Ming Lan's cognition of Hualan as a child is this:
"She is a real arrogant paradise woman, her looks, family background and courage."
Yes, she is the eldest daughter of Sheng Jia, Sheng Wa and Wang. At that time, Wang had just entered the door, and there was no Lin Xiaoniang, and the newlyweds were inseparable; At that time, Yi Sheng had just set foot on his official career, and was just a small alternate governor, who was assigned to a bitter and cold place. When Hualan was born, she couldn't even find a big momma.
However, Hualan never cried or made trouble at that time. When he was older, he helped the director of Wang Guanjia. It can be said that Hualan was the only child who shared the trouble with the king, so she just sighed:
"To put it bluntly, among many children, Hua Shantou is the one that makes me sad the most."
So, speaking of relatives of Hualan, Yi Sheng and Wang Can can be said to have spared no effort to inquire, and it took grandma's strength to choose Yuan Wenshao, the second son of the loyal government.
However, people are not as good as heaven, but after marriage, Hualan is far from the realm of "harmony between husband and wife, harmony between piano and instrument" as Yi Sheng said.
However, this favored son of heaven has achieved a counterattack with "three forbearance". What is the "three forbearance"?
0 1 After forbearing her mother-in-law Hualan to marry Yuan Jia, her mother-in-law not only calculated Hualan's dowry, but also began to "be a demon" as soon as she became pregnant.
When Hualan was pregnant for the first time, her mother-in-law directly stuffed a lot of concubines into her son's room.
Hua Lan had just entered Yuan Jia's door, and Sheng Jia was not in Beijing. She is very helpless, very helpless, very helpless, and can only bear it. In the end, the child was not saved. Fortunately, Hualan is open-minded and cheerful, and has just come out of the pain of losing a child.
Hua Lan was pregnant for the second time, but her mother-in-law kept her standing for several hours.
This baby Hua Lan is pregnant with Sister Zhuang. At this time, Shengjia was not in Beijing, and Hualan returned to her family to report good news instead of bad news. She was obviously bullied by her mother-in-law, but she still endured a sentence without telling her family.
When Hualan was pregnant for the third time, her mother-in-law gave birth to a new moth and insisted that Hualan be pregnant as a housekeeper. Funny, it is the eldest son's daughter-in-law who is the heir to Yuan Jia's title. Why does Hualan have to be the housekeeper?
At that time, Hua Lan was pregnant with Shi Ge, and Sheng Jia had arrived in Beijing. However, Hua Lan is highly married. At that time, the strength of the Sheng family was not enough to compete with the Earl's House. Sheng Jia can only secretly help Hua Lan, but can't help her handle these contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Seeing this, everyone will think that Hua Lan can't stand three things any more, but she still gritted her teeth and swallowed blood, and endured it again.
When Hualan was pregnant for the fourth time, Hualan's mother-in-law directly used the "killer weapon"-snatched Hualan's only son, Shi Ge, and called her Shi Ge's character to please her.
Hua Lan's mother-in-law ignored her children, and her servants were lazy and didn't take good care of Brother Shi. When the children woke up, they climbed on the bed and knocked over the smoking hut. If it weren't for Hua Lan's daughter, Sister Zhuang, who arrived in time to save her younger brother, Hua Lan's eldest son almost died.
In the original work, I described the injury on my brother's face like this:
"I saw his delicate white face, shocking red on his forehead, which should have fallen off. Along the right eyebrow to the cheek, there is a row of finely red-hot scars, the most thrilling of which is on his right eyelid! If there is an accident, his eyes will be ruined. "
Sister Zhuang burned her hands full of bubbles to save her brother. However, Hualan's mother-in-law actually planted all her faults on her granddaughter, Sister Zhuang. She said that Sister Zhuang knocked over the smoky thatched cottage and hurt the disciples. She wanted to punish Sister Zhuang.
It is said that a child is a mother's life. Hualan couldn't help it any longer. She put a hair clasp on her neck and told her mother-in-law that anyone who dared to take the child away would die on the spot.
If you can't stand it, you don't need to stand it anymore. If you are grumpy, such as Lan and Wang, it is estimated that it has already erupted, but they must have been in Yuangu for a long time.
As mentioned earlier, Hua Lan's mother-in-law put a concubine in Yuan Wenshao's room when Hua Lan was pregnant with her first child.
There are not many descriptions of Yuan Wenshao's concubines in the original works. What is certain, however, is that instead of being jealous with them, Hualan gave her personal maid to her husband and let the maid give birth to an ordinary eldest son, which prevented her mother-in-law from saying that she could not have an eldest son.
I have to say that Hualan here is much smarter than a bunch of concubines in her husband's room.
Although Moran also used the same method as Hualan-taking a personal servant girl to make room for her husband Han Liang, she was always jealously jealous with Han Liang's concubine Chunge, thinking only about how to keep her husband's heart, but forgot to give birth to her son earlier to keep her position.
Maybe Mrs. Liang will help her a little more in order to give birth to her first son, and her husband will cherish her more for the sake of her children when he sees such a lovely first son. Unfortunately, she lost both her husband's love and her mother-in-law's support. No wonder Liu Shi, the wife of Long Feng, lamented:
"The first sister-in-law, know eldest brother is meaningless, separate is only a matter of time. It is true to persuade my husband to make progress. Three years of filial piety, having a son soon, the overall situation will be settled. Wan's concubine room can't be regenerated, there is only one maid. What's the use of spoiling again? What's the point of telling her? This is really smart and stupid. "
Therefore, "forbearance" is a science. Endure is endure, endure means must be done, this is talk.an excellent. An excellent course.
Yuan Wenshao, a forbearing husband, is a typical "foolish and filial man". Because Yuan Wenshao has a brother on it, Yuan Wenshao is the second son of the Yuan family, and his parents prefer his brother Yuan, so Yuan Wenshao is too "loveless".
Sister Rong is on the left and Yuan Wenshao is on the right.
Although her mother bullied Hua Lan, Yuan Wenshao, who didn't understand filial piety, saw it in her eyes. Although he felt sorry for Hualan, he obeyed his mother for a little love.
It was not until he and Hualan's first son almost died because of their ignorance that Yuan Wenshao suddenly realized that the days of blindly ignoring his wife, children and his small family should be over.
Yuan Wenshao gave his mother to the maid, beat her, kicked her out, and said angrily to his mother:
"My father and I gave all our wages to my mother, and the fields and shops at home were in her hands. When Hua Lan was in charge, she wanted to use her house, but her mother refused. What's so good about this family? ! If you want Hualan to marry him, let me know. If you have difficulties at home, you should try to make outsiders look down on you and ask the Yue family to look down on you. Your son will also give you hands! No need to cover, no harm to the body, no injury! "
Since then, Yuan Wenshao has been doubly good to Hualan. Not only did he promise to earn back all the dowry of Hualan, but he also bought a Zhuangzi for a family of three to play in their small family.
In addition to being a policeman, middle-aged Yuan Wenshao even got bored with Hua Lan wherever he went, and actually fell in love with Hua Lan. Their lives were as happy as their first love. No wonder it makes Ming Lan jealous.
It is precisely because Hualan's patience with her husband's ignorance and filial piety is almost textbook-level that she can impress her husband and let Yuan Wenshao understand Hualan's goodness in hindsight, which really opens Hualan's happy life.
Write at the end:
Hualan's example tells us that you can only be a master if you have suffered. Endure what ordinary people can't bear, and then they can't bear it.
Life is not a lifetime of luck. Even if you have a good family, it only means that you won the lottery at the beginning. How to cancel the lottery depends on your own ability.
This is especially true for women in marriage. Don't put on airs with your husband in trivial matters after marriage, embarrass him in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and turn a good sign into a bad one.
That's too uneconomical.