Now the WeChat circle of friends has been occupied by advertisements, purchasing, business information and various official WeChat accounts, and official advertisements are becoming more and more intensive. If you don't need WeChat to pay, scan the code, transfer money, and send red envelopes, who will use WeChat?
Everyone is busy in all walks of life and lives under their own pressure. A group of people who have no * * * common goals, no interest, no in-depth communication and no language are together, and even insincere greetings and polite remarks are unnecessary [covering your face]. Various WeChat groups will last for a long time if they can't provide each other with valuable things. All interpersonal relationships in this world are essentially interest relations, value exchange and demand satisfaction. No matter colleagues, friends or relatives, cognition is not at the same level, and even the most basic classmates' feelings, the same things or the feelings between relatives are too lazy to perfunctory. In the end, they are strangers. As the saying goes, sworn enemies.
Actually, how can I put it? The reason why people become dead groups and no one speaks is mostly because everyone is not in a circle and has no public interest. This is a bit straightforward, but it is more objective. Think about it, don't you?
First of all, we should understand why there used to be classmates, colleagues and relatives. Three reasons:
First, a few years ago, people didn't have such rich life content (including mobile phones, TV, travel-especially in go on road trip, overtime, part-time, taking children to various cram schools, interest classes, etc. ). Having free time and being able to participate in various group activities is also a kind of sustenance and a happy activity.
Second, up to now, even the promoters themselves have been busy (our previous classmates' parties-including primary schools and junior high schools; And the party of the literary propaganda team), because no one initiated it and no one asked.
Thirdly, there is also the most important reason, that is, the phenomenon of "birds of a feather flock together" has clearly appeared in the present society, because everyone's thoughts, viewpoints, life patterns, consumption States and so on are different, forming other social circles.
Therefore, the original group naturally disappeared and gradually evolved into the current circle.
Now there are objective facts. Classmates, colleagues, relatives and people talk less and less in the group. Although it didn't become a dead group, it just kept the contact information.
Tracing back to the source, the enthusiasm and freshness of building a group have passed, and the intimacy between people in the group has gradually become clear. Therefore, they may form better contact information and avoid unnecessary troubles.
Today, with the development of the Internet, people's lifestyles are different from those in private places. There is always something unsatisfactory in a large group. People talk carefully, and they are really afraid that they will talk nonsense and cause trouble.
Another reason is that most people are busy with their livelihood, and leisure is more urgent than worry. There are many advertisements in the group, and it is difficult to distinguish between high and low, and it is difficult to distinguish between true and false. Do you want to buy something？ Afraid of being fooled. Is it white? I'm afraid there is a score. Don't talk, I don't know anything.
It is also good to leave contact information in the group, but if there is anything, talk alone.
Highly developed networks make interconnection extremely convenient. Even as far away as Qian Shan and the other side of the ocean, it can reach at the speed of light within reach. Wechat, a circle of friends, is one of the forms and a platform. But frankly, I was not interested in this platform form from the beginning. I always feel that it is of little use. In the autumn of 20 19, comrades born in Shanghai first built a group of comrades on wechat. I didn't know it at that time, so naturally I didn't participate. At the end of the year, they launched an initiative to gather comrades in Pujiang. It was at this party that I was drawn into the comrades-in-arms group without exception. It was very lively at first. Ask early at ordinary times, say hello on holidays, and send a small video to encourage happiness. But after half a year, there are fewer and fewer voices in the group, and some don't show their faces all the year round, bubbling in the group. Up to now, few people care. Our family also has a group of relatives and friends. But because there have been contradictions and estrangements in real life, everyone is tacitly confused. Therefore, there are not many people who talk in the group all the year round, and no one gives out red envelopes. It's false if I say that I can communicate with that group to deepen my feelings. The best way to exchange feelings among comrades-in-arms, colleagues, classmates and relatives is to meet, shake hands and hug. Even if it is a month or two to make a phone call and send a text message, it is better than building a nominally hypocritical group.
Some time ago, a comrade-in-arms built a group of comrades-in-arms, and boy, more than 200 people were brought in at once. It's a little strange. How old were you to build such a big group?
At that time, I thought, it won't take long to become a dead group, and there are many examples.
Actually, we don't know each other. It's just a group. Other comrades dragged me in. What can I say in such a group?
When we first started doing WeChat, everyone was very interested in new things, so we built various groups, most of which were comrades-in-arms and classmates. Now, after several years of changes, most of them are half dead except for the active working group.
A relative in my hometown built a ridiculous group. The name of the group is "the * Group", and he brought our whole family in. Our relatives are all ordinary people. If you call us such a high-ranking person, are you suspected of cooking a few bowls of rice? If we join this group, we will become a phoenix, chairman and general manager.
Dream on!
Sure enough, after being active for a few days, these "bosses" in their hometown kept their mouths shut when diving, and no one bubbled up until now.
This regiment, that regiment, soon became a dead regiment for the simple reason. Real good friends don't chat privately in such a group.
Except for the family group, my other groups basically don't interact. Occasionally, I will look at the information inside, but I am no longer interested in commenting. I can't say why, and it has gradually become this state.
What about you? Are you like me?
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As a new thing, WeChat group has become a convenient tool for people to communicate with each other. Whether it is relatives, classmates, friends, fellow villagers, colleagues, or units, groups, teams and groups, they are using WeChat group for dialogue, contact and communication.
Wechat group not only facilitates people's communication, but also inevitably brings people a lot of troubles and contradictions. In fact, there are some troubles and unhappiness. I think this is totally much ado about nothing. Complex groups make do with people. It would be strange if there were no contradictions.
Today, let's talk about the neighborhood groups of classmates and friends who are most prone to problems, rather than the various group working groups organized by the unit.
Although there are often stories about the owners of residential areas, it is the most active group among all groups at present and a battle-hardened group because it is also a property working group. Presumably, everyone has experienced, seen and heard it, especially the various audio and video screenshots forwarded by WeChat group in recent years. Can be said to be extremely wonderful, all kinds of national curses, all kinds of human nature. When they turned out the ancestors of generation 18, counted all immoral occupations, and even posted videos of serious consequences caused by abuse on the Internet, they were still unconvinced. The cause of these incidents is nothing more than your noisy family and his children running away. Listen, some people even have nothing to do with this and deliberately pick on the words. If the unfortunate contradiction intensifies, will your husband's family regret marrying you? Community groups should be the bridge and means of neighborhood communication and the embodiment of social development and progress. Although the composition of the owners in the community is complex, far and wide, with various qualities and classes, compared with the residents' complex many years ago, the owners living in the urban community are the most educated and educated, and their cultural level is far higher than that of the residents named in the past. However, due to watching many videos and screenshots forwarded by the group in the past two years, I feel that although the parties have culture, they really have no culture. Compared with most uneducated residents in the former courtyard, it seems that all beings are upside down, and the most important generation knows shame and likes and dislikes. The new generation thinks they are scolding others, which makes me feel cold. I feel as if she has stripped herself naked, and she is not as good as a prostitute in the old society. It may also be that the so-called new generation of ladies are scattered among the people and hidden in the community.
Next, let's talk about student groups. Nowadays, various student groups are also varied, ranging from large to small circles. Why many people have become dead groups now? I think these are nothing more than these situations.
First, college students, originally from all directions, came from all corners of the country. After graduation, some went back to their hometown and some went to their favorite cities for development. Some have developed well, others are similar, and the level has widened the sense of distance. Others are busy, posting things that they think are valuable or like in the group or circle of friends. Busy people may not see them, and idle people may not like them. Gradually, their consciousness is drifting away, they don't work and live in the same place, they can't get together and talk and laugh, they have different understandings of language, their preferences and perceptions of things, and they slowly lose interest without the opportunity to communicate and explain face to face. Some students are ambiguous when they go to school, and their youth is budding. Many years later, some problems appeared at the reunion, some were strictly controlled by their families, and some wanted to escape, so this group gradually became a dead group.
Another is the primary and secondary school students. When they were at school, they were in groups of three and five, and they smelled alike. They have been going back and forth since graduation. The student group, which is often established by these small circles, gradually expands, and even pulls all the students who can be contacted into this group. What's more, the students in other classes were dragged into the group. Because these students don't know each other very well, and some even haven't contacted each other since graduation, it shows that they are not very close at school, their personalities and tastes are basically out of step, they have no emotional foundation and lack a common language. Even close classmates will inevitably have comparisons, so-called envy and jealousy, not to mention some people who have no intersection with each other. If you are too active under better conditions, some people may think that you are too arrogant. Under worse conditions, you may think that others look down on you, so this group has gradually become a dead group.
Students who are usually together will go their separate ways after graduation. Because there was no mobile phone before, the two exchanged letters. Everyone is far apart, and they are busy with their lives, and gradually they lose contact.
Two years ago, a male classmate I hadn't seen for years suddenly added me to WeChat. We are classmates and in the same village. He built a group and pulled some classmates. Because we haven't seen each other for years, we suddenly got together in a group, and everyone was surprised. At first, they were very enthusiastic, and they talked enthusiastically after work every day.
However, after this excitement lasted for a while, the group was quiet, no one spoke, and there was nothing to say. At first, I asked where I worked and how I was doing, and talked about everyday topics. As for the truth, naturally it will not be revealed. Time has passed, the innocence of childhood no longer exists, and finally becomes the most familiar stranger. Even if you meet in the street, it is polite to say hello and say a few commonplaces, and you won't say too much.
People are like this sometimes. They will talk to strangers when they have something on their mind, but they won't talk too much to people who are too familiar with them. People sometimes want to be understood, but they are afraid of being seen through, and they all have a desire to protect themselves.
It is psychologically safe to talk to strangers, such as friends and confidants you trust, people who really know you and understand you. Generally speaking, they will not reveal their worries to others at will, so it is normal for classmates, colleagues and relatives to talk about their daily lives. When they have nothing to say after talking about the topic, they will become a dead group.