Names are not only symbols to distinguish themselves from others, but also contain parents' earnest hopes and wishes. A good name is displayed in front of people, just like a password, waiting for you to decode it; Or just like a little poem, waiting for you to appreciate it. Some names are ordinary at first, but the fine products are far-reaching and wonderful; Some names are amazing at first glance, but they are embarrassing when read carefully, which brings all kinds of misunderstandings and troubles to the communication between names and hosts.
Over the years, I have named babies all over the country, and many parents have asked my advice after choosing their own names, from which I deeply understand inherit the wind and am deeply moved. In order to get a good name, parents usually think carefully and make great efforts. I understand this seriousness very well. However, China's writing is extensive and profound, and there are many dialects, and homophones are even more numerous. Sometimes, parents do not pay attention to the details when naming names, and an unintentional mistake will make the name that they have worked so hard into a beautiful embarrassment, which will greatly reduce the parents' good intentions. In the process of naming many babies and making suggestions to some parents who consulted me after choosing the names, I gradually accumulated my own unique experience and learned that names should not only pay attention to the overall effect, but also not ignore the details. The so-called "details determine success or failure." Therefore, this paper summarizes some factors that parents may ignore when naming names, which are related to the quality of names, in order to attract jade and arouse parents' thinking.
1. Parents have the same surname, which leads to misunderstanding in communication.
A child is the crystallization of the love between parents, just like a treasure in the palm of your hand. When some parents ask me for a name, they hope that I can incorporate the surnames of their children's parents into their names, such as putting the mother's surname at the end of the child's name, or putting it in the second word of the name, taking a four-character name, and even commemorating the mother's surname with homophones. This way of naming is novel and ingenious, and it can make children better understand the good intentions of their parents and remember the kindness of parenting, which has its merits. However, I would like to remind parents here that choosing four-character names should be carefully considered, especially for girls, and long-term solutions should be considered to prevent unnecessary troubles that may be brought to children in the future. In Europe and America, women should take their husbands' surnames after marriage, and there are many women in Taiwan Province who also put their husbands' surnames before marriage, such as Zhang Lishi and Wang Linshi. Taking a four-word name for a baby girl may lead to some misunderstandings in the future. Once, my parents asked me for my advice on the name "Chen Linyuran" for their baby girl. The name was taken from the idiom "Smile and Smile". The father's surname was Chen and the mother's surname was Lin. The name was beautiful and sunny, and there were few duplicate names. In my opinion, when a girl grows up, people who meet for the first time or are unfamiliar with this name may ask, "Is your husband's family name Chen?" Isn't it embarrassing to be misunderstood and married? Besides, when people call this girl, should they call her "natural language" or "Lin Yuran"? When asking his surname, should he answer "Chen" or "Chen Lin"? A name is like a business card. When the business card you hand to others is vague, it is not conducive to interpersonal communication. Therefore, it is hoped that when parents name their babies, they should not only remember the kindness of parenting, but also consider the problems that may be encountered in interpersonal communication in the future. I was once entrusted by a parent to name his baby boy, whose father's surname is Wang and whose mother's surname is He, and asked to incorporate their surnames into the children's names to show my love for his wife and cherish the children. After thinking, I suggest that parents name their children "Prince He" and "Tong Tong", which is taken from the famous saying "Gentleman is harmonious but different" in The Analects of Confucius. It is rich in cultural connotation and educational significance, and at the same time "Harmony" is homophonic "He". This method is not only clever, but also can avoid unnecessary troubles for children in future interpersonal communication, and let children deeply understand the educational significance and implication contained in the names. Two: Expectations are too high, and there is a contrast between subjective and objective. Names always place parents' earnest expectations on their children. From the time it was born, it carried the expectations and hopes of parents. Parents often give their children a name with high expectations. However, development is objective and does not change with people's subjective will. The name is only the expectation of parents, and the future development of children is not necessarily the case. A parent asked me to change the name of my child. The name of the child was "Jun Gao". When I first took this name, I hoped that the child would grow tall, handsome and stable. However, as time went by, I found that the child was shorter and looks more ordinary. When the child went to school, people couldn't help whispering or snickering when they saw his name. The parent is worried that this will make the child feel more inferior, so he hopes that I will change the appropriate name. Here, parents are reminded that the implication of naming their children should not be too extreme, or it is more appropriate to focus on cultural connotation and educational significance. If the name is in sharp contrast with the person, the name is contrary to the temperament of the person, which is not conducive to the mental health of the child.
three: excessive neutrality and unclear gender distinction.
Traditional parents often follow such rules when naming their children: boys tend to be masculine and girls tend to be feminine. But in recent years, more and more parents advocate neutrality in naming their children, especially girls, mainly because the status of girls is improving, and the demands and expectations of society for women are also increasing accordingly. Parents also hope that their daughters can make greater achievements in addition to traditional women's gentle family care, and such names are more novel and fashionable. For this trend, while praising Ke, I also remind you that neutral names are ok, but don't overdo it. Parents in Hubei once asked me to change the name of my baby girl. The reason is that I thought it was unconventional to give my child a neutral name. Unexpectedly, the name was too atmospheric, so that after the child went to school, people thought his name was a boy. What makes this parent even more depressed is that when helping children to apply for documents or registration, others always fill in "male" directly in the gender column when they see the name. In addition, the daughter's personality is very gentle, which forms a great contrast with the name and gives people a very awkward impression. On the contrary, some boys' names tend to be feminine, and I am introverted, so names often become a topic of teasing by some friends.
four: linking names, resulting in bad homophones.
the name itself is good, but it is funny to read it with the surname. Such names are quite common on the Internet, such as "Zhu Yiqun" (a group of pigs) and "Jiao Hougen" (heel), etc. Although some of them are just jokes invented by netizens themselves, examples of names with bad homophones do exist in reality. A parent in Jiangsu asked me to change the name of his child. He confided to me that he had given his child the name "Chang Ziqing", which was homophonic "self-purification". He hoped that the child would be clean and clean, and that the pure would be self-purification. Unexpectedly, after the child went to school, people laughed at him for being "light-hearted". When he came home, he often lost his temper with his parents. He was angry that he had been given such a name, and he was so angry that he could not eat at every turn. Parents were distressed. This homophonic effect is not what parents want, but it is just a momentary carelessness. It is suggested that parents should read the surname several times to avoid misunderstanding and bad homophonic.
five: three tones continuous reading, resulting in the change of surname.
The name is very suitable on the whole, but because of pronunciation problems, there are auditory errors. Not long ago, a Mr. Xu from Chongqing telephoned me: "Doctor, what do you think of naming the child" Xu Ziang "?" Regardless of the good or bad name of Zi Ang, I immediately reminded my parents: "Is your surname Xu or Xu?" In the end, the parent gave up the name of Zi Ang for a simple reason. The word "Xu" is the third sound, and the word "Zi" is also the third sound. The two words of the third sound are read together. According to the pronunciation law, the first word should be changed to the second sound, and "Xu Ziang" should be changed to "Xu Ziang". In the future, when children introduce themselves, it is easy for people to misunderstand their surnames, which is tantamount to letting them. When communicating with parents about the baby's naming experience, I will pay special attention to those whose surname is the third sound, and remind parents not to give the baby a name with the first letter of the third sound, so it is appropriate to make another choice.
six: over-westernization, China people mistake for foreigners.
It must be a worry for every new parent to choose a good name. Sometimes I think about it for a long time, and finally I take two words with very beautiful literal meaning as my name. For example, "Anna", "An" of peace, and inherit the wind all want their babies to grow up healthily and safely. The word "Na" is a polyphonic word with a graceful and graceful figure, which is very suitable for girls, expressing parents' hope that their babies will be handsome and graceful. The meaning of the two words, the sustenance is very traditional China thought, girls are safe and beautiful. However, it is not difficult to find that the transliteration of "Anna", which is also the English name "Anna", is easy to be misunderstood as a foreigner, and the first thing that comes to mind when reading such a name is not the culture of China, but a foreign name, which is inevitably suspected of worshipping foreign things and flattering foreign countries. The good wishes pinned on the name are easily overlooked and greatly discounted.
seven: differences in dialects, problems in moving to other places.
When naming a name, many parents will first consider reading it in their hometown dialect or Mandarin. However, there are many dialects in China, so it is inevitable to go to another place, do as the Romans do and speak the local language. A parent once mentioned to me that her daughter said that her classmate's name was like a sumptuous meal, and she was nicknamed "Rousong". It turned out that the classmate was born in Chaoshan and was named "Xusong", which means "the sun rises and the pine and cypress grow luxuriantly". Later, she moved to Guangzhou. The word "Xusong" sounds close to "Rousong" in Cantonese, and this person is slightly fat, so she got it. Parents may only consider that it is no problem to read the name in Chaoshan dialect and Putonghua, but never think that the child is Cantonese and will probably live and work in a Cantonese-speaking city in the future. As a result, it will be very embarrassing to read the child's name in Cantonese. It is suggested that parents should consider the dialect where their children may move in the future when naming names to prevent the embarrassment of the above names.
Actually, naming is a wonderful process. As long as you are careful and careful, I believe every parent can find a good name for their children. However, when everyone is careless, often an unintentional mistake may bring great troubles to the children in the future. The original good intentions of naming them will eventually become embarrassing, so I hope parents in the world will be cautious.
The naming culture is profound, and the details that are easy to be misunderstood and embarrassed are far more than the above, which need to be carefully discovered and summarized. As a doctor of ancient literature, my research and love for naming is growing day by day. Every time I find a good name for my parents' newborn baby, my joy is always beyond words. Wang Wei's "painting in poetry, poetry in painting" has left a deep impression on us, and if the name is "famous in poetry, poetry in name", it is even more ingenious. It coincides with the National Day and the Mid-Autumn Festival. Since ancient times, the mountains and rivers have been clear in autumn, and even the moon is particularly bright in the Mid-Autumn Festival. It can be described as a beautiful scenery. Babies born before and after this festival can poetically incorporate the beautiful scenery of the Mid-Autumn Festival into their names, which is not only beautiful and moving, but also full of festive commemorative significance (see the essay Dr. Deng on the naming skills of holiday babies). I hope that parents who have just been promoted to parents can get a good name for their holiday babies. Finally, I would like to congratulate the parents and babies on a happy Mid-Autumn Festival with a poem "Happy Mid-Autumn Festival with a tune" (Bu Dongpo rhyme).
autumn festival on earth is a stormy day in the south. Fortunately, there are relatives and friends from all over the world, flying to congratulate Huanian. People meet the spirit of the festive season, and there are children at home, so why the moonlight is cold? It should be known that the heights are cold, and the family is in the world.
Zhouqu disaster, Yushu earthquake, sad sleepless. Shanghai World Expo and Guangzhou Asian Games have a wonderful dream. Japanese thieves are arrogant when fishing on the island, and watch the rise of China, so as to protect me. People's hearts are like the bright moon, where there is no beauty.