1.
Two days ago, I saw a report on contemporary marriage and love.
I know a new word-divorce ratio, which refers to the ratio of the number of divorces to the number of marriages.
what do you mean? This number will tell you how many people are divorced while getting married.
According to statistics, the divorce rate in China was alarmingly high last year, reaching 38%. In other words, for every 1 people who get married, 38 people get divorced.
Reminiscent of Weibo's recent topic that the marriage rate is lower in five years, Brother Kai can't help but say: The problem of marriage and love now is much more serious than we thought.
In addition, this report also makes detailed statistics on the relationship between GDP and divorce ratio in various regions of the country, and finally draws a conclusion: "The more developed the economy, the less willing it is to get married; The less developed the economy, the more stable the marriage. "
this is a very interesting phenomenon.
to put it bluntly, the richer you are, the later you get married.
The "poor" are more willing to get married, while the "rich" have more capital for divorce.
Then why did this happen?
In fact, these rich people who marry late are not indifferent to love, but they are unwilling to make themselves too wronged for love.
They don't want to be clinkers, to be with people who have only money but no love;
I don't want to live a gloomy life with no material and no future for love.
So, they choose to earn money by themselves and give themselves the confidence to pursue love freely.
"If you want love, you need bread." This is the kind of person you are talking about.
among them, some people have slowed down the pace of love because they are persistent in making money, and they have to marry late.
Some people, while busy with their careers to improve themselves, suddenly find that they have more and better choices, and there may be people worthy of their love in the future.
So they are not busy with love, so they choose to marry later.
2.
Someone posted a post in Zhihu asking, "Is it really but not as those know it who have been poor together?"
An anonymous reply
My family is not "poor", but it is really problematic because of money.
Economic pressure makes people have no spare capacity to take care of other people's feelings, as long as money is involved, it is always tense.
It's chilling that my mother blames me for not being compassionate. I resent my mother's bad attitude and find fault with everything.
On one occasion, when they quarreled, my mother kept crying, just beside her, staring at the TV without any consolation.
I know for the first time that people can be so cold-blooded because they have no money.
They were in love, but the pressure of life made them unable to love.
now I am fear of marriage. I swear, I will earn enough money to get married, and I will never turn my marriage into a war because of money.
Yes, some people are addicted to making money and getting married late, not because they really want money, but because money can bring them a sense of security.
For them, in their past lives, they have seen too many love tragedies born of "no money".
They take this as a warning and arm themselves with money in love.
As time goes by, it will inevitably become a little late for them to meet love.
Andy in Ode to Joy 2 is like this.
After returning from overseas, she has a successful career. Although she still looks young and beautiful, she is a real late-married family.
Although she got married late, she really achieved self-reliance and confidence in love.
in the face of her mother-in-law's unreasonable difficulties, she chose not to swallow, but to fight back openly.
the reason is simple and pure: you can't wronged yourself. As for whether Xiao Bao will always leave her, she is not worried at all.
seemingly indifferent, but actually rational.
Andy knows very well that there is nothing wrong with herself, and that she doesn't have to give in, because her love is neither cheap nor humble, and she doesn't have to compromise for perfection or change herself.
Sometimes, one's own strength can really make people feel comfortable in love, even if they don't keep it until they are old, they can get away with it.
It gives people the right to choose love or not.
in my opinion, those who try hard to earn money and choose to get married later are chasing such a kind of confidence.
3.
Some people get married late, only to find themselves in another world after working hard to earn money and having a successful career. The past infatuation and wrong payment are not worthy of attachment, but the one who is, is still on the way.
Just like on the Zhihu, there is another question: Why should people have money?
The two answers were ranked in the second place and got the most praise.
One of the answers is short:
"People must learn to earn money, drive, dress up, have gas in their cars, electricity in their mobile phones and money in their wallets. After all, the glamorous co-pilot is not as good as holding the steering wheel. "
interestingly, the respondents who praised the second place obviously felt something after reading one of the answers.
She said,
"The co-pilot is worse than the steering wheel? When you become excellent yourself, you will find that the person sitting in the co-pilot was so inferior. He hurts your heart, tramples on your self-esteem, yells at you when you are slightly unhappy, and punches and kicks you when you get angry. There is no equality between you, only slaves. And you still cling to him.
you really should become excellent early, so that you can realize how blind you were.
Now, someone really worth looking forward to appears in front of you. They are all very good, successful in their careers, and there is no problem with their morality and self-restraint. Just wait for yourself to discover and wait, who have a real crush on. You don't have to be confused, you can wait quietly for the really right person, and you can wait silently for the right love. "
Yes, some people work hard and try to be excellent because they don't want their love to be dominated by money.
when they are truly outstanding, they suddenly look back and find that the world in front of them has already become magnificent and colorful.
At this time, they have more choices, so there is no need to worry. They are waiting for the true love.
In The Divorce Lawyer, Luo Gu, played by Yao Chen, is also a successful late-married family.
One of her lines is particularly impressive.
"I am serious and work hard, so that one day when I am around the person I love, no matter whether he is rich or has nothing, I can open my hand and embrace him frankly. I don't have to feel aloof if he is rich, and we won't be down and out if he is poor."
isn't it?
how many people work hard to make money just to have the right to choose calmly.
Even if the people who make their hearts beat are so radiant, they also have the confidence and strength to match them.
even if the people you love are suddenly poor one day, they will not be down and out.
Yi Shu said, "People really have to live up to their expectations. As soon as the results are made, the whole world is happy. "
being a man is like this, and so is love.
In 222, the marriage rate dropped to a lower level in five years, and late marriage became popular among people.
Although "the richer you are, the later you get married" is a trend, it doesn't mean that everyone will get married later, let alone that people have lost their desire for love.
Perhaps, the only thing it represents is that people are more striving for self-improvement, which means that people want to pursue their lives more freely, confidently and with more choices.
Just like the lyrics in the song "Late Marriage": "I never want to be single, but I have a hunch that I will get married later."
what we will eventually marry is love, not time.
only when you become better can you have the weight to fight against time.
Only then can you confidently sing the next lyrics:
"I'm still waiting, waiting for the only soul in the world."
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: Kai Zi
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The above is related to the eight characters of marrying the rich late, and it is about marriage sharing. After watching the life of marrying late to get married well, I hope this will help everyone!