"Old Xing, are you hungry?
If you are hungry, please tell Xiangyu that Xiangyu will give you some fat... "
In 2005, the 34-year-old Yan Ni finally became popular with the role of Tong Xiangyu, completely getting rid of her 15-year supporting career.
However, while she was standing proudly on various award podiums, her 7-year-old daughter was crying for her mother at her grandparents' house.
In 1971, Yan Ni was born in Xi'an, Shaanxi, into an ordinary worker's family.
She is the youngest daughter in the family, and she has an older sister who dotes on her and loves her.
When Yan Ni was a child, she was indifferent to worldly affairs and was well protected.
So much so that the neighbors around her love to tease her, just like the most common lie we heard when we were children:
Yan Ni will really take it seriously and run out crying.
The neighbors chased after her, and then found her standing next to a trash can, as if carefully observing which one she picked from.
Although people still enjoyed teasing little Yan Ni later, they would add a sentence at the end: "I'm kidding you."
Yan Ni still has two names, one is Yan Kaiyan, one is Yan Ni.
When I was born, my father looked up many dictionaries to get this name.
But as she grew up, Yan Ni's temperament was too cheerful and she often made "secret transactions" with little boys.
Ask him to steal grandma's fried fish, and then "reward" him with a dress for a day.
My mother felt that if she continued to indulge like this, she would truly become a true Shaanxi man.
I decided to step back from the brink and reform from scratch, starting with the name.
With a wave of his hand, he named her Yan Ni, but her father disagreed.
So the two of them had a long stalemate over their names, and finally decided to call each other their own names.
Her mother called her Yan Ni, and her father still called her Yan Kaiyan.
In terms of dressing style, my father followed my mother's wishes and began to dress her up like a little princess.
Her family is not rich, so most of Yan Ni’s clothes are leftover from her sister or given by neighbors.
So I always wear whatever I have and never choose.
From then on, her mother began to consciously buy some princess dresses for her.
In previous years, Yan Ni’s request for new Chinese New Year clothes was to be easy to move around, so that she could jump up and down.
But that year, the task of making new clothes was taken over by an old friend of my father’s.
Due to my mother’s special instructions, I have to finish work later than before.
In Xi'an No. 45 Middle School where she studied, there are many students from the studio.
Mother was prepared for Yan Ni to cry, but she didn’t expect that after she got it, she couldn’t put it down and loved the large lace around the collar, and even carefully guarded it while eating.
The mother secretly poked Yan Ni’s father with her finger to let him see the changes in her daughter.
When Yan Ni was 15 years old, her family moved from the west of the city to the south of the city near the Xi'an Film Factory because her father was promoted.
In Xi'an No. 45 Middle School where she studied, there are many students from the studio.
Everyone is very enthusiastic about going to art school. Affected by the environment, Yan Ni also subtly fell in love with the film industry.
But she was not selected during early enrollment, so she had no choice but to choose the Business Management Department of Shaanxi University of Finance and Economics.
Yan Ni dislikes doing business, not to mention that the flame of art in her heart has not been extinguished.
So in 1990, Yan Ni was a sophomore.
The Combat Drama Troupe of the Political Department of the Lanzhou Military Region came to Xi'an to recruit students. Yan Ni was afraid of being stopped by her family, so she applied in secret.
After the final results are down, enter with an absolute advantage.
So he enlisted in the army and became an art soldier, and he had a big fight with his parents because of this. In the end, his sister came forward to persuade him, and the dispute came to an end.
When Yan Ni entered the Lanzhou Military Region Combat Drama Troupe, she was sent to the People's Liberation Army Art Academy for further study, and became classmates with "Old Money" Hong Jiantao and "Xia Donghai" Gao Yalin.
Hong Jiantao once jokingly said:
The two had a good relationship when they were at the People's Liberation Army Art Academy, and they often rehearsed sketches, dramas, etc. together.
After Yan Ni graduated, she needed to return to the army in Lanzhou. Hong Jiantao took the lead and led a large group of people to send the girls to the car.
Before leaving, Yan Ni took Hong Jiantao's hand and said:
This aspirational momentum has always been remembered by Hong Jiantao.
However, during the years in the Lanzhou Army, the pace of life of Yan Ni and her friends in the army was not as fast as in Beijing.
After completing the set tasks, everyone can go out freely.
During that time, Yan Ni's weight increased rapidly. The most amount of exercise she did was to go for a walk by the river after dinner. Her acting skills also failed to make breakthroughs for a long time.
Until one day, Hong Jiantao wrote a letter inviting her to join his Kongzheng Repertory Theater.
This made Yan Ni alert. If her original intention has not changed, she must agree with her.
In 1994, Yan Ni decided to go to Beijing for development.
Following the advice of my friend Hong Jiantao, I worked hard to lose weight and maintain my image. I was finally admitted to the Kongzheng Repertory Theater in the same year, so that I would not live on the streets in Beijing.
But after joining the drama troupe, Yan Ni's situation did not improve.
He is not well-known, and his appearance is not the best in the group.
Most of the roles assigned are walk-ons or marginal roles.
In the first drama "Xiangjiang, Xiangjiang" she participated in, there was only one line, and then "falling to the ground and sacrificing".
But even if there is only one action or one line, Yan Ni will never be careless in rehearsal.
After rehearsing again and again, my body was covered with bruises but I never complained.
Not every effort will yield rewards. All we can do is keep working hard and wait quietly.
When I went home to visit relatives during the Chinese New Year, my mother burst into tears while holding Yan Ni, who had been losing weight for a long time.
I told her more than once that she should come back and stop suffering in Beijing.
Yan Ni thought about this question carefully, and after thinking for a long time, she could not give her family a clear answer.
Fortunately, when she returned to Beijing again, she met her love.
In 1996, Yan Ni talked about her first love.
My boyfriend’s surname is Qiu. I only know that he was once a soldier and later worked in the Beijing Public Security Bureau.
Both of them are each other's first love. On the premise that they are both ignorant about love, Yan Ni doesn't have much idea about marriage.
After only a year of dating, the two decided to get married.
Yan Ni thought it was a matter of course, and she didn't even think it was serious and treated it as a normal thing.
When Yan Ni’s father called her into the study using the excuse of “I want to tell you a few words”, but he talked non-stop for 40 minutes.
She felt that this matter was indeed a relatively big thing in her life.
Yan Ni’s parents are actually very satisfied with her boyfriend. He has a stable job and a fixed residence in Beijing, which are all standard features of a son-in-law.
After readily agreeing, they discovered that the two of them lacked the most important thing, companionship.
Because he works in the public security department, Yan Ni’s husband often comes home very late and has no fixed off-duty time at all.
During the wedding period, Yan Ni would stubbornly wait for her husband to come back and have dinner together.
But it was not only the food that went cold, but also her sincerity.
The two discussed this issue openly and honestly, and Yan Ni once looked for the reason in herself.
Is it because her work is too leisurely that she needs her husband's company very much.
After asking the elders in the family, many people advised them: "Just have a child."
The two did adopt this opinion, and in January 1998 On the 1st, daughter Zou Yuanqing was born.
Yan Ni called her daughter a gift from God. She did not miss any moment of her growth before the child was 4 years old.
However, a marriage cannot only involve the efforts of one person. Yan Ni’s husband has taken care of everyone and has no time to take care of the family.
The contradictions in life are accumulating day by day, and the happiness and pain of a stay-at-home mother are tearing Yan Ni apart.
In terms of career, too many people’s former friends come to ask Yan Ni, why don’t you continue filming?
Yan Ni didn’t know how to answer them. In 2002, Shang Jing, who was also in the Kongzheng Repertory Theater, invited her to star in "Healthy Express".
That was the first time that Yan Ni left her child for three or four months after the birth. At first, when she was left to the care of the child's grandparents, she felt quite uneasy.
After calling her twice a day to inquire about the situation, Shang Jing asked her to feel at ease filming and experience the fun in order to find herself.
Slowly, the number of calls Yan Ni made gradually decreased.
Only then did Yan Ni truly realize that career is the last thing a woman can give up.
It represents a person’s motivation and confidence. The feeling of asking for money is different from the experience of spending money freely.
Yan Ni was entangled and struggling. Children are always a tie to a family.
During the filming of "Healthy Express", an own incident occurred.
Since Yan Ni and Hong Jiantao had a scene opposite each other, they were so sleepy after the scene that they fell asleep on the sofa.
As a result, Yan Ni's phone rang, and Hong Jiantao picked it up.
Hearing that it was not for him, he handed it to Yan Ni.
But this call happened to be from Yan Ni’s husband. Both of their voices sounded like they had just woken up. It was difficult not to let the caller’s thoughts wander.
Because of this incident, the few interactions between Yan Ni and her husband became even less.
Yan Ni openly mentioned this matter in the show, and also told many media who wanted to gossip about her and Hong Jiantao’s story:
Yan Ni wants to have a good relationship with her husband I wanted to sit down and talk about it, but as always I couldn't find the time, or I talked about it on the first day and then went back to talking about it the next day.
Yan Ni finally got tired and took the initiative to file for divorce.
In this marriage, Yan Ni’s dedication can be seen by everyone.
Even when her husband did not want a divorce, it was his sister who took the initiative to persuade him to let go and give Yan Ni a chance to pursue her own happiness.
Neither of them was wrong. It was the trivialities and various dissatisfactions of life that led to the bad results.
In Yan Ni's heart, there is an established agreement that she will not reveal her partner's personal information in front of the media.
Some emotional events can be shared, but we still know nothing about people.
Seven years of marriage has come to an end. It is absolutely impossible to say that I am not sad.
In order to escape from this negative environment, Yan Ni left the child to be raised by her grandparents and moved back to the dormitory of the Kongzheng Repertory Theater alone.
Yan Ni, who has not been back to the group for a long time, also feels uncomfortable. She often sits in the yard and looks at the stars and the moon.
Replacing the inner loneliness with the emotion of loneliness coincides with the period when "Healthy Express" was most popular after it was broadcast.
Shang Jing wants to strike while the iron is hot and create another light comedy TV series.
Catching Yan Ni enjoying the breeze downstairs, she asked, "Do you have time? Come play the heroine!"
The heroine Yan Ni had been waiting for for more than ten years turned out to be It would appear in this mood, but she had no reason to refuse, so she agreed.
There is this classic - "Wulin Gaiden".
Tong Xiangyu in "Wulin Gaiden" is a widow whose husband died, and she treats Mo Xiaobei, who is not a relative, like her own daughter.
Under such a comedy shell, there is a more tragic character setting.
Blessings come from disasters, and misfortunes come from blessings.
It was only after Yan Ni experienced a lot at that time that she was able to perform the complexity of the character.
In front of the camera, she laughed and acted cutely.
But outside the camera, Yan Ni had unconsciously thought about her failed marriage many times, and had hidden in her room and secretly cried many times.
She is both unfortunate and lucky.
The 80-episode "Wulin Gaiden" was broadcast on CCTV's prime time. This was the first time Yan Ni played a leading heroine in a TV series, and she won a lot of applause.
This TV series set a new ratings record, and "Tong Xiangyu" has become the most classic character in film and television dramas.
She was 35 years old that year and finally achieved initial success.
In 2009, Yan Ni created the only female character recorded in the history of Chinese TV dramas - Niu Huahua.
"The North Wind Blows" allowed her to win the highest award at the TV Drama Festival, the Feitian Award and the Golden Eagle Award for Best Actress.
In 2011, someone took photos of Wang Wei and Yan Ni having sex at night.
Wang Wei and Yan Ni are 9 years old. This is Yan Ni’s first relationship that was exposed after her divorce.
However, neither party admitted it. When faced with questions, Yan Ni said "I look forward to returning to peace," leaving the audience confused.
While Yan Ni kept the relationship private, Wang Wei took the initiative to post an intimate photo of the two on social platforms.
Yan Ni was forced to reveal that the two had broken up and the photos taken that night were from a long time ago.
It just so happened that Wang Wei had a new drama to be released, and now everyone knew Sima Zhao’s heart.
The turmoil has not stopped for a long time. The love-hate entanglement between the national actress and Xiao Xianrou happened to catch everyone's appetite.
On one side, people are suppressing, while on the other side, people are desperately inciting.
What they don’t know is that this kind of thing will happen often in the future.
In 2014, Yan Ni sent her daughter on a plane to attend high school in the United States.
In the past few years in the United States, her daughter Zou Yuanqing has been influenced by the open atmosphere and has been encouraging Yan Ni to get a new boyfriend.
So in 2016, Wang Qiming, who was 11 years younger than her, appeared.
He is very tall and handsome, but his fame has never been as great as that of Yan Ni.
After announcing their relationship, Zeng took advantage of Yan Ni’s Dongfeng resources to increase sharply and became a small hit.
Perhaps because he had tasted the sweetness of the bonus, Wang Qiming troubled Yan Ni in everything and kept inviting Yan Ni to live with him.
Regardless of Yan Ni’s desire to keep a low profile, he took her hand and took the initiative to walk towards the media cameras many times.
In the early days of her love affair, Yan Ni found this kind of "clinginess" very useful.
But gradually I realized that my role was not a girlfriend, but more like a mother.
After being in love for more than two years, I finally couldn’t bear to break up with him.
But for Wang Qiming, it was like a money tree that was far away.
He desperately wanted to hold on and not let go. He went to Yan Ni's house in the middle of the night and knocked on the door, telling her his "true feelings".
This kind of madness brought Yan Ni as much fear as a horror movie. In the end, she had to call more than 20 security guards to drive Wang Qiming away.
She secretly made up her mind to know people with a keen eye, but she still couldn't resist the fierce pursuit and fell into the arms of "Little Zhang Duo".
This Zhang Duo is not that Zhang Duo, nor the one who is Chen Songling’s wife. They just happen to have the same name.
It was Yan Ni who Zhang Duo actively pursued, but she was also the first one he couldn't stand.
Yan Ni has always had a good relationship with her ex-husband after the divorce. When Yan Ni was preparing to visit her daughter abroad, she suddenly received a scam call.
During the phone call, her ID number, name, and bank card number were accurately stated word for word.
Yan Ni was also threatened. The other party told her that she had been restricted and if she wanted to be released, she should do as she was told on the phone.
Yan Ni panicked all of a sudden, but fortunately she remembered that her ex-husband was a staff member of the public security agency.
After calling him for help, her ex-husband kept comforting her that it was a lie and she didn’t need to take it seriously.
There are many similar incidents. Yan Ni and her ex-husband became friends after the divorce.
My daughter is also very close to her grandparents, but Zhang Duo cannot stand this situation.
Out of jealousy, he asked Yan Ni to cut off contact with her ex-husband, but with his daughter as a bridge, it was impossible to realize what Zhang Duo said.
In desperation, the two broke up to get to know each other.
Yan Ni is now 50 years old and has not yet remarried.
Her daughter intends to develop into the entertainment industry. After Yan Ni led her daughter to participate in "I Am Your Mom" ??in 2018, she did not provide any more help.
What Yan Ni hopes is that only those who have truly experienced the wind and rain can realize the beauty of the sunny days after the rain.
If Zou Yuanqing had been growing up under the wings, he would not be able to stand alone.
The mother and daughter have very different styles, but they have truly become friends.
The two also discussed their thoughts about future boyfriends. Yan Ni was teased by her daughter:
Yan Ni didn’t care. The days ahead are still very long and she can live alone. Very beautiful.
She has always looked forward to love, believing that meeting someone is an arrangement from God, and her view of love is that fate is wonderful.
The mountains have their peaks, and the seas have their shores.
The long journey will eventually turn around.
The aftertaste is bitter, but eventually sweet.