How can a high EQ refuse an invitation from others? Many people sometimes really don't want to participate in activities, but they don't know how to refuse. Sometimes refusal can become a very embarrassing thing and annoying. Direct refusal may hurt each other's heart and even affect each other's mutual affection. Let's see how to reject others' invitation with high emotional intelligence.
How to decline an invitation from someone with high emotional intelligence 1 First, let the other person cancel it himself.
When we want to refuse someone's invitation, we'd better get ahead of the other person's thinking, break the routine and come up with a clever plan to let the other person cancel it on his own. For example, if you are studying and your classmates invite you out to play, you can say: I have set a goal for myself. It will take three hours to familiarize yourself with the contents of the book today, and you will never go out to play until you finish reading it.
Your attitude must be firm. Even if the other person guessed that you were looking for a reason to shirk, he was too embarrassed to ask you out again and had to cancel the invitation himself.
Second, speak frankly and advise each other.
In most cases, when we do have reasons why it is inconvenient to accept an invitation, we can directly explain that as long as you are sincere and have the right reasons, you can convince the other party that your reasons are true and your refusal is out of helplessness. Even if you fail to agree to his invitation, you can still forgive you.
Third, procrastination and prevarication.
Generally speaking, the tone of refusal should be euphemistic and the meaning should be firm, but sometimes, when you can't make up your mind or don't want to categorically refuse to destroy the relationship, you can use delaying tactics according to the situation.
Fourth, preemptive strike.
When someone sends you an invitation, you always hope to accept it smoothly. Once you open your mouth, you will refuse directly, which will make him feel "faceless" and cause dissatisfaction with you.
It is the best policy to refuse to attack first and defend first. Before the other person speaks, you speak first, as if inadvertently, you have blocked the other person's mouth, so that the other person can no longer send out invitations, and because the other person has not made it clear to you, your refusal will not embarrass him.
How to decline the invitation of people with high emotional intelligence? 2.
If you want to reject people with high emotional intelligence, you must first think seriously. What are you thinking about? Mainly wondering why the other party will find you? For example, I borrowed money from you. Why did I borrow it from you? For example, if you make a request, why do others choose you? For example, if someone likes you, why do you choose you?
Think clearly about these problems. The process of thinking is actually the process of finding answers. This process is to let you decide for yourself whether to refuse or agree. So this process of thinking is very important.
Think of a reason.
If you want to reject people with high emotional intelligence, you must think of a good reason. Because you want to refuse others, there is no doubt that it is definitely not unreasonable. If you want to refuse others, you must have a good reason. This reason seems reasonable, but it does not hurt the harmony between the two sides. Therefore, you must think about this reason for refusing others, because this reason is your best means of refusal.
Decisively refuse.
If you want to reject people with high emotional intelligence, you have to refuse decisively. Since you have decided to refuse, you must refuse decisively. Decisiveness means that you can't drag your feet, you can't be timid, and refusal means simply not leaving others in suspense.
Some people always like to leave some thoughts for others when they refuse others. In the end, they failed to get things done well, but attracted complaints from the other side. In fact, this is the most uneconomical thing. So now that you have decided to refuse others, refuse it decisively.
Use good language.
If you want to reject people with high emotional intelligence, you have to use good language. It is often said that language is an art and using it well is a skill. Words spoken by different people taste completely different. So when you refuse others, you should use good language and conquer others with the charm of language. Maybe others will be very unhappy, but they can't find your fault. It can be said that there is nothing to do.
Soft and hard.
If you want to reject people with high emotional intelligence, you have to be both soft and hard. Reject different people in different ways. Because everyone's personality is different, some people won't get angry even if you refuse him/her outright. Such people are called gentlemen. But some people refuse him/her no matter which way you use.
Will give you face, this kind of person we call a villain. Therefore, the method of rejecting a gentleman and a villain must be different. It can be a little harder to refuse a gentleman, because even if it is difficult, you will not be complained. But you can take some soft measures to refuse the villain, not because you are afraid, but because you don't want to leave some unnecessary hidden dangers for yourself.
How to decline the invitation of people with high emotional intelligence? Some people may feel that in order to give each other face, they need to politely refuse or pretend not to see it, so that neither side will be embarrassed. But euphemistic refusal seems to be good for others, but in fact it will have a negative impact on interpersonal relationships.
On the one hand, euphemism will take time and energy, and you could have refused the request in one breath. Because of your euphemistic attitude, you suppressed your emotions and caused tension in your relationship. Moreover, there are many reasons for you to find, and the other party can understand what you mean. It is better to say it directly and be sincere.
On the other hand, it is easy for others to lose trust in themselves. Although you want to save face for the other party, when you can't persist, you will leave others with an unreliable impression. This kind of refusal is actually inappropriate.
If you really don't want to accept the invitation, the most effective way is to refuse it directly, but you should also pay attention to the method.
For example, the other party wants to invite you shopping, but you have other plans. You can say, "Shopping? You did a good job. I have long wanted to invite you to go shopping, but I have other plans for the weekend. I am really sorry. "
Although it is also a direct refusal, it seems that you are more sincere. When we hear other people's requests, we can first agree with each other's views, eliminate the embarrassing situation caused by refusal, and then give reasons.
Sometimes, the other party will make some unreasonable demands. At this time, you can't just say that I can't. You have to put it another way.
For example, if the leader gives you an impossible task, you can say, "I'll try first and report back to you." When you try to find the impossible, the leader won't think you are irresponsible.
Rejection is actually a very artistic knowledge. If you don't know how to refuse, you will be laughed at for low emotional intelligence.