Control desire with "time-space distance method"
When a child accidentally bumps into temptation, create some distance in time and space to keep the temptation away and delay for a while. Psychologists say that if you put temptation after 10 minutes, then your brain is thinking about it with another part, which belongs to the illusory future world, and this is the so-called "10 minute principle".
"Holographic Effect" of Self-control
Self-control has a characteristic, which I call "holographic effect". In other words, if a person practices self-discipline in small matters, then his level of self-discipline in big matters is the same. Psychologists asked the participants to change some small habits, such as left-handed people using their right hands and changing their spoken English. As a result, they found that their self-discipline level in other aspects of life gradually improved, because their brain nerves responsible for self-control were exercised.
So we can train children from small things and gradually turn some small behaviors into habits and automatic behaviors. If you persist slowly, your child's self-discipline will be gradually trained like a muscle, and you won't feel too tired.
Create interesting monitoring methods
Various kinds of monitoring are very effective in ensuring self-discipline. We can help children develop some interesting monitoring methods that children like, such as alarm clocks, watches and diaries, or design some levels similar to games. I also made a table to monitor my habits. Don't list too many items, the simpler the better. Sometimes, it is also a kind of active monitoring that we tell others about children's good behavior and teachers.
Accept feelings and refuse to act.
An effective self-control method we can teach our children is to accept feelings and refuse to act. Research shows that accepting feelings and acknowledging desires is more conducive to self-control than not acknowledging them. Tell the children: I know you want sweets. Everyone likes sweets, and adults like sweets, but we only eat two sweets a day at most.
Talk to your future self
Some experts say that people nowadays are always more indulgent to themselves, and they will be more harsh when they treat themselves like strangers in the future. Imagine whether you are satisfied with your current behavior in the future and whether you are responsible for yourself in the future. For children, often leading children to look forward and look forward to the future will give them more motivation to do their current behavior well.