Since you are heartless, don't blame others for injustice. You have the right to ask your child not to take his father's surname, and grandpa has the right not to let you inherit it! Don't blame others for being so selfish!
Of course it's right. Old people have their own ideas, and it is difficult to change them. Of course, you have the right to share your money. If you want this will, you can change your surname. Since you don't change your surname, let go. You can't have it both ways.
Grandson took his mother's surname, and grandpa made a will, leaving nothing to his grandson. Is this the right thing to do?
There is no right or wrong in this question. What mom and grandpa did was legal. Legality is definitely good. If in this incident, my mother thinks that Grandpa did something wrong, it is moral kidnapping. Because grandpa has the right to dispose of his property. Just because other grandfathers are willing to leave their property to grandchildren with different surnames, grandfathers must do so. Just like a mother doesn't have to, just because other children take their father's surname, their children must take their father's surname. You can take your mother's surname or your grandmother's surname. Since the law gives them such power, no one can deprive each other of their power.
Historically, children took their father's surname or their mother's surname. Historically and traditionally, the surname with mom is an absolute minority, and the surname with dad is an overwhelming majority. The situation with the mother's surname is basically the same as the present situation. When the blood of the woman's family has been interrupted, as a daughter, she will give her son to her family to continue the incense. Even this situation is rare in the history of China. In ancient times, adopted sons generally inherited incense in male families. Of course, the inheritance of incense is definitely related to interests. In addition to the reasons caused by the only child, the blood relationship of daughters is definitely closer than that of the same surname, which is also the reason why many daughters try to pass the incense to their parents.
The connection between bloodline inheritance and family interests has been continuous and basically consistent since ancient times. These problems and entanglements are all related to the adjustment of the national birth policy. If the one-child policy continues, this situation will be more and more. Because of the continuous only child, the final result must be that two surnames become one surname and one surname will be cut off. At this time, regardless of law or morality, the property of grandparents and grandparents will be left to this only descendant. Who is the surname of future generations? It is bound to cause competition between the two sides. Now the three-child policy has been liberalized, and this deadlock has been solved through policy adjustment. However, the one-child policy not only solved the problem of rapid population expansion in China, but also left some negative effects on the society. The problem we are discussing today is one of them.
From a cultural point of view. The contradiction between grandpa and mom comes from the blood inheritance in traditional culture. At this point, neither mom nor grandpa is wrong. Grandpa's practice not only conforms to the current legal provisions, but also conforms to the historical tradition. In Shen Fu's Six Chapters of a Floating Life in Qing Dynasty, it is recorded that he was adopted as a son by his uncle. So, when his father shared it, he didn't have any. Because according to the law at that time, he could only inherit his uncle's property. Although his father and brother are rich, he is as poor as a church mouse. In the article "Remembering Bitterness and Thinking Sweet", he described in detail his tragic experience of going out to borrow money because of poverty. This is the so-called "brother, settle accounts clearly."
In grandpa's eyes, grandson's surname is someone else's surname, and naturally it is not his own blood inheritance. At this time, it is useless for you to talk about science and blood relationship with him. Because at this time he is thinking about cultural traditions. Since there will be no more people with foreign surnames in the family tree in the future. This is a fundamental thing that Chinese civilization has passed down for five thousand years. People in China have always attached importance to it. In fact, mothers also attach importance to this issue. If they don't take it seriously, why don't they insist that their son take his surname?
China's family pedigree is based on male consanguinity. This inheritance conforms to the genetic law of biology. This has been proved by today's science. So in ancient times, people paid more attention to family blood relationship. The relationship of the same surname is also an important part of social relations. The so-called family 500 years ago, that's what it means. The survival rate of newborns in ancient times was low, and people hoped to have more children and be more happy. Although Zhu Yuanzhang, the Ming emperor, had more than twenty sons, it was still not enough. He adopted many orphans during the war. At the beginning, all these children were surnamed Zhu. When they grew up, they all returned to their original names. The most famous of them are Li Wenzhong and Mu Ying. When I was a child, I was adopted by Zhu Yuanzhang, all surnamed Zhu. Later, he became famous and recognized his ancestors. The persistence of consanguinity and family honor met the moral requirements at that time. Therefore, Zhu Yuanzhang also supported them to recognize their ancestors and return to their ancestors. This is an aspect of cultural tradition.
Let's put it another way. Traditionally, people in China believe that the perfect state of life has four aspects, namely wealth, luxury, longevity and examination. Money means spending money, and expensive means having power. Being rich is not necessarily expensive. Shen Wansan only cares about being as rich as an enemy. He will kneel as soon as he sees the county magistrate of Qipin. Expensive is not necessarily rich. Zhang Zhidong is the governor, and his life is the thing. High and expensive without money. Money and power are called wealth. This is rich and expensive. Most people know that. Life is old, what to test? As most people know, the dead father's name is Gao and the mother's name is Cong. Bereavement is like a dead parent. So, what does "Fu Gui Hand Test" mean? To put it bluntly, it's simple. After a person dies, you have to take an examination, not only of tombstones, but also of genealogy. The more sons you have, the more your name will appear in the family tree. It's called an exam. In other words, you can find it in the family tree. No son, no exam.
So in essence, the exam is related to leaving a name on the history of qing dynasty. If you are not a saint, you have not made great contributions to society, but you have made contributions to future generations. Leaving wealth is merit. Your children and grandchildren are here, and your merits are there. This is the so-called three stands, merits and sentences of Confucianism. If you are a saint, you have made great contributions to society. Its name can always be tested. For example, the Yellow Emperor and Yao Shunyu. Because they have made great contributions to the people, the people of China respect them as ancestors and call them descendants of the Chinese people.
History records 5,000 years of civilization. The history of China has three parts: national history, local chronicles and genealogy. Everyone has no contribution to society, and he must make a small contribution to future generations. Merits are seen in history. This is the inherent logic of the continuation of five thousand years of culture.
The topic is a little beside the point. The conclusion is that no one is wrong on this issue. Being a man, as long as you don't break the law and be immoral, you can basically gain a foothold in society.
Grandson takes his mother's surname, and grandpa will leave nothing to his grandson. I think it's right. My mother's surname is Li and my grandfather's surname is Zhang. Because the grandson has nothing to do with grandpa, two families with surnames have no right to inherit grandpa's property, which I think is right. I went to my grandmother's house to inherit property with my mother's surname.
My parents have the final say in my family name, and I have the final say in my grandfather's inheritance. Legal rights!
Grandson's surname or not is his own blood, so there is no need to care too much. Surname is a symbol for people, as long as blood can be passed on. Perhaps in the past few decades, grandpa's ancestors may not be grandpa's surname now. In ancient times, many people had their surnames changed. As long as the family is harmonious, it is better than anything else. As for grandpa, because his grandson doesn't have his surname, he won't leave his family property to his grandson. It seems that grandpa's thoughts are a little narrow-minded and a little angry.
Men and women get married, form a new family, have children and enjoy family happiness. This is the purpose of forming a family. As for the child's surname, there is really no need to care so much. The reason why a daughter-in-law gives her grandson her surname is also influenced by old traditional ideas. On the other hand, when your son grows up and gets married, the married daughter-in-law should also take her child's surname. In the end, no one achieved what they wanted, right?
The purpose of having children and organizing families is not a single family, but the characteristic that human beings like to live in groups. What is the child's surname is not the most important, but the happiness of children and grandchildren and family harmony are the most important.
Self-reliance, ample food and clothing, and a happy life depend on your own efforts, and you can't take it for granted to eat the old and inherit the family property. If young people have this idea, there is no need to worry that the temperament of the old people will become an excuse to threaten to change their surnames. Forget it. There's no threat. It won't affect the life of your small family. The old man can't take you. So this social problem has become a problem because people's traditional ideas still exist in people's lives.
Can hard-won property be passed on to outsiders? Yes!
There is nothing wrong with grandpa's practice. Grandpa means that a grandson is not a grandson without his surname. Your viewpoint completely subverts the tradition of China. Children take their father's surname, which means that children are the father's kind. As you sow, you reap what you sow. Not following the father's surname is tantamount to planting sweet potatoes and potatoes! Is there something wrong with the seeds? A child takes his mother's surname, that is, his father doesn't know who it is, so he can only take his father's surname. Don't you understand this truth?
China's tradition, especially the old people's deep-rooted concept that a person's surname is a person's home. Therefore, it is understandable not to leave the property to the grandson of a foreign surname. Since you chose to give your child the mother's surname, you should also have the intention to give up your husband's family property. Nowadays, many people don't even give their daughters property. So don't think about letting your children take your surname and inherit your family's incense, but also think about inheriting the cheapness of your husband's property. There is no situation where both sides take advantage. What's more, the money belongs to the old man and he can give it to whoever he wants.