What is the custom for girls to get married here in Zhanjiang, Guangdong?

Zhanjiang has the custom of "looking for a house" or "looking for a family". In the past, the woman's parents sent people to visit the man, and the man gave a banquet and gave people red envelopes. At present, the woman can go to the man's house in an upright manner, on the one hand, she can understand the situation, on the other hand, she can let the man's parents see her future daughter-in-law, but it still contains the legacy of "finding a house". Open-book marriage is commonly known as "eight-character", which is an ancient marriage custom and is still very popular in Zhanjiang. In the past, the ceremony of matching eight characters was very grand. The woman sends her birthday to the man's house with red paper, which is called "sending eight characters". That man's birthday is also written in red paper. Choose an auspicious day and put the red paper with the birthdays of both parties on the man's ancestral altar or rice jar. After three days, nothing happened, which means "good omen", and then you can "match the eight characters". Please ask the fortune teller to pay a New Year's call, and the eight characters coincide so as to discuss the wedding date. If both parties agree, we will say something in good faith and end this marriage. Nowadays, fortune tellers are generally required to "match the eight characters". Without mutual help, everything is fine; If there is a gram, the fortune teller can suggest some ways to remedy the gram, so that "lovers get married." After choosing the right day to send the bride price, the next step is to choose the right day to send the bride price. Choosing a date is also called choosing a date, that is, choosing an auspicious day for marriage, and generally asking a fortune teller to choose a date. Now, some people determine the date by reading "almanac" (calendar) to pray for an auspicious day. Giving a bride price means that the man sends the bride price to the woman's house, commonly known as "bride price". In the past, there were certain procedures for Zhanjiang people to send bride price. It is necessary to write a "general's name card" and a "ceremony card" in red paper, with the words "Fuguijin" written on the front and "My brother-in-law xxx bowing" written on the back. The latter publishes the gift catalogue and the gift amount. Generally, the bride price includes chicken (female or male), pork leg, betel nut and gift cake, all of which are even numbers, meaning men and in-laws. After receiving the gift money, the woman needs to "re-employ", also called "counter-offer", and also issue "general name card" and "gift card". Generally, the man returns some gifts, and the prepared gifts are added. Among them, there is a "Zhuangyuan cake" made of rice flour wrapped in red paper, which is intended to have children in the future. There will be a dowry list in the future. With the development of society, the content of bride price is constantly changing. Two jobs have been abolished in most places, and the most popular betel nut gift has become history. In 1950s and 1960s, the bride price was mostly money, cloth, clothes, sweets and cakes, and fruits. "Three turns and one ring" (bicycles, sewing machines, watches, radios) appeared in the 1970s. In the 1980s, it became money and advanced electrical appliances, such as color TV sets, refrigerators and washing machines. Gold rings and necklaces have been very popular since the 1990s. In the past, the bride price was generally reserved for the woman's parents. Now, except for the bride price, almost all these bride prices are in the man's house when the woman gets married. When the bride's family receives the betrothal gift, they will give some gifts to relatives, friends and neighbors, such as candy and biscuits, to inform their daughter that she is going to get married. Nowadays, many young people change their customs, do not pay attention to bride price, and only send some gifts symbolically to their wives' homes, but they are still inseparable from the custom of giving bride price.