People who are made of iron can really be grinded out by a stone mill, and they are not jealous of mediocrity.
Be carried away by jealousy
Even heaven envies the elite.
I have no desire for spring, and everyone is jealous.
There is a poem that says: "A tree looks at a growing tree and hopes it can become a knife and an axe;" A grass looks at a grass and even expects wildfire to burn. "
Jealousy is a dark cloud in the blue sky.
Jealousy is a double-edged sword, which can not only protect itself from the enemy, but also hurt itself from the enemy.
For mediocrity and stupidity, others will not be jealous, nor will they disdain jealousy. The envy of others proves from the opposite that you are either excellent or outstanding.
Jealousy is your own enemy and also the enemy of others.
About jealousy
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Time-honored
Talk about jealousy, don't be too strict
Of course it's not a good word, but why do all great writers like to play tricks on it through the ages? It may also involve some kind of beauty that is hard to give up?
Othello is jealous, Lin Daiyu is jealous, Zhou Gongjin is jealous, and even those who are indomitable spirit in fairy tales are jealous. Jealousy makes them uneasy, rude, crazy, self-mutilation, makes them real and sad, desperate and desolate, and cannot but arouse people's double concern and sympathy.
This makes sense. In literature, whether it is a positive character or a negative character, the purer it is, the more difficult it is to communicate with readers. As long as there is such a problem as jealousy, it immediately enters the psychological perception system of normal people and begins to have substantive contact with readers.
Compared with other diseases, the value of jealousy is extraordinary. It is more serious than the general personality characteristics, serious enough to promote the struggle of personality and the sudden change of events, but not strong enough to confuse the basic boundaries between good and evil; Envy has great adsorption, which can be attached to the great soul and noble body, as well as the evasive scheming and humble conspiracy, covering almost all the characters in literature; What's more, all the characters it covers, whether good or bad, are unwilling to openly admit its existence, anxious in secrecy, angry in repression and coveting in smiles, which is of great benefit to literature.
However, all this should not only be regarded as a writer's technical choice. The karma between literature and jealousy comes from the karma between human beings and jealousy. Just as we can't laugh at Othello and Lin Daiyu easily, we can't categorically claim that we are never jealous. In the face of jealousy, no one can be a condescending doctor. This is an infectious disease with a long history in our castle. Many people are crazy and dead, but there are still many people who are slightly ill. Just like some castles in ancient Europe were shrouded in diseases, the light patients waited on the heavy patients, the dead were buried alive, the gates were heard, the roads were cut off, and no foreign savior could be expected.
I have read the records of ancient castles in Europe, and it seems that the rampant virus won. Day by day, another dusk comes, and fewer and fewer people can easily walk in the street. However, after experiencing great fear and resentment, human dignity finally ignited sparks, and even those who struggled in hospital beds calculated the possibility of resistance. Finally, the balancer of victory and defeat has been subtly tilted. I don't know from which dawn, there was messy footsteps in the street.
The nature of jealousy
The starting point of jealousy is people's concern about their own vulnerability.
When a person falls into the mortal world, there will be a social relationship around him, and in this relationship, no one will be completely strong and no one will be completely weak. A thorough strong man cannot survive, because if he wants to be thorough, there must be no sky above his head and no air friction around him. Where should he stand? It is impossible for a completely weak person to exist, because as long as there is height, there will be lower dimensions, and as long as there is weight, there will be lighter things. If he is completely weak, he can only be invisible. Where are the weaknesses?
Therefore, in life, we are always in the double experience of strength and weakness. A strong experience needs to be contrasted with the weakness of others, and a weak experience needs to find a strong background. In my opinion, for most people, the experience of the weak exceeds that of the strong. Strong experiences mostly occur in offices, venues and various ceremonies, while weak experiences occur when people are alone after the song, so they are more related to the depths of life. All the followers who flocked during the day have gone home, and the sudden loneliness brings incomparable fragility, causing sensitivity and prevention to the strength of others, and jealousy is born from this.
This is a faint psychological loss. People began to bear it when they were young, and parents and teachers used to use it to stimulate their children. Most children have no way to disperse, and they can only respond directly. But repeated reactions make them understand that most reactions are neither necessary nor effective, so they are no longer serious and naturally gain the function of self-digestion. The trouble is, until I am old, some psychological losses still can't be dispelled and become hidden diseases that gnaw at my heart every day. Therefore, the seriousness of jealousy lies not in its temporary outbreak, but in its long-term retention.
I remember reading a children's poem in my early years, and I can't remember the sentence clearly. The general meaning is this:
There are new shoes everywhere in the street.
How cold I am.
Pestering my mother to cry all the way,
Until I suddenly saw,
A man who lost a leg.
This little poem once made me understand many great truths in the world, but as far as its ontology is concerned, it describes a process of dispelling jealousy.
However, will we meet such an opponent? He is always dangling in front of his eyes, and everything is better than himself. Finally, when it was evenly matched, it became his hand when he looked intently, avoiding him and not thinking about him anymore. He turned to 998 1 and suddenly looked up. He appeared in front of him with a smile.
It's a pair of strong legs and feet that always wear new shoes, and the direction you choose coincides with yourself everywhere. It leads me, blocks me, accompanies me and covers me. They are comrades-in-arms and enemies. Almost the same interest, almost the same style, almost the same frequency, and almost the same pursuit are the conditions for mutual cooperation and the origin of mutual negation.
Not long ago, I turned to a book called "Scholars despise each other", which collected the tragic events in which a pair of famous cultural people at all times and in all countries fought against each other and refused to give way to each other. I saw a lot of feelings. The whole reason why they became enemies is that they are too similar.
Most of these intellectuals are famous for their generations and have lofty spirits. They have enough mind to hide the past, tolerate the present, and have enough ability to judge the cultural taste of their opponents. Why are they upset and confused? I think the main thing is to find that my life has been sheltered at close range.
Jealous people can criticize the envied for no reason, but in essence, that is the object they admire most. What I want to do most has already been done, and it has been done so well; It is obvious to all that some people can't help cursing and criticizing with their mouths and pens when they have achieved what they want to achieve most. But you can't fight with open fire, you can only turn around and hide. This special performance is evidence of jealousy.
For example, no matter how severe the general criticism is, it is always targeted. If the critic lacks the specific direction of the problem and soon turns his interest to this person, his life state, psychological tendency and reputation, then there is no need to find more reasons besides jealousy;
For example, general criticism mainly uses rationality. If the critic is emotional and the degree of disgust is not proportional to the content of the criticism, then there is no need to find more reasons than jealousy.
For example, general criticism is always as clear as possible. If the tone of criticism is a bit ambiguous, the critical materials are half bright and half dark, and you often declare that you are not jealous, then there is no need to find more reasons other than jealousy.
For example, general criticism will not be entangled, and it is enough to explain the truth. How can I always care for it? If you stare at the object of criticism and your eyes light up at the sight of the name, then you don't have to look for more reasons than jealousy.
It's not that jealousy can't explain all this, so we have found many signposts of jealousy.
Because of a little jealousy, people have to use so many brains, and it is subtle and well-intentioned. Envy, paying such a high price, is really the most extravagant sacrifice in human hearts.
The pain of jealousy
The main bitterness of jealousy lies in oneself.
Experts have long pointed out that for the envied, jealousy is a kind of lateral affirmation of values and another way of praise, and in most cases it does not constitute substantial harm.
What really loses is the jealous self. And this kind of injury is described from three aspects.
First, build your own battlefield, surprise yourself and be afraid.
Jealous people always look for partners among the strong. They won't stare at an old man whose time is running out, and they won't care about a poor wit and a righteous man in prison. Instead, they always have a hard time with their life in the best creative state, and they can't help but scare themselves for a long time. Treat each other's achievements as a punch to yourself, and if the score remains the same, this punch will remain the same. You can only open your eyes wide, and it won't be long before you feel black and blue. This scene of building your own battlefield and distributing your own smoke is sometimes close to masochism, but it is not cheating and forgery for yourself.
Many years ago, I met a young man who had just graduated from college. He told me who his opponent was with a tragic face, which scared me. Because my opponent is a respected scholar, and I have read every article of his, how could I think of a secret challenge with a child in the backyard? In order to answer my puzzled eyes, the young man also listed three arguments between them in detail, but in his view, the scholar was in mulberry when dealing with him. Unfortunately, as I expected, this scholar has never heard the name of a young man.
More jealous people don't have such wishful fighting feelings, but they are also used to pulling the behavior of jealous people closer to themselves. Just like a friend of mine, he sweats when he sees a string of peppers from a distance. However, the jealous person is not a string of peppers, but a living person. His behavior involves all aspects, including family life, friendship, sports, entertainment, and all aspects are related. Jealous people don't say a word, and their hearts are suffering from all kinds of torture, so they are unwilling to extricate themselves. An object is still like this. If there are several jealous objects, this day really can't be lived. If you can't get through, jealous people often regard themselves as warriors who despise powerful people, proud and tired. They seem to be waiting for the failure of the envied, but they don't know that the envied has not really entered the battlefield, so there is no failure as they imagined. What's more, how can an all-round daily ecology fail? Therefore, what is waiting is still mental suffering.
Second, self-reporting is self-trapping and self-deaf.
Jealousy leads to the failure of sensory mechanism, the imbalance of judgment mechanism and the reversal of aesthetic mechanism, which makes an excellent cultural person lose cultural credibility and partially become deaf-mute.
For example, intellectually speaking, the jealous person will know the beauty of the jealous person, but since one day he was alert to the negative significance of the other person's beauty to himself, he began to look for the possibility of belittling. This search may have no substantive results, only psychological results. Over time, he has never been willing to feel each other's beauty, and he has developed to be unable to feel it. That was the beginning of his own sensory system disorder.
By the same token, a poet suddenly loses the ability to appreciate other people's beautiful sentences, a musician looks dull in the beautiful music of his peers, a director smiles indifferently at a movie that caused a sensation in the world, and an art professor shakes his head like a rattle when telling the story of two successful painters ... If they just put on airs and put on authority, the problem is not too serious, and if they really turn beauty and ugliness upside down and block their feelings because of jealousy, it is no different.
I once read the confession of a middle-aged writer that he refused to read the works of the younger generation because he was jealous of them. The more children talk at the family dinner table, the more young writers stop reading. Who seems to be angry with whom? Young writer? For the children? In fact, it is against yourself and against yourself as a whole. The middle-aged writer's sincere and frank anatomy of himself is very touching, and the psychological crux he described is very universal. In fact, our literature and art are not desolate, but every excellent work will always encounter reserved barriers and sniper fire, and the result can only be desolate, and this middle-aged writer told us that the first desolation lies in the hearts of jealous people.
People often say that I don't look at other people's things. Is it disgust? Not necessarily. We don't even refuse to read Hitler's proclamation, even if it is a clown with heavy makeup. Why refuse a job from someone you don't know? I think the reason for this rejection is mostly jealousy, and the result of rejection is my own silence.
Third, belittle yourself, belittle yourself and punish yourself.
Jealousy seems to be self-improvement, but it is actually self-destruction, and sometimes it will sink itself into neither fish nor fowl, which is very ridiculous.
When a jealous woman mocked the appearance of a female star in a very extreme tone, she forgot that at this moment, her appearance, as an interesting contrast, became the object of silent observation; A critic wrote an article that belittled a writer's literary talent with exaggerated statements. He also forgot that at this moment, he is also writing, and his own statement is on the same page as his quoted criticism. It goes without saying that there is a narrow road in black and white. Once a person falls into jealousy, he becomes a half-fool, frequently humiliating himself with glib words, slapping himself again and again and feeling blushing. It's really pathetic.
There are even weirder things. When a jealous person goes out with his girlfriend, he can appreciate her praise of scenic spots, nod and echo his girlfriend's chanting of ancient famous sentences, but he can't tolerate her worship of a contemporary young poet. He expected Aidit to hesitate for a moment and then comment on the young poet's appearance and style. His tone has become more and more intense, and he may even write a severely critical article, which will be published in newspapers and periodicals after his return. No wonder some critical articles always shine with a sense of resentment. What's the point? Does he regard the young poet in the distance as a potential rival in love? Does he really think he can compete with all kinds of winners envied by people around him? No matter what kind of idea, it is caused by excessive self-love.
I often see a very important person jealous together, and unconsciously enter a discourse formula that any jealous person can't avoid. His voice and eyebrows are not much different from those of his second aunt next door. Two points of rumors are wrapped in three points of acid gas, and the remaining five points cover up jealousy with contempt. At this time, in the eyes of everyone, this very important figure immediately became a vulgar role, and he completed a spiritual punishment without other people's judgment.
Let's talk about this for the time being. You see, building your own battlefield, self-scaring, self-telling, self-suffering, self-deafness, self-degradation, self-degradation, self-punishment ... just talking casually like playing a word game can tell how much psychological disaster jealousy has brought to people!
Who is the most unfortunate person in the world?
My answer is: jealous people.
With this answer, let me introduce the words of two sages. Democritus said that jealous people are their own enemies; Epiktetos says jealousy is the enemy of luck.
The evil of jealousy
Jealousy is your own enemy and also the enemy of others.
The others mentioned here are not just a few specific jealous people. Because jealousy is enough to form a huge infectivity of uncertain objects in society, the most cherished mutual love and integration relationship of human beings is seriously hurt by it at any time.
Generally speaking, it is better. Although everyone may be jealous, due to the different content and degree of jealousy, they are in a state of fragmentation and cannot form a joint force. And because the onlookers are very clear, they will persuade each other to adjust and return to calm. Under abnormal circumstances, jealousy is mixed with subversive consciousness, crosses with social emotions, echoes with political disasters, and everything is cooked into a pot of porridge. During the Cultural Revolution, the rebels attacked all celebrities and all high-income people, which was such a scene. The impact of the crowd is mixed with a large number of colleagues who have been jealous for a long time. They took the lead in breaking into houses, demanding property loudly, rummaging through everything and doing what they often do in fantasy. Are these behaviors really "criticizing" something, such as hitting the pianist's hand, disappointing the old professor and giving lectures to celebrities? Anyone with a discerning eye will know at a glance that this is all caused by deep-rooted jealousy, but it was linked to a huge social concept at that time and echoed the political needs of the upper class. Humble selfish desires are plated with golden light, which makes ignorant people flock to them. At this point, jealousy has fermented into a group evil, and the flag has been flying for ten years.
In fact, the root cause of this vicious outbreak is extremely profound and extensive. Under totalitarianism, equality, moderation, mutual poverty and mutual degradation have cultivated the extraordinary concern and vigilance of the general public for outstanding objects. This psychological habit has become a natural axiom after a long period of "unification" and "big pot rice" in this century, so it will inevitably extend to a new era. Almost every reform explorer has been harassed by jealousy, not to mention the successful one. It is easy for people to distrust everything in front of them and look for the secret of opportunism behind the rapid success of others. What is even more incredible is that under the condition that literature and art are very underdeveloped, people are used to looking coldly at writers and artists who have suffered. Some people even openly claim in the media that literary artists occupy too much space in the media, so they have reason to bear the same thorns. Whenever there is an attack on them, many people in society always cheer. Everyone regards an actor, a director, a writer and a TV presenter as the president of the United States. It seems that democracy and justice in society are all implemented in a close-up examination of them, and the so-called examination is not aimed at the artistic obstacles they really encounter, but mostly focuses on capturing their character. From this, I really don't know what would happen if Beethoven and Hemingway, who were grumpy at the beginning, encountered such a review when they were young. It is easy for society to erase them and their humanity because of their ugliness. Will it lead to equality and cleanliness?
Helping the weak is an irreproachable good slogan, and behind this slogan, countless souls who are not too weak and therefore widely admired are struggling helplessly. Everyone thought they were famous and influential, but they lost their voices and disappeared in batches. They will not be envied until they die, so death constitutes one of the greatest rescues for them. People who don't want to die for the time being gradually learn the strategy of survival, know how to play the fool, and say to themselves: "The wood in the forest is beautiful in the forest, and the wind will destroy it;" When piled up on the shore, the water will surge; The epigrams such as "the line is higher than the people, and the public will be wrong" are also blindly humble, evasive, expecting and humming in behavior ... All these behaviors have only one purpose: never let the jealous eyes focus on themselves.
They may be talented people, but they know that once the envious eyes focus on themselves, everything will turn to ashes.
On the other hand, those weak people are in the same boat because of jealousy, and as a result, they are invincible because of jealousy.
Therefore, as long as there is jealousy, we should read "strong" and "weak" upside down, upside down.
Although jealousy is a universal human nature, many of China's problems have more special relations with it. I don't necessarily agree to divide jealousy into the West and the East, but I do see that while the wise men in the West are thinking about how to reduce jealousy, the wise men in China are suggesting how to avoid jealousy. China's so-called survival wisdom in ancient times was mostly related to this avoidance. The more you avoid it, the more fierce it becomes. Jealousy is not only out of control, but also grandiose. "Jealousy" has become a crime that everyone can blame. To this day, the jealous party is often said to be arrogant and get carried away, while the jealous party is said to be a reflection of the masses and public opinion. As a result, jealous people hide their faces and feel ashamed, jealous people are righteous and strict, and their followers are like clouds. China people's social concept has turned a lot of right and wrong, one of which is jealousy. In the vast land of Kyushu, there is always an invisible court with jealousy as the law in court every day. The court is illuminated by jealousy, and those who are jealous will always be superior and leave first.
People have been asking that China has fallen behind the western world for centuries. Is there really no one in the country? There are people, but unless they are in charge of totalitarianism in their early years or in a corner for a long time, they will be razed sooner or later. Some professions, such as literature and art, have neither power nor silence, and trouble will naturally be great. Jealousy may be the most loyal god in this land. He doesn't even want to sleep at night, looking everywhere and never letting go of a doubt.
Lu Xun has long lamented. In China, "if something sticks out a little, someone will flatten it with a long knife". Therefore, it is really related to the reflection on the big topic of Chinese civilization. From long-term social concepts to psychological habits, and then from psychological habits to group personality, this is the national character that the older generation of philosophers cried for. Fundamentally speaking, the right and wrong of Chinese civilization is no longer the old books in the stacks. After thousands of years of screening, it has already grown on everyone.
Today's jealousy
We have finally reached an era where we can challenge jealousy in an all-round way, but it is also the most rampant era of jealousy.
In the past 20 years, we have seen that the society has finally found the most real motivation after auditioning various neat ceremonies. The diversified release of vitality has formed a huge energy source, and history has begun to become active. Any psychological ills including jealousy have become obstacles that must be broken through. However, it is precisely because of this that jealousy finds the most exciting material in the ups and downs of all kinds of people. Many flustered people who suddenly lost the protection of "unity" and "pot rice", as listeners, provided a platform for jealous words. Is it to make the emerging social mechanism tottering in front of such a platform, or is it to make such a platform tottering in front of the emerging social mechanism? This is the last choice of the Chinese nation in the twentieth century.
Jealousy needs guidance. Fortunately, great social changes have made jealousy lose this orientation. Not only is the object gone, but even the coordinates of judgment can't be found, so jealousy is no longer a targeted killer, but a gloomy cloud, and I don't know which mountain to hit and which forest to cover. With this, we have to cheer for social change and watch the clouds of jealousy clumsily float over our heads.
I remember that more than ten years ago, in the teaching and research offices of many schools, many middle-aged and elderly teachers were always criticizing young teachers for being eager to publish long papers and unwilling to be green leaves for a long time to set off the red flowers that they didn't care about any papers; But the voice did not fall, and the young teachers have gone abroad; So they were criticized for worshipping foreign things and obsessing over foreign things, but it didn't take long for young teachers to return after learning. Next, it is inevitable to complain that young teachers have benefited too much from their treatment and professional titles, but they have resigned ... No matter how fast the pace of jealousy is, it can't keep up with the pace of social change, which is really a good sign. If jealousy steps fast and gives up halfway, it will be big.
In this area of Shanghai, every household is spying on each other for a long time. Even this family has fried two more dishes, and that family has bought new bicycles, which has become the object of jealousness and jealousy, and I don't know how many quarrels have taken place. However, in recent years, housing demolition, layoffs, stock market ups and downs, mergers and bankruptcies, every household is changing with each passing day, and I don't know which beam to fall on.
You can only look for houses and beams that have not changed much. Although it is few, there are still some. For example, those corners that are not in the main part of social transformation, those parts that are temporarily ignored by social reformers and don't want to be cleaned up or demolished immediately, those areas that once had an elegant reputation and can still arouse people's tolerance inertia, and those positions with many factions and complicated relationships that are not serious to the national economy and people's livelihood. There, jealousy can also find its familiar outlet, and it is unprecedentedly high because of congestion in other places. Outsiders and future generations will be surprised to see such a corner by chance.
We are entering a special stage: the old jealousy is no longer a force, and the new jealousy is not qualified yet. This historical stage is very important for the reconstruction of group psychology. Many years ago, I read Mrs. Hugo's memories about the social psychology of Paris before and after the French Revolution. It was also a strange period when the old and the new were not connected, and anything strange would happen. For Hugo's insignificant drama Onani, all the people in French literature who don't want to see people cheering for Hugo and lose their identity in front of new literature are United. Several newspapers mocked Hugo for his lack of knowledge, his violation of common sense, his departure from classicism and his deliberate kitsch. At the same time, he spread a lot of rumors and fabricated various troubles. Some critics predicted the fiasco of their works, while others vowed never to watch the performance. On the day of the premiere, these people couldn't help itching and went. They are sitting in the audience, pretending that they just want to read newspapers and don't want to watch the stage, but from time to time they laugh and make trouble. This is also Hugo galante.
For jealousy, people's neglect of it is more fatal than people's argument about it. Although there was a duel for Hugo's evaluation at that time, the most cruel sight for the jealous people was that the general public seemed to completely ignore their slander, and Onani became popular for a long time until the heroine was tired and stopped acting.
More interestingly, eight years later, Onani was revived, and the audience had fallen into a sacred silence. After the break, Mrs Hugo heard a conversation in the crowd. The first person to speak was obviously a jealous person eight years ago. He said, "It is not surprising that Mr. Hugo changed all his plays."
A gentleman next to him told him, "No, the script hasn't changed a word. What Mr Hugo changed was not the script, but the audience. "
In other words, people who are very jealous are unconsciously assimilated by Hugo. He wants to continue to be jealous and come to the theater with hostility, but he can't establish a hostile relationship with Hugo. This is the most profound social change.
This incident should be a great encouragement to us. Jealousy is a perverse act that disturbs the value coordinate, but if it comes to the era of great social change, the stronger social development coordinate will surpass it and overwhelm it, so that it can't be bossed around like in the depression years. Therefore, although jealousy is an obstacle to social development, it must be cured by social development. I can't think of a clue about jealousy. There is no need to get angry because of jealousy to create a personal miracle. Because even if there is a miracle, jealousy is bound to follow. Instead of this, it is better to turn around and fully promote social change, so that jealousy loses its coordinates and can't find its place in panic.
Lenovo China, from the beginning of this century to around the May 4th Movement, also experienced the disorderly transformation of old and new coordinates. Judging from a large number of materials, the envy of cultural circles for new culture and vernacular Chinese was also strong at that time, and it was even more sour for Hu Shi, Chen Duxiu and Lu Xun, who were supported by Cai Yuanpei, president of Peking University, and responded by the majority of young students. But by the mid-1920s, the whole literary world was basically occupied by new literature, and even people who were originally jealous had to learn to write letters to their children in vernacular Chinese. If they object again, they will be a little out of breath and don't know where to start.
The unprecedented activity and ineffectiveness of jealousy make it possible for people to dissect it calmly, and then hammer out some minimum codes of conduct to popularize in society, so that people can get out of this stage earlier. Unfortunately, however, because the jealousy we see every day is too low, the proposed code of conduct can only be very superficial. I once chatted with a group of friends and jokingly conceived some norms, which can curb the jealousy frenzy a little and be remembered by everyone. As a result, all I thought about was "Don't peep and criticize other people's lifestyles" and "Don't destroy the goods you don't want to buy", which is really not elegant. It's really hard luck. After living for decades, I always see low-level jealousy, and few have a higher level. High-grade jealousy can only be appreciated in literary works.
What will jealousy be like in the next century? Unpredictable. I only hope that even as a human disease, I should pretend to be serious. Like a noble soldier's frown, not a group of ragged soldiers fighting in the middle of the night; It's like a thousand-year confrontation between two snow peaks, instead of a bunch of vines winding around the trunk.
It used to be the desperate pursuit of two fast horses in the desert, the sinking after two gunboats collided, the permanent regret of a scholar when sorting out another scholar's manuscript, the silent embrace of scientists at the end of the Cold War, the lifelong search of two lonely poets, and the silent trust of countless aristocratic youths before a duel. ...
Yes, jealousy can also be noble. The biggest difference between noble jealousy and humble jealousy lies in whether it is related to loving others and looking forward to excellent basic education. Envy is an unfortunate nemesis at any level and should not be nostalgic and praised, but it has indeed had many forms of non-greed.
Since jealousy can't be eliminated for a while, let it wear a more gorgeous shell, so that even if it is broken, it can show a little human dignity.
Any particular kind of jealousy will always pass, and once it is lost, it is difficult to get it back. I don't approve of burying all kinds of problems in us through hard moral constraints, but advocate entering a higher realm of life with all kinds of practical problems.
In a higher realm of life, we have the cornerstone of human mutual love and the expectation of social progress. No matter how fierce the confrontation is, there is also the ultimate personality premise, and no matter how deep the jealousy is, it can be resolved by the ultimate conscience. So in the final analysis, it is difficult to discuss jealousy, a common human disease, with a mixed personality level. We would rather bear the envy of a gentleman than face the support of a villain. What are humans afraid of? Othello's roar, Lin Daiyu's tears and Zhou Gongjin's sigh? I'm afraid of the unknown quagmire.