As long as we live, we are full of rejection and rejection. In intimate relationships, people will dislike each other for not returning messages, not washing dishes, playing mobile phones, cooking slowly, making less money, gaining weight, dragging their feet, being treasured by their mothers, and being irresponsible. I tried to write down what I thought, and my mind kept drifting through the cases I had done over the years. I think there are only four words to describe these dislikes: too many books.
In the parent-child relationship, there are more dislikes: disobedience, lack of effort, stupidity, carelessness, procrastination, rudeness, inattention, lack of sleep, incorrect attitude, and even for unfamiliar people, there are many dislikes: vanity, pretending to be X, immorality, lack of quality, arrogance, humility, cold-blooded, crying and complaining. What if another person always doesn't like me?
My answer to this answer is usually to understand why. Understand how disgust occurs and you will know how to deal with it. You can be angry, humble, hurt, complain and correct, if you just deal with it externally and don't like it. Simple external changes are of little significance to the improvement of self and relationship. You need to know what's behind your dislike.
We don't like, hate, dislike, accuse and control a person for only one reason: why can't you see me? When I dislike you playing with your mobile phone, I actually dislike why you ignore me. How I long for you to pay attention to me, take the initiative to talk to me, care about me, tell me how much you love me and let me know how important I am to you.
In interpersonal relationships, we need to be responded to.
You have to take the initiative to see that I am very uncomfortable, wronged, lonely and hard at the moment, and you have to take the initiative to come over and comfort me. If you ignore my emotions, still enjoy, be happy and immerse yourself in your own world, I will be very angry with you.
Maybe I don't even know that I have these bad feelings, but I can't see that your love for me is so happy, so indifferent and so indifferent.
Just because I didn't know I had these bad feelings, I didn't realize that I really needed your attention and response at this moment, and I couldn't open my heart to you to express myself.