Parents' orders are inviolable, and "matchmaker's words" are more common-
There are often blind date scenes in Korean TV dramas, which are very particular about measuring the eight characters and parents meeting. I can't help wondering: Korean young people are so avant-garde, will they really keep these customs? I didn't know all this was true until I came to Korea from Changsha and saw it with my own eyes!
I came to a relative's house in Korea, and the family was at odds. It turned out that the eldest daughter of a relative was free to fall in love outside and took the boy home for her parents to have a look. As a result, the parents were greatly dissatisfied and immediately "ordered" their daughter to terminate the relationship with the boy, making her cry and not know what to do.
After staying in Korea for a long time, I have a better understanding of Korean customs. In South Korea, which is deeply influenced by Confucianism, "parents' lives are inviolable" is still regarded as the basic morality. Relatives have been arranging blind dates for their daughters. The eldest daughter complained: "I'm tired of dating all day." Now I'm finally free to fall in love with the last one, and my parents don't agree. It is very difficult to change parents' minds, and they will never understand our generation. "
However, the old people think that young people nowadays are increasingly lacking in social responsibility. They prefer their children to meet and get married in the form of "matchmaker's words", which they think can "find out the details of each other". In South Korea, the form of marriage and love such as "matchmaker's words" is still very common.
In Korea, most parents attach great importance to each other's social status, and they are most afraid that their children will fall in love with someone who doesn't know their family background in the street. In Korea, a wedding is not just about two new people. South Korea has a strict hierarchy, which largely limits the circle of marriage. The marriage of children is often the marriage of social and economic status of two families.
not only that, Korean marriage customs are also complicated. If you are "married in love", it is very serious to bring your boyfriend or girlfriend to meet your parents, and there is a whole set of red tape. If parents are satisfied, both parents will meet to discuss how to hold the wedding. Before the wedding, let the fortune teller see if their birthdates is "in conflict". If you don't "rush", the marriage will be settled.