1. Generally speaking, marriage is the main seat at noon, and the woman is the main seat the night before. But there are also some places where the man is the main seat at night and the woman is the main seat at noon, such as Tanjiahe Township and Liulin Township to the west.
2. There are two ways of bride price. One is to give gifts to the moon, which is a month before the wedding. Usually even. There are four colors, six colors, eight colors and ten colors (one color must have two colors, that is to say, four colors are eight, six colors are twelve, and so on)/Then on the wedding day, the man will give gifts. It is similar to a gift to the moon. In addition to material gifts, he has to give a gift.
3. In some places, the groom does not participate, but only sends a team. In most places, the groom must be present.
It is almost a national custom to have a noisy room.
5. Red envelopes: The bride puts red envelopes in every corner of her body. Except spilled, they were all touched by others.
6. Reunion dinner: a meal in front of the bridal chamber. Everyone gets together to give the bride and groom problems, which are usually a little colorful. Children are not allowed to participate.
7. Go back to the door. On the third day of marriage, the woman took the man back to her mother's house. At this time, the man should prepare some gifts, of course, it will be much less. But one thing, you can't go the way the bride took when she got married. You must find another way to get back to the door.
Marriage customs in Xinyang:
Engagement: Usually, the man asks the matchmaker to introduce him, and prepares a wedding card with the man's birthday on it. After the woman receives the post, it is calculated according to the woman's eight characters. If it is reconciled, I will reply to Jane's promise. This is called a post, and it is also a formal engagement. After the engagement, the man or both men and women hold a banquet to thank the media and prepare gifts for each other, which is called drinking engagement wine. The engagement is fixed and cannot be changed. When it comes to festivals, weddings and funerals, we should communicate with each other.
Choose a good date: commonly known as the next day, that is, the man proposes the wedding date to the woman. Please ask the Yin and Yang teachers to work out the auspicious day first, and avoid Singles' Day and Dark Day. There are still two days, especially Flower Festival and Laba Festival. After choosing, write the happy event on red paper and give the gift to the woman by the matchmaker. If the woman has no objection, the two sides will begin to prepare for the marriage.
Marriage preparation: the man builds a new house, decorates the interior, and the woman buys a dowry. Dowry can be divided into full marriage and half marriage. Married people have four sets of clothes and quilts, which means that the four seasons are prosperous; Half-marriage is two sets, symbolizing couples. Most middle-class families are married, and most farmers are semi-married. Very rich people buy a full dowry, which is extremely luxurious. One or two days before the auspicious day, the man prepared a big gift and sent it to the woman's house, including meat, chicken, goose, clothes and so on. Two days before the wedding in the south of Huangchuan County, there should be 1 rooster, and the woman should return 1 hen, while there are male geese and female geese in the north of the county. The day before the wedding in Shangcheng County, the man will warm the sedan chair in his yard, and the guests will be full at night and drink warm wine. In Xinxian and other places, on the eve of the wedding, mother sleeps in a new bed to warm the bed.
Wedding: Wedding time: Huaibin, Gushi, Xixian and other places in the early morning or early morning, Huangchuan, Shangcheng County in the middle of the night. On that day, the scarlet letter "Xi" was posted on the man's new house, nave, doors, windows and tree trunks, with the word "Xi" on the front and the word "Xi" on the back, and the person who posted it on the back took the meaning of "Xi". At the wedding, the man prepares a sedan chair and goes to the woman's house to meet the bride. The bride asked the woman with two children to "open her face" and unscrew the hair from her face with two threads; Dressed up and covered with a sedan chair. The way to enter the sedan chair varies slightly from place to place. Before getting on the sedan chair, the bride in Shangcheng County will sit on the prepared clear water bucket for a while, and then be carried on the sedan chair by her uncle or brother. Luoshan county is carried by the bride's brother; In some places in Huangchuan, relatives carry sedan chairs, and another boy presses them inside. After the sedan chair was lifted, the drums sang the leading role, blowing all the way and setting off firecrackers from time to time. Drum music greeted the groom on the way. The sedan chair goes to the man's house, and the ground is covered with a red carpet. The bride got off the sedan chair with the help of her mother and saluted the groom along the red carpet. Xinxian, Xixian, Huangchuan and other places have the habit of the bride crying and marrying, that is, from the sedan chair to the man's house, the bride has been crying until she suffocates. In Huangchuan, if you meet other sedan chairs during the sedan chair trip, the bride must exchange belts; When entering her in-laws' home, the bride should step over the saddle and be given an Aquarius to hold her child, which means a stable life in the future.
When a wedding is held in Guangshan County, the groom takes a sedan chair and moves in with his wife. The bride sets the table and the groom takes the lead. After three rounds of wine and five flavors of food, the groom drinks "dragon soup" (1 whole fish or chicken cooked), strokes with chopsticks, puts down the water after drinking, and takes out a "seal" to reward money. After sitting for a while, the groom resigned. A moment later, the bride opened the sedan chair, and the door of the sedan chair was tied with 1 piece of lean meat (to ward off evil spirits). After arriving at the man's house, two women in the man's house, two women in the man's house, and the girl who handed the tin pot (commonly known as the dowry aunt) opened the sedan chair door, and the bride took the tin pot and got off the sedan chair, indicating that she was a daughter-in-law. The bride should enter the wedding hall as slowly as possible. After paying tribute to the bride, she entered the bridal chamber. First, the bride takes a sip of jujube soup (descendants soup) and then serves a bowl of chicken soup. The bride just moves it with chopsticks and throws a piece of meat under the bed to feed tigers, wolves and monsters, so that the children can be raised easily.
Wedding: The wedding will be held in the hall with incense table, presided over by Li Si. The bride and groom worship heaven and earth first, then their ancestors, then their parents, and then they worship each other. After the ceremony, the groom took off the bride's veil. Then set the table and entertain the guests. At the banquet, the bride and groom should propose a toast to each guest in a certain order, such as intimacy and respect. In the evening, the bride and groom have a wedding banquet and then enter the bridal chamber. The next day, some places used stools as bridge piers to support ladders, which went from the new house to the kitchen door. The ladder is covered with a red carpet, and the bride walks to the kitchen from above and makes sacrifices to the kitchen. It is called the Bridge of Champions. On the third day (the sixth day in Huaibin), the newlyweds will be "called home" by their parents' brothers after the morning of the third day, and their parents will hold a banquet for them and return to their husband's house before sunset. In Guangshan, on the third day, only the groom was taken to his father-in-law's house, and the bride left her family on the sixth day.
Noisy rooms: usually held on the wedding night, and some will last for several days. When the dormitory is noisy, "no age for three days", elders, peers, younger relatives and guests are allowed to play, and there is no taboo. Young people have the most active sex with each other, and there are many strange questions and games for newcomers to answer or complete, which makes people laugh and play tricks on newcomers. Newcomers shall not refuse to answer without special reasons. In some places, the bride wants to toast one cigarette at a time, so that no one can play dumb and drink it if they want. This noisy wine is often drunk. Due to the warm atmosphere in the noisy room, newcomers are often exhausted in a short time, and some even fall down and get sick.
Marriage custom in Huaibin: The marriage between men and women of boat people and fishermen along Huaihe River is slightly different from that on land. The man put a rowing boat, the wedding was put at the bow and sent to the woman's boat. When getting married, the woman puts the man's dowry and the woman's dowry on the paddle head and sends them to the man's boat together. The man sent a male relative to celebrate the wedding and tied two HongLing on the rowboat. After the bride got on the groom's boat, the guests scrambled for two red silks (to ward off evil spirits for the children).
Guangshan wedding custom: whether it is a farewell wedding or a wedding, you must "pay homage" on time. There are incense sticks, buckets, weights and green onions on the table incense. The bride's sedan chair arrived, drums and firecrackers rang, and her mother helped the bride into the hall to hold a wedding with the groom. After the worship, both of them went to the bridal chamber to pay their bills, worship the bed and drink "descendants soup" (also called "Lian Xin soup")