I believe many people have watched this TV series. It tells the story of Wen Li, a primary school teacher in the city, and Tong Zhi, a skilled worker from Sichuan, who fell in love through free love in the 1950s and 1960s. Entering into a very down-to-earth trivial life with a strong smell of fireworks after marriage. After decades of hardships, twists and turns, and ups and downs, the two still stayed together until their twilight years.
Wen Li is a cultural person, a city girl, and a primary school teacher, but she is really a very small citizen. She despises the rural "country bumpkin" Sister-in-law Zhuang the most, but I personally think that Sister-in-law Zhuang is cuter than Wenli.
Maybe it’s because Wen Li is the youngest daughter in the family. She was raised as a boy by her parents and was spoiled. In addition to being very beautiful, she is very arrogant and pretentious. As for Tong Zhi, he somehow fell in love with Wen Li, who had such an artistic temperament, but men also like beautiful and romantic women, so Tong Zhi tried his best to marry Wen Li back home.
A beautiful woman has capital, and she can make the man who loves her pamper her very much. Tong Zhi wrote a letter of guarantee to Wen Li before the marriage, including that whenever Wen Li became anxious, Tong Zhi would be frightened. Although it is said that after marriage, "a man's mouth is a liar", Wen Li was able to marry Tong Zhi because she met a good man.
When doing housework at first, Wen Li told Tong Zhi: "Now is a new society. It is different. What matters is equality between men and women." And later, Tong Zhi's mother came to visit to make things difficult for Wen Li. Wen Li also came up with a set of words: "Mom, why do you still have the old ideas? Now is a new society, where men and women are equal."
On the surface, Wen Li is really a very particular person about men and women. An equal person, but what about when she gives birth to a child herself? I think it's a bit scary to think about it. Wen Li is the "distinctive" woman who is deeply influenced by the feudal "patriarchal" mentality. On the contrary, Tong Zhi is quite caring about the children.
In terms of the gender of children, some people may still think that "it is good to have a son, but it is impossible not to have a son." Let’s talk about Wen Li giving birth to a child in the TV series.
Tong Zhi is really doting on Wen Li. It can be said that there may not be many men who can be like Tong Zhi now. In the 1950s and 1960s, Wenli was lucky to have a husband who doted on his wife as much as Tong Zhi did.
As soon as Wen Li became pregnant, in Tong Zhi’s words, she became a little landowner, she didn’t have to do anything, she just lay down. There is a scene in the TV series: Wen Li is lying on the bed eating apples, while Tong Zhi is doing housework on the side. Wen Li is smiling with a bright smile on her face.
When I was pregnant, I also said, "Don't bump into my son, but don't squeeze my son." As a result, Wen Li was born a daughter. In fact, Tong Zhi has no idea of ??"preferring boys over girls". For him, it would be the same for him whether he was a boy or a girl, and he would feel the same pain. So when Wen Li asked him, he also said, "Both sons and daughters are fine." We will find that Wen Li really wants to have a son, but Tong Zhi doesn't think so.
After giving birth to her first child, Tong Zhi not only took care of Wen Li during confinement, but also washed the baby's diapers. Although he said, "What does it look like for me, a grown man, to wash diapers?" Li gave the order, and Tong Zhi obeyed. Although Tong Zhi would occasionally smoke with Dazhuang behind Wen Li's back, he was still a good husband and doted on Wen Li.
During the years of starvation, there was a scene that touched me very much. A bowl of white rice went rancid. Tong Zhi said that he was not hungry and wanted to leave it to Wen Li and Yanni. Wen Li said that she was not hungry and wanted to leave it to Tong Zhi. As a result, the food turned out to be sour after being pushed around. When two people are very hungry, all they can think about is each other. There is no doubt that they are truly in love. It was also during that difficult period that Wenli fell while learning to ride a bicycle and aborted her son who was finally pregnant.
From then on, Wen Li sometimes complained about Tong Zhi: "It's all your fault, our son fell and died."
Perhaps from that time on, giving birth to a son became a Wen Li's heartache.
Later, she became pregnant with her second child again. Wen Li was very sensitive and said that this time she felt different from the last time. She kept vomiting, and Tong Zhi was always very loving and considerate to her. In fact, we can see that Tong Zhi doesn't want a son that much, he is more afraid that Wen Li will not give birth to a son, and Wen Li's hope will be disappointed. When she was pregnant with her second child, Wen Li was extra thoughtful and asked the doctor to take a look at her. When the doctor said it was her son, Wen Li was very happy.
However, Wen Li was born a daughter. After hearing this, she began to cry: "Where is my son? Did he hug him by mistake? He must be a son." On the contrary, Tong Zhi comforted He To persuade her, Tong Zhi also felt sorry for his newborn daughter, and Wen Li was so cruel that she couldn't look away.
Isn’t it said that men and women are equal? Didn’t you say you don’t favor boys over girls? Do you think it's ridiculous? In fact, Wen Li is the one who favors boys over girls.
A woman like Wen Li is a very hypocritical cultural person. When she is fighting for her own interests, she will say "men and women are equal", but in her heart she still "prefers boys over girls". How could there be such a cruel mother? His own daughter-in-law didn't even look at her when she was born, so he sent his second daughter Nanfang to his mother-in-law in his hometown to raise her.
In Wen Li’s opinion, her mother-in-law favored sons over daughters, but the old man really cared about her granddaughter.
Don’t you think this comparison is ridiculous?
In fact, Tong Zhi no longer wants children because he is also afraid that Wen Li will give birth to another daughter and he will not be able to withstand the blow. Tong Zhi is afraid of Wen Li and worried about her. When her third child was born, another daughter was born. Wen Li didn't even look at the child after giving birth, saying that she was "superfluous" because she was superfluous in the first place. When registering the child, Tong Zhi couldn't bear it and named the child Duoduo. The third daughter was raised by his side, and Tong Zhi was quite good to the child. He teased his daughter happily.
No matter how many children he has given birth to, Tong Zhi can be regarded as a very qualified husband: firstly, he does not have the mentality of favoring sons over daughters, and secondly, he will feel sorry for Wenli when he takes care of her confinement. , Third, he will help Wen Li take care of the children instead of just busy with his own work. In that era, for a man to be like this, Tong Zhi can be said to be really good.
What is it that I can’t figure out? Since when did Wen Li, a cultural person, turn into a woman deeply affected by feudal dross? When she discussed her rights with Tong Zhi and her mother-in-law, she said that men and women were equal, but when it came to herself, she still felt that "it would be better to have a son, but I wouldn't even care about having a daughter."
Wen Li is the most "patriarchal" woman. She is very petty. She got angry because Zhuang's sister-in-law said, "If this were in our countryside, she would be a grandma." gas. Because Wen Li didn't have a son, she couldn't be a grandmother, so she felt that Mrs. Zhuang's words offended her. What Sister-in-law Zhuang said is absolutely right: don't think you are great, don't take yourself too seriously, you are all afraid of her and I am not afraid of her, why should we all give in to her.
Sister-in-law Zhuang always helped you when you were in the most difficult times. She even cooked pig's trotters for you when you were pregnant and malnourished, but she was reluctant to eat them herself. Even though she has achieved such a high level as a person, she is still criticized by others. Wen Li can be described as a "white-eyed wolf".
There is another reason why I hate Wen Li: she never knows how to reflect on herself, she only knows how to complain, and she is a prodigal daughter-in-law.
It was obviously very difficult for the two of them to live a happy life at that time, but as a result, they had no money and still pretended to be good. They had to spend money in advance to perm their hair, buy new skirts, and watch some ballet. As a result, his family had no money, and he didn't even have money to send to his daughter. He could only eat vegetarian food and let Tong Zhi borrow money from Dazhuang. This matter is uncomfortable for anyone to deal with. Their family spent their money without restraint and then borrowed money. They are still living in dire straits.
For a pretentious woman like Wen Li, only Tong Zhi would pamper her, but as for her, she didn’t know how high the sky was.
She was really spoiled. She went to borrow money from her second sister, but they didn’t say anything to her. She didn’t feel any pain when she came back to complain to Tong Zhi. Someone borrowed money and made her angry. What kind of logic was it?
In real life, are there women like Wen Li? She talks about equality between men and women, but in her heart she still "prefers boys over girls and takes pride in giving birth to sons." Such a woman is terrible. If she becomes a mother-in-law, she will be an evil mother-in-law.