There is an episode in the first season of "Ode to Joy". Fan Shengmei is preparing to attend a high-end cocktail party. She proudly and excitedly says to the little earthworm:
"Sister, today, I just want to pinch the tip!"
Unexpectedly, Qu Yaoxiang appeared at the door humming a tune, looking at Fan Shengmei and laughing, the sarcasm in his eyes clear.
Sister Fan is not stupid, she knows what it means when a rich second generation like Xiaoqu shows that kind of look. She was furious and wanted to refute, but her eyes caught the blinging authentic bag on Xiao Qu's waist.
Suddenly, Fan Shengmei was like a deflated rubber ball. She hurriedly hid the fake goods she was holding behind her back, wishing she could lower them into the dust.
At that moment, the things she had relied on to maintain her dignity were severely trampled to pieces.
We can’t say that Xiaoqu is wrong. She has faced family conflicts since she was a child, and she hates the so-called plundering of women. Buying designer bags is as common as eating and breathing.
But she sharply exposed the little Jiujiu hidden in Sister Fan's heart, making her and her room of high-end imitation goods invisible in front of her like mice in a trap.
Therefore, Sister Fan has always had no confidence in front of Xiaoqu.
But the relationship is different. In terms of expensive clothes, she was far ahead of Sister Fan, but both Xiaoqu and Andy admired her very much and were willing to help her learn and grow and help her answer professional questions. She is warm, gentle, and talented, like a breeze. Whenever Xiaoqu encounters something sad, he will come to her and say, "Baby, please give me a hug."
The life she longs for can never be filled with brand-name clothes or bags. Therefore, her confidence has never been supported by expensive appearance.
My friend told me about a girl in their school who had only three words in life: buy, buy, buy.
When she first entered school, she caused quite a stir in the school because of her good looks and ability to dress up. How many freshmen are fashionable? But at that time she only wore midriff-baring crop tops and wide-leg pants.
A friend told me that she bought an LV bag in the first semester of her freshman year. When she was carrying her to class, the girls' eyes were eager to stick to her.
Her family is in good condition, and her clothes are different almost every day. The boys who chase her and the girls who envy her can line up from the dormitory area to the teaching building. Every day she carries a small bag and wears high heels and walks by the roadside with her head held high, and she gets a lot of admiring or jealous looks.
I heard that one time when she was not at school, the person doing routine hygiene inspection opened the door of her closet. There was a crash, and the closet full of brand-name clothes and bags overflowed. As high as a hill.
Everyone thought that she would remain so glamorous until graduation, but in her junior year, she suddenly became depressed and lost her former energy.
Rumors about her gradually spread. It turned out that her family was only middle-class and not as wealthy as her classmates thought. Because she is addicted to famous brands, she loses all her living expenses every semester as soon as she gets them. If she doesn't have enough money, she continues to ask for it from her family.
Over time, the family simply cannot afford it.
In addition, she never studied, and failed in more than a dozen subjects in the final exam. Her family was so angry that they only gave her a few hundred yuan for food every month. She threatened to stop caring about her if she couldn't graduate on time.
Forced, she had no choice but to pick up the textbook. However, the foundation was already rotten, and no matter how hard I tried to catch up, I still couldn't get enough credits. Finally, I had no choice but to postpone my graduation.
The students around me are either going to graduate school with excellent grades, or they are finding good jobs with substantial resumes. She was the only one, together with her cabinet of lifeless brand names, flipping through textbooks that she couldn't understand at all, looking forward to graduating as soon as possible.
She didn't come to the graduation dinner. When talking about her, no one is envious.
When I was attending a dinner party, I met a sister, a company manager, who had just turned 30 years old.
Before I sat down, someone told me that her family was very rich and the company belonged to her husband’s family. Not only that, but my natal family is also one of the best in the area.
For such a proud girl, buying famous brands is like picking cabbage in the supermarket.
I thought she would be fully armed, but I didn’t know that she came here wearing only a shirt and skirt with no brand name visible.
Although she was dressed simply, her eyes exuded confidence and wisdom, making people want to get close to her and trust her for no reason. After sitting down, she sometimes listened quietly with a smile, sometimes told a joke to liven up the atmosphere, and sometimes made a sharp comment. The whole meal was relaxed, efficient and rigorous.
After the meal, the heads of several companies handed her their business cards, hoping to work together.
When I sent her home, I mentioned my previous conjecture, and she answered me with a smile:
"I It’s not that you can’t afford a famous brand, it’s just that no matter how expensive it is, it’s just a piece of clothing. As long as it’s elegant and decent, it can meet the needs of work and go out to social occasions. I know that many girls want to wear famous brands to enhance their appearance. Aura, but if you have no knowledge or ideas and just rely on Prada bags or Cucci skirts to get orders, you will definitely be spotted by others at a glance. Just like Cinderella in full dress, your true colors will show up when the time comes. ”
Whether it’s shoes worth thousands or bags worth tens of thousands, they’re just clothes. Since it is clothing, it is meant to be worn and used by others. Don’t give it too many additional meanings, let alone position buying as your entire life.
There was once a program that gathered several rich girls and a working girl, dressed them in beautiful clothes, put on exquisite makeup and hair, and then each held a Mask, standing in front of the stage, letting the audience find out which one is the working girl.
The results couldn’t be more obvious. The rich girls are all dignified and elegant, with natural postures, but the working girl is timid and extremely nervous. All viewers chose the correct answer.
Many girls are wearing Givenchy coats, carrying Chanel bags, and Alexander Mankiw high heels, but you are wearing a plain shirt and jeans, sitting in front of them , I will immediately look at you and look down on you from head to toe.
If I wear famous brands, I am rich; if you wear street food, you are poor.
Leave aside your maxed-out credit card and Ant Huabei that no one wants to inherit. Even if you can afford these, if you have such an idea, it can only be said that you are rich, but not rich. .
Take away these external things, and your heart will be pitifully barren.
A truly confident person never needs to be armed with a famous brand.
A friend who runs his own company earns enough money every year to buy a room full of famous brands, but what he likes to do most is wear cotton-padded clothes that cost tens of dollars a piece. Wearing a T-shirt and big underpants, he sits at a street barbecue stall and plays draft beer with everyone.
We can also have our own confidence.
Your knowledge, experience, experience, the way you treat others, the books you have read, the people you have loved, the roads you have traveled, and the scenery you have seen will all settle in your heart and transform into your confidence. .
We can consider arming ourselves with famous brands as a short-term requirement, but please don’t let shopping become your lifelong pursuit.
The real coolness is not the cabinet of limited-edition bags acquired through frugality -
It’s the fact that I can afford big-name brands, but I can’t afford them. I have the confidence to choose not to buy it.