From this perspective, seeking care and satisfaction is his unfinished event, his complex. From this, this person will be very concerned about the attitude of others towards him, especially the affirmation of his efforts.
Because of this mentality or consciousness, on the one hand, this person will be diligent, self-reliant and tenacious, but on the other hand, he will be sensitive, anxious, suspicious and insecure.
The goal of this kind of psychological counseling is to help this person complete his unfinished events, so that he can fully satisfy his love and rebuild his personality.
Sounds like a long trip. There is a long way to go in Xiu Yuan, and I will go up and down. Need to have such a mentality, take your time, don't worry, improve your state and reshape your personality. It's hard to say.
When it comes to complexity, it is normal to have complexity, and the key is to fix it. In traditional Chinese medicine, the general principle is no pain, but the pain is unreasonable.
Psychological counseling believes that indifference, neglect, rejection, frustration, etc. Will happen in daily life. These negative emotions accumulate too much and need to be washed, purified and detoxified.
Complex refers to the ideological tendency composed of repressed unconscious thoughts, feelings, perceptions and memories. , showing a special preference or dislike for people or things of a certain type or place.
Plot basically belongs to a kind of "autonomy" or "autonomy" existence, which can keep in touch with our overall psychological system, but it will also split, break away and even be independent.
Therefore, the emergence and disappearance of complex has its own laws, which are often not controlled by our consciousness, and even can control our self-consciousness.
When the plot is touched and works, no matter whether people realize it or not, the complex can always have a strong emotional influence on people's psychological behavior, even a dominant influence, such as strong love or hate, happiness or sadness, gratitude or anger.
Emotion is not the same as subconscious, but complex is the embodiment of subconscious. Generally speaking, the complex is hidden in the deep layer of the subconscious mind, and after the analysis of psychological counseling, it is promoted to the level of personality and effectively recognized and resolved. This is called repairing.
Therefore, the purpose of psychological counseling is not to let visitors eliminate a plot, but to let visitors eliminate the negative effects and negative effects of this plot through self-cognition and combing.
Jung once said, "As long as we can't perceive and understand our complex, we will be controlled and manipulated by it to varying degrees."
Among them, psychoanalysis is to turn the primary process into the secondary process and solve the complex of deep consciousness to the surface.
The formation of psychological disorder is a negative complex reaction caused by the depression or addiction of psychological ability, and it is a black hole of mental health and personality perfection.
The purpose of insight analysis is to make visitors "turn the unconscious into conscious" for integration and repair.
At this level, psychoanalysis can also be referred to as "consciousness analysis" for short, with the purpose of helping visitors understand which knots are affecting his behavior and how to alleviate them.
In a word, for psychoanalytic theory, the essence of psychological counseling is the process that psychological counselors identify and deal with the specific complex of visitors.
Its identification process should explore its specific emotions with visitors, experience the subconscious needs behind thinking patterns or preferences and prejudices, and its processing process needs to reach an agreement with visitors on the adjustment methods suitable for him.
The core work category of psychological counselors is to identify and deal with the plot. How to identify? Recognition is probably through thinking, emotion, behavior, language and so on. , like a detective.
There is a powerful common sense library, which has what it should look like under normal circumstances. Compare the two as a ruler and see if there is anything unusual. This is an abnormal place.
How to deal with it? The core is four questions. What are they? Why? What will happen? What shall we do? First of all, what is it? Is to identify, why is to explore the reasons. What will happen? It is development. What will happen if we continue not to intervene? What should we do? Where should we start to intervene?
Every consultation is to answer these four questions. Basically, there is a direction and specific steps, processes and starting points.
Let's call it a day. Thank you for your appreciation.