Because such a man will consider everything from the other side's point of view, and he would rather eat more losses himself and make you happy, so I will be happy.
Shouldn't men work hard for women's happiness? It must be, but it must be based on the fact that women can understand him. It is not happy to blindly lower their status and be backward compatible and try to please each other's marriage.
The true story around you:
Ayong and his wife Cheng Cheng have been married for ten years. To outsiders, they have always been a loving couple. Ayong is five years older than Cheng Cheng and has been studying for several years.
Coincidentally, introverted men often meet extroverted women.
Since marriage, Ayong has been getting along with his wife as his brother and husband. Everything in daily life will be discussed with Cheng Cheng, and most of them are based on Cheng Cheng's opinions.
Two days ago, Ayong came to me for tea with a sad face.
It turned out that Ayong and I were drinking fake tea, but the conversation with my buddies was true.
"I really want to collapse. She doesn't understand me more and more, and it's getting harder and harder to serve. " Yes, Ayong is usually quiet, and his personality is gentle. There are really few people who can say such heartfelt words.
"I have been adjusting my state for ten years. I thought I could live forever as long as I was kind to her, but now I don't know what to do for her! " Ayong said, sadly bowed his head.
Don't live in each other's shadow at any time. In fact, needless to say, Ayong, as a buddy who grew up together, I have long anticipated his troubles. I always follow my wife's advice. Even when I get together with my buddies, my wife never dares to go out without nodding.
In that case, it is strange that there is no problem between husband and wife. Live yourself as the shadow of the other half. You can still see a shadow on a sunny day, but it is nothing on a rainy day.
In this case, I was obedient and caring to the other party from the beginning, and I positioned myself as a warm husband with temperature from the beginning.
When the moon is full, it will lose money, and when the water is full, it will overflow.
One day, you will lose originality in front of each other and find no way to please them. The other person thinks that you have changed or become useless, and you, your heart is full of resentment, and all your efforts have earned the other person's incomprehension.
Introverts are often reluctant to express their true thoughts, for fear that the other person will not understand and hurt themselves. But I don't know, I just hide it in my heart, and one day I will be unbearable.
Just like when an avalanche comes, no snowflake is innocent, but the introvert finally collapses, and every snowflake is sown by himself.
In fact, women also want your man to be a little more sensitive to introverted boys. Women actually love and hate each other. She also wants her man to be manly and dare to say and do, even in front of her.
Listen to women's opinions in everything and make up your mind in everything. In a woman's mind, is she a man or are you a man? Just these words, the woman didn't say it.
Along this road, women will become more and more powerful. Many times, intentionally or unintentionally, they may hurt men's self-esteem, and even she is used to doing that.
Results-oriented, men will find women more and more difficult to serve and hate themselves more and more. Men's self-confidence will continue to be suppressed and become more obedient to women.
A man who doesn't have his own opinion and looks at the other person's face, can there be happiness in marriage? Even if there is a happy moment, it is only a happy moment for women.
I met an introverted and gentle man like Ayong, but his marriage was completely different from that of Ayong. He is a familiar "wife-doting maniac" and a pillar in his wife's eyes.
I compared him with Ayong, and found that their differences are:
First of all, Ayong's income is in a carefree life, only a quarter of that of "crazy wife". It is true that the material foundation determines the spiritual life.
Second, unlike Ayong, a "crazy man who dotes on his wife" will ask his wife for advice when something happens, but he has more opinions of his own. If there is disagreement, he can speak his mind calmly and finally reach a consensus.
Therefore, Ayong can improve the relationship between husband and wife by raising her income and having her own opinions.
The process of getting along with husband and wife is a process of constant running-in and adjustment. Don't deny each other easily and don't lose yourself blindly.
When the relationship between husband and wife gets worse, it is most taboo to break the jar and fall.
We can't change each other's views on ourselves, but we can infect and attract each other by constantly improving ourselves, improving ourselves and making ourselves better and better.