am a peasant woman. Although I have a big temper, I can't disobey my husband when I think about it. Besides, my husband speaks well, is virtuous and gentle in front of him, and is cooked with raw rice. What else can he do? What difficulties I worried about all the way suddenly disappeared. My husband was in a good mood and immediately ordered the orderly to set wine for me to welcome the dust, and told me to move my luggage to the left room.
During the dinner, my husband personally poured wine for me to welcome the dust, and Guo also made a toast. In this case, we can only be calm. I thought about it, too. Will my husband feel better if I lie and sweep his face? He risked his life and wanted to be taken care of by more than one person. I can't stand it. What can outsiders say? My husband has always respected me, and I am honored. If they ignore me, where should I put my face? In this way, Guo and I also asked and answered questions and talked about our home.
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Strangely, although Guo loves to tease young children, young children are unwilling to approach her and ignore her. They only call their parents and refuse to call their aunts. I have taught him many times, but he still refuses, and I can't help it. In the future, when children grow up, they will nod to the Guo family as a gift and stop barking. Young neighbors have been stubborn since childhood, and their father can't help it. He wants to accommodate him in many ways, but he wants to be happy. Guo always depends on the child's temper, so it is difficult for her to be so patient. The child said to me, "mom, this woman said that she would give me any money I wanted as long as I called her." I said I don't want you to give money, but my father does. " The father of the child is open-minded and never angry, so he takes the child to dinner and sometimes goes to the teahouse. His favorite thing is to ride his children to the western hills. Guo sometimes learns riding with her husband. Every time she goes, three or four horses will walk on the road, with their hooves squatting, attracting passers-by to watch.
My German neighbors and I sometimes make fun of each other. Don't look at me as a rural woman. I'm honest, and sometimes I speak with a sting. I once asked him, "How did you and Dejie meet? Is it also a matchmaker and a horoscope? I heard that I still take a sedan chair. " German neighbors said without mind: "I don't believe it unless the matchmaker sets me up, let alone the eight characters." One of my battalion commanders is an introducer. It's a long story-I have been stationed in Guiping County for a long time. Once, several officers and I visited a girls' school and saw two older female students, which attracted people's attention. I looked twice, noticed the battalion commander, and said to me,' Brigadier, your wife has children, so it's rare to take care of you around. Why not marry another lady and take care of her at any time? I have a cold, cough and dizziness. After listening to what the battalion commander said, I am not interested. The battalion commander immediately introduced us. Soon, I decided to marry her Dejie, and I got married in a civilized way. Although her family also wanted to get married in a sedan chair, they didn't meet the bride, just invited wine to celebrate. It's really silly to think of meeting the bride. I remember when we got married, we made you and me look like monkeys, haha! We must advocate wedding ceremonies in the future to avoid being fooled. Seeing my silence, he continued, "Oh, you won't blame me, will you? I don't think it's convenient for you to run around with me when you have children. You and your children can't stand life in the army. And I, as a senior officer now, really need someone to take care of me and accompany me in social activities. Wouldn't it be nice if someone did something you couldn't do? You can live and work in peace. With children, you and I are both happy! I am the most trustworthy soldier, and I will never treat you badly in the future. "
"Never mistreat you!" He said so and did the same. Indeed, I have enjoyed the splendor, but is it enough for a person to eat well and dress well? Especially for women, I have lacked the warmth of family since I was in my thirties. Can this be compensated by money and material things?
However, when I was with Dejie, we lived in harmony and no one ever spoke ill of us. There is nothing absurd about the husband handling it properly. Even Sister De, who is equally sensible, has never disrespected me. It's just that she took part in more social activities and couldn't stand the provocation of some people before she gradually avoided me. When I am invited to the party, she will make an excuse not to go. In this way, we each entertain ourselves according to our own interests.