As the saying goes, "A hundred miles is different from the wind, and a hundred miles is different from the customs." However, in southern Fujian, no matter how many miles apart the villages are, they have continued the cultural customs of our country for thousands of years. I believe these good cultural traditions will be inherited by people.
So, what are the details of marriage customs in the rural areas of southern Fujian? The culture of southern Fujian is also a very important part of our traditional culture, and some customs and habits in southern Fujian are also very unique. Let me introduce them to you next.
in the marriage customs in southern Fujian, although some procedures are different from place to place, to sum up, there are generally six rituals, namely: asking the name, accepting the gifts, accepting the gifts, Naji, inviting the guests, and welcoming the relatives.
1. Prepare
A matchmaker or groom will recommend a person to the bride's house to talk about the bride price, money for shirts and trousers, and tying red envelopes. Both families will hold a negotiation on the bride price. Generally, if the conditions put forward by the woman's family are not too excessive, the man's family will accept it, and you will come and go from time to time.
the amount of dowry depends on the negotiation. At present, the average bride price in rural areas ranges from 1 thousand to 5 thousand.
The money for shirts and trousers includes the bride's wedding dress and three gold jewelry. Man's family. Usually 5 thousand to 1 thousand
Pick a good day to give a red envelope to the woman's family, which means to bring some money and gifts to the woman's parents first.
It is a very important marriage custom to carry a plate and carry it in southern Fujian. The so-called dish lifting is: pig's feet, sesame cheese, red candles and other wedding necessities in southern Fujian are taken to the woman's home. The woman can't accept all of them, but only a part of them, and then add some sesame seeds and grains to carry them back.
above all, on the wedding day, parents of the bride and groom need to comb their children's hair three times, one for mutual respect, the other for children and grandchildren, and the third for a lifetime together.
In Minnan, many people can hardly understand their dialect, so dialect is also a threshold. Fortunately, there are two people who can be translators in this wedding, one is my sister-in-law and the other is the bride's maid of honor. With the reform and opening up, there are more and more opportunities for Minnan people to speak Mandarin, so it is not difficult for us to communicate.
2. Wedding
The groom, with floats and red envelopes (1 yuan, 2 yuan, 5 yuan, 2 yuan, etc.), and a group of brothers, led by the matchmaker, went to the bride's house and "smashed" the bride's door with red envelopes. Haha, this time I also cleverly grabbed 3 yuan's red envelopes. The groom's brother looked for the bride's embroidered shoes, and the person who protected the bride's embroidered shoes thought the red envelope (5 yuan) was too small, so the handsome guy took out two more. I said, let me have a look, and he handed it to me. I pinched it and said, well, it's a little small. Take a bigger one! Handsome guys turned to discuss, and took out a red envelope and asked for shoes. I grabbed it and pinched it. Well, it's still a little thick. Just add another one and put it into my purse. The other party asked for it, I said, how can I get the red envelope back! The handsome boy blushed.
It's just not like we people in Hubei set off firecrackers when we celebrate the wedding. Maybe it's the reason why the city forbids whipping!
Before going out, the photographer asked the groom to take a photo with all the relatives and friends of the bride. I thought that when people in Hubei get married, they have to hold a ceremony to recognize their relatives, and the recognized elders have to give red envelopes to the bride and groom, but people in southern Fujian don't have this link, maybe they are afraid that we don't have red envelopes!
Then, as all relatives and friends of the bride's family, we took the bus that the groom called to pick us up and went to the groom's house with all the floats.
Third, getting married
With the reform and opening up and the development of the times, the concept of changing customs is gradually changing the customs of Minnan people, and many complicated customs and festivals are also omitted at weddings. However, in this wedding, the most unique is to welcome ancestors, worship ancestors and seafood feast. In order to worship the ancestors, the groom's family has prepared enough, such as setting up an altar and offering offerings, and preparing a lot of paper gold ingots. Before the banquet, the bride and groom, under the guidance of the patriarch, made incense, saluted and made vows to their ancestors, then set off firecrackers and burned gold ingots to their ancestors. Followed by a seafood feast, I have never seen such a big lobster, purely wild in the sea, one in a plate, how big is it? One is only about 1.5 kg, around 5 yuan, and there are abalone, Eupolyphaga Seu Steleophaga, sea cucumber, sea crab, gentian grouper, seafood soup with bamboo shoots, jade cream, ginseng and pigeon soup, etc.