Refers to a person's indifferent personality. Literally, it seems to be human nature. However, from a psychological point of view, people with indifferent personality actually have a lot to do with family education since childhood.
If you want to list what people from cool thin are like, I think the following words will be high-frequency words that people think of: selfish, indifferent, calculating, heartless and so on.
situation
There is an uncle in our village who works and does business outside when his children are very young. I get up early and get greedy with my wife every day, and I work very hard. The child can't see his parents and lives with his grandmother. Grandma is busy with all kinds of things except housework every day and has no time to communicate with her children. When children grow up, problems arise. Uncle and aunt are old, but children are difficult to entrust. Because this child doesn't want to go to work and get married, he has little communication with the elderly every day. Even if the old man scolds, he won't quarrel. I feel that I am facing an unresponsive wall.
What are children born in cool thin like? This kind of child probably has the following characteristics. (1) Love neither others nor yourself.
Psychologist Fromm wrote in The Art of Love: A selfish person is not too self-loving, but lacks love, and he actually hates himself. It seems that you don't care about others' love, but you just love yourself, but in essence you won't love others or yourself. There is no happiness in such a life, but they are good at pretending to make others believe that they are happy.
② Lack of empathy
When the child begins to develop himself, when he realizes that he and others are different individuals and need to have contact with others, he gradually begins to awaken empathy. He will start to put himself in other people's shoes and take other people's pain as his own. Then he began to have a conscience. He will take the initiative to help others when they need it.
And a child born in cool thin, when others encounter difficulties, he will only stand by and sometimes even gloat. This is because he didn't develop the ability to contact others when developing himself.
(3) I did something wrong without feeling guilty.
A cool-headed child won't feel guilty when he does something wrong. Even though he knew that it was wrong to do so and what the consequences would be, he remained indifferent. It seems that this matter has nothing to do with myself, and there will be no shame in my heart. For other people's evaluation, no matter praise or criticism, there will be no waves in his heart. He always cares about himself.
In his eyes, affection, friendship and love are not as important as his own feelings. The feelings of others have nothing to do with themselves.
How to avoid cultivating children born in cool thin?
No child is born cold and selfish. Many children born with cool thinking are highly intelligent and keen. They can feel love, but they don't trust it. Children born in cool thin will definitely not be filial when they grow up. Even if they do something filial, they have another purpose. I don't think any parent will like such a child.
Give children enough love and attention.
Children naturally need a sense of security and belonging. When children can't get these from their parents, they will start to attract attention with all kinds of bad behaviors.
Make sure that your love is passed on to your children.
There is no doubt that we love children. But, for children, can they feel our love? Actually, not necessarily. For example, if a child does something bad, we severely criticize education. Our idea is that I will resolutely stop your behavior and prevent you from going astray in the future because I love you.