First, ask your girlfriend to find a relative of her family or a close person as a symbolic matchmaker, but only two or four. You should invite the matchmaker to dinner, give gifts and deliver things. Then ask the matchmaker to go to her house to discuss the matter of going through the door according to your request.
You are in love. First, you go through the door. You can give the bride price as much as their family wants. Then there are alcohol, tobacco and gifts.
The first time a woman comes to your house, she calls your parents parents parents, and your parents will give them red envelopes. Brother-in-law and sister-in-law also come together, and they also want to give red envelopes. (When relatives go to your house for the first time, they will be greeted by firecrackers at the door, and they will be sent with firecrackers when they leave.)
Then they will pick up their in-laws. First, your family will bring gifts to pick up their family members, and then they will go to your house to find the most talkative and respectable person to accompany them. Then their family will invite you to recognize their relationship (firecrackers are required when coming and going, the bigger the better; The more grand the reception, the better).
Note: Cousins and uncles don't associate with each other, but before going through the door, the man needs to bring a gift to the door to show his respect.
then, after you go through the door, the formal relationship between the two sides has been established, and the next step is to get married. It's time for the two sides to discuss. The procedure is basically the same as going through the door, but also a gift and so on. There is one more thing to note here.
all the bride price given by your family will be brought to you when the woman gets married, and the dowry is bought by the woman alone. So don't worry about the amount of bride price. It's a good rule in our family.