Our company is engaged in engineering. At that time, I was in charge of a project in Tangshan, because most of them had to live on the construction site. After a long time, I knew that the phenomenon of temporary couples on the construction site did exist. For some reasons, some men go out to work, and some women go out to work. Everyone has worldly desires, and after a long time, they all have physiological needs, so they will naturally form a temporary couple. However, this practice is not only harmful to ethics, but also harmful to the family, and will eventually harm others and themselves.
This phenomenon is especially common on construction sites, because most of them go out to work in the same place or in a nearby village, and some of them have some relatives. Young men and women have been together for a long time, and they have a good impression on each other, so it is inevitable that they will cheat. Rural workers are the most bitter and respectable people. Most of them have little knowledge and don't think too much about things. In the huge group of migrant workers, there are many temporary couples. To put it bluntly, temporary couples are cheating or betraying their marriage.
People often report on killing people because of cheating. No matter what, people should not choose temporary couples, because this kind of behavior is a betrayal of ethics, and temporary couples are playing with fire. Temporary couples will not be accepted either legally or morally. However, it is also normal from the perspective of human nature. How did the temporary couple come into being? A netizen revealed his situation! After a casual meeting, I spoke to my heart. I met several times and learned that this woman's family was very tired.
this guy said, anyway, I rented the house, so much money for one person and so much money for two people. Why don't you return your house and stay at my place? At first, the woman disagreed. Later, the family also waited for the money to be used, and I thought that the buddy was right. So they lived together. After consultation, the eating system is AA. The rent is still paid by the man. After work, whoever comes back early will cook. This looks like a normal couple's life.
But there is no windtight wall in the world. Finally, one day, my wife knew about this buddy. Find a place to live, beat up, and get divorced. Later, I was persuaded by many people, but I finally didn't leave. Although the family relationship is still maintained, it exists in name only. So don't take the road of husband and wife. Judging from this incident, there are many reasons for the formation of temporary husband and wife. The rent is high and the salary is low. In addition, there is a human side. The everlasting single life really makes people lonely.
don't say it's a person, just bugs and animals need a companion. This reminds me of a few days ago, I saw some migrant workers' brothers on the Internet and brought their wives into the construction site. Because they couldn't afford to rent a house, they could only stay in the dormitory with a piece of cloth. These things do exist and can't be solved. In a word, life is not easy, but life is difficult. Although the temporary couple solved many practical problems, the family was cold when they were exposed. Don't do it.
This phenomenon is quite common. Last winter, I went deep into an enterprise to make a survey and found this problem. There were more than 8 migrant workers in this enterprise, 132 of whom stayed in the enterprise for a long time, and the rest all lived at home. Among these 132 people, 21 couples were "temporary couples". In addition, there were 4 women living at home and men staying for a long time in proper relationship, and this enterprise maintained this relationship for more than 2%.
this person lives in different dormitories in this enterprise, but these people sometimes stay in small hotels next to the enterprise. Third, some people in enterprises don't avoid people at all. They eat together and go to the streets together. It is very open for women to wash clothes for men, and it is also open for men to help women do heavy work. When others said it, they all laughed it off.
don't think that as a temporary couple, one party can get anything cheap! Something happened, it's too late to regret it!
There is a woman among our relatives. I call her cousin!
Cousin drinks all the year round, which is bad for his health. No husband and wife, all relatives know that they have been separated from each other for 2 years! My cousin left her at home in order to earn tuition for her daughter who went to college. I went to a pig farm in Yunxiao, Xiamen alone to cook for the workers.
The workers in the pig farm are all men of her age. She hit it off with a man who often helped her and started a temporary husband-and-wife pig farm. The conditions were not good. They rented a house outside, and their cousins were full of joy. With the physiological needs, the man will give her an extra 1 yuan. The good times didn't last long, and my aunt's lower body ached and itched. Got condyloma acuminatum, which is a sexually transmitted disease. The man admitted that he had caught the disease with his young lady and gave it to her. The disease cost 2 thousand yuan and has not been cured, and men only paid half of the treatment fee.
My aunt quietly went back to the local area to see a doctor, only to be found by people in the village when she saw the venereal disease, and the village spread it with great uproar. Naturally, it reached my uncle's ears, and my uncle knew that he was guilty of my aunt. He didn't divorce his cousin, but he went to the pig farm to argue with the man. People have already left, and it's cold when people leave! It took my aunt another 1 thousand to get better, which is like beating a chicken with an egg All the money earned from part-time work was used to see sexually transmitted diseases. Since then, my aunt has regretted it and is in pain!
Yes, what a temporary couple. To put it bluntly, it is adultery. If you do such a thing, you will accept the moral accusation of others when you are known, that is, rubbing your spine. Being looked down upon, being scolded can only hide and cry! So don't joke about such a thing!
I have seen a real example, a migrant worker, all kinds of WeChat with women near his workplace. Needless to say, it really makes sense to cast a net to catch more fish. He hooked up with two women as he wished, one bought him clothes and fruit, and the other took him shopping and bought a mobile phone when he was off duty. The problem is that both women have husbands. The man is married and has children in his hometown. It may be said that it is more appropriate to have an affair, but the important thing is that the two women also know each other, so there is no solution. I can only doubt that the man's ability is too strong? But there was nothing that didn't leak. One of the women's husbands knew about it, took a knife to the door and chopped people. The working man jumped off the wall and never came back. Everything was not cleaned up. Later, he called the boss to ask for the salary. Personally, I think, after all, you are not a reasonable and legal partner for life, so don't hurt yourself and cheat others for the sake of illusory loneliness. After all, what you say is to destroy the family's affair. What do you say? < P > I think it's nothing to be a temporary couple, as long as it doesn't affect both families. Three chapters of the contract. I'm a playboy, and my wife is at home, but everyone has worldly desires, so it's impossible not to have sex all the year round. Even men can't stand it unless they are sick.
I found one from Guizhou in 28, but I said yes first, play is for fun, not for real. For example, if one party calls home, the other party can't make a sound, and there is an AA system for renting, but I still have to pay more. We are all husband and wife when we are away, and we will go back to our homes and find our mothers during the Chinese New Year holiday. If one family is in difficulty, I borrow from the other, but I have to repay it. For example, my family bought a house and needed money. She lent me 6, yuan, which was not enough. She borrowed it from her hometown, but I had to repay it. The year before last, her husband died of drinking, and I sent her to the car. Last year, her family built a house, and I lent her 35, yuan. (The money she lent me before has been repaid.) In fact, we trust and support each other, nothing. I'm asking her now if she's still looking for a husband. She said she wouldn't. She'll stop working and go back to take care of her grandson. Find a husband and ask for trouble. But she is very strict with me, and is not allowed to play with other women. If she finds out, she will hit that woman, which is more strict than my wife. My brother and sister-in-law came to my place to play. She was also called brother and sister-in-law, and it didn't matter. My son came and treated my son well. As long as it doesn't affect the family, it's nothing if you keep it secret well. We have been together for ten years. Once we were apart, she cried once. Please keep your mouth shut and don't scold.
physiological needs are normal, and temporary couples are immoral. Fifteen years ago, after my divorce, my colleagues introduced me to a 5-year-old lady. We both work in Shanghai. She has a family. At the beginning, she said that she wanted a divorce, so I really loved her. Her brother and sister-in-law also lived about 5 meters away from me, and they all looked familiar. Her brother and sister-in-law didn't object to us being together, during which my relatives in my hometown introduced me to each other many times and I politely declined many times. After being together for a long time, I found that she didn't want to divorce. Later, I focused on getting to know her and her family better, and she told the truth. When I learned that her husband loves her very much but can't satisfy her physically, I chose to persuade her. After all, life is short and they have a lovely and well-behaved daughter, so we should cherish the hard-won complete family. Later, I offered not to be together, because I still wanted to find a wife to get married, and I wanted to have a perfect family. She agreed that I could find a wife, but every time my eldest sister-in-law called me home for a blind date, she seemed so helpless and tried to stop me. Later, I changed my workplace and moved away. Although she got carsick, she found me. She said that as long as you didn't find a wife, I would stick to you forever! Later, my uncle introduced my present wife to me. She came to accompany me for the last time two days before my wife came to Shanghai. She cried all night. Although only three or four years of feelings, but I will never forget it!
Temporary couples will not be accepted from the legal or moral point of view. However, it is also normal from the perspective of human nature.
how did the temporary couple come into being? A buddy revealed the details. He earns 4 yuan a month and rents 4 yuan. Besides living expenses, I can leave 2 yuan a month. There is a woman near him with a salary of 3 yuan. If there is not much left except rent and living expenses. After a casual meeting, I spoke to my heart. I met several times and learned that this woman's family was very tired. This guy said, anyway, I rented the house, and one person has that much money, and two people have that much money. Why don't you return your house and stay at my place? At first, the woman disagreed. Later, the family also waited for the money to be used, and I thought that the buddy was right. So they lived together. After consultation, the eating system is AA. The rent is still paid by the man. After work, whoever comes back early will cook. This looks like a normal couple's life. But there is no windtight wall in the world, and finally one day this buddy's business was known by his wife. Find a place to live, beat up, and get divorced. Later, I was persuaded by many people, but I finally didn't leave. Although the family relationship is still maintained, it exists in name only. So don't take the road of husband and wife.
judging from this incident, there are many reasons for the formation of temporary husband and wife. The rent is high and the salary is low. In addition, there is a human side. The everlasting single life really makes people lonely. Don't say it's a person, it's just bugs and animals that need a companion. This reminds me of a few days ago, I saw some migrant workers' brothers on the Internet and brought their wives into the construction site. Because they couldn't afford to rent a house, they could only stay in the dormitory with a piece of cloth. These things do exist and can't be solved. In a word, life is not easy, but life is difficult. Although the temporary couple solved many practical problems, the family was cold when they were exposed. Don't do it.
Wen/Zhu Ge chattered
My view on the phenomenon of "temporary couples" of migrant workers is: reasonable and unreasonable, absurd but helpless.
About 1 years ago, I came into contact with a temporary couple of migrant workers. Xiao Xue, the man, met at a fellow villager's party. Because we are not far away and have all left their homes, we have frequent contacts.
Xiao Xue was 28 years old, his wife and children were in his hometown, and he worked alone in other places as a construction site. With the in-depth understanding, he told me that he had a lover, who was also on the construction site, cooking, and was 26 years old. Her husband and children were in their hometown, and they were all foreigners like him.
One morning, I went to the construction site to find Xiao Xue, and I happened to see them sleeping together. When the woman saw me entering the door, she quickly got into bed with her head covered, and there was a bra and underwear beside the bed ... Xiao Xue was used to it and didn't feel shy at all. I retired, and when Xiao Xue got dressed, we left together. The woman was well dressed and greeted at the door, but plain clothes could not cover her plump body.
I asked Xiao Xue, do you live with women outside, regardless of your wife's feelings? Xiao Xue shan shan said, he has been out for at least a few months and sometimes a year. He is a normal man with needs, otherwise what should I do? I said I didn't think about finding a young lady. Xiao Xue said I did. First, it costs money to find a young lady. He doesn't earn much, and secondly, he is afraid of getting sick.
After a while, Xiao Xue got involved with the woman who cooked on the construction site. Both of them were working outside and the other half was in their hometown, so they became temporary couples. On the one hand, it solves the physiological needs, on the other hand, it also makes a temporary companion to warm each other in a strange city.
Zhu Ge's point of view:
There are a large number of migrant workers in China, who are forced to leave their homes for their livelihood, but they also have physiological needs. For various reasons, they chose the safest and most economical way, that is, to find a woman who is also a migrant worker and get married as a temporary couple.
The temporary couple of migrant workers is reasonable but unreasonable, because it is a betrayal of the other half, but there is no other way, absurd but helpless. Although I disapprove of this phenomenon and behavior, I understand the difficulties of migrant workers. Who wants to leave their homes and abandon their wives and children?
Wen/Zhu Ge chattered
In 22, I worked with villagers in a small toy factory in Tang Zhen, Pudong New Area, where there were many boys and girls, and many men worked outside and women stayed at home with their children.
things will happen after a long time.
There is a woman who seems to be Huoshan. She is not tall, but she can talk and has a pretty face. This has happened with many men.
with the mechanic, with the printer, and with the uncle security, it's a mess.
In the printing workshop, there is also a couple who are both fellow villagers. One is the wife (A male) and the other is the husband (A female). After a long time, they go out to rent a house, and then go to work and go together after work every day. Life is very nourishing!
Later, the man's wife (female B) came. It should be because all the children in the family have grown up. The woman's husband (male B) also came. I heard that he knew about them. One night, the two women tore them up because the man (male A) went to the woman (female A) and was caught by his wife. The man said that she lent me 5 yuan and asked her for money. That woman's husband (B male) found out that your business in recent years is not worth 5 yuan?
then the fight started, and the whole factory knew about it.
There is also a woman from Sichuan, whose husband is from Lujiang. It seems that her physiology can't satisfy her, and she has gone out to rent a house with a man from Feidong. The whole factory belongs to Lujiang. You said that everyone in the family knows, but it won't do if her husband comes! Finally, under pressure, the man in Feidong resigned.
One more thing, it's also in Pudong, Shanghai, and this time it's a toy in Lujiazhai, Xinguang Village.