I think you need to adjust your mentality. You and your mother-in-law are a family, and she is your husband’s mother. Is there anything wrong with your husband being nice to his mother? And you should be as kind to your mother-in-law as your husband is. You can't compete with her and be jealous. That will only make you look too out of place.
Your husband was raised by your mother-in-law. He is his biological son. Now that your husband is an adult, he knows that it is not easy for his parents to make up for their parents' difficulties. This is what children should do. It’s a perfectly normal thing to show your filial piety. He has a filial love for his mother, while he has a love between husband and wife for you. These two kinds of love are different.
And I also think that a mature person will respect his mother-in-law together with his husband at this time, and let your husband know that you also have this filial piety, so that the relationship between you and him will be stronger. good. If, on the other hand, you and your husband live together with your own father and parents, you will definitely treat your parents better, so if you change this matter to yourself, you can consider it from the other person's perspective, and then you will Got it.
You don’t need to feel any psychological burden at all. Just live your life as usual. You can’t let your husband break up with his mother because of you. And with this kind of thinking, I think you should not have children of your own. When you have children, you will no longer think like this.
After becoming a mother, a woman will give all her love to her children and always hope for the best for her children. When you watch your children grow up and get married day by day, you must be very happy in your heart. If your child is very accomplished and wants to share his achievements with you, and if your daughter-in-law becomes jealous of you at this time, what will you think of your daughter-in-law?
I think by then you will think that this daughter-in-law is ignorant, how can she still be jealous of her mother-in-law? So you have to look at this matter as a whole, not from your personal standpoint.