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In marriage, men are more detached than women. Men tend to like the new and dislike the old, and do not have such heavy feelings. Therefore, men often cannot resist the temptation of the outside world. When they meet someone new, they will betray their marriage.
Some men betray their marriages due to differences in thinking. Maybe he didn't intend to end the marriage, but he didn't restrain his feelings and cheated;
Some men are really difficult to change their nature, that is, they are typically fond of the new and dislike the old. When he got tired of his marriage, he started looking for new goals. Such a man is really not worthy of a woman's nostalgia.
In marriage, the cruelest thing for a daughter is that when she is fighting for the future of the family wholeheartedly, the man changes his mind.
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When faced with a man who betrays her marriage, some women choose to humble themselves to stay, some choose to question hysterically, and some try to use the cruelest means to retaliate. man.
But in fact, these are not the best choices.
There is a saying in Yi Shu's "The First Half of My Life": The best revenge is not hatred, but indifference from the heart. Why hate someone who has nothing to do with you?
Yes, why waste time and energy on an irrelevant person? It was his fault for betraying the marriage. Why punish yourself?
In the book "The First Half of My Life", Zijun, a full-time housewife, felt that the sky was falling when her husband Juansheng filed for divorce.
Because to her, her husband means the world. If he doesn't want her, she doesn't know which way to go in the future.
So, she questioned him and the man who had been listening to her, why he suddenly asked for a divorce, and where did he go after the divorce?
After learning that Juansheng had a daughter and a family outside, she questioned him, tried to keep him, and even wanted to move out to help her mother-in-law.
However, it turns out that a man who wants to leave has already made up his mind, and it is useless for a woman to restore him.
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Therefore, when faced with a man who betrays her marriage, what a woman should do is to clean up her mood and say goodbye to the past completely, instead of being immersed in grief and letting the man hurt herself. .
Now that he has ignored his original promise, you should stop being sentimental about the past.
Stay calm and collect evidence. Women must learn to be smart. Even if you find a man cheating on you, don't come up and cry.
Your crying will not solve any problem, but will make the man quarrel with you fiercely.
The man was not convinced. If you confront him, he will get worse and leave you faster.
Many men cheat on their marriages but still defend themselves by shifting the responsibility to the woman. For example, women are not gentle enough, don’t care enough about their families, and even don’t like women’s figures being out of shape.
Therefore, if you are not careful, you will only put yourself in a passive position.
A smart woman will remain calm even if she finds out that a man has cheated on her marriage.
Even if you are angry inside, consider the bigger picture. If you don't want to put yourself at a disadvantage, you should calm down, then slowly collect evidence, increase your chips, and strive for the best interests for yourself.
Most women get divorced because they want children. If you want to earn more life security for yourself and your children, you must know how to calm down and seize the man's handle so that you can knock him down.
Live your own wonderful life. Many women have a bad mentality and are not calm when things happen. Especially when something big happens, it's easy to ignore your body and feel sad secretly.
Actually you are wrong. Although you have been betrayed by your husband, you still have yourself. Only by living a better life will the man regret it.
There are many good things in life, except marriage and the person who makes you sad. There are many beautiful scenery waiting for you to greet, so don't stop and let yourself jump out. Encircle and pursue your own life again.
Women, don’t cry every day and think about it just because your husband betrayed you. You should make your life more exciting and get rid of that negative emotion as soon as possible. Come out.
Your sadness will only affect yourself and will not bring any pain to the man, so why should you torture yourself.
Women should remember that the more depressed and poorly you are, the less men will sympathize with you.
On the contrary, he will laugh at you in his heart. He feels that you are nothing without him, so aren't you waiting for him to see the joke?
You just want to live a glorious life. If you leave him, you can live better. This is the best way to get revenge on him. You must never be soft-hearted to him again
Many men go around in circles and find out that their original partner is better after the novelty with other women wears off.
At this time, he will come back to you, hoping that you will be with him again.
However, you have to remember that you must not be soft-hearted towards this man. Since he can betray you ruthlessly, he may deceive you again.
If you relent because he looks back, you have completely lost. Going back is not the best strategy. Knowing how to turn around and leave will make you feel freer.
Men often use their children as bargaining chips, such as talking about relationships and family ties with you, saying that children need a complete family and the love of their father. Don’t be deceived by his emotional cards, man. These words are really just words, and he himself will not take them seriously.
A man who betrays his family will not think about his family in his heart. If he really thought this way, he would not be so reckless and abandon you in the first place.
Therefore, women must know that the best way to retaliate against a man is to no longer be soft-hearted towards him. No matter what method he uses, you cannot accept him again.
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?Faced with a man who betrayed his marriage, the best revenge is to treat him indifferently, forget the past, and live his life well.
If a woman wants to be proud of herself, she must be independent in her feelings and not be led by men.
When you encounter a man betraying your marriage, you should keep a calm mind. Crying, making trouble, and hanging yourself will not be of any use, and it will make you look ugly.
In the TV series "Only Thirty", when Gu Jia found out that her husband was cheating on her, she neither cried nor made a fuss. She calmly observed her husband's behavior and found the person he was cheating on and gave him a severe warning.
Gu Jia has her own tea factory, so she will not be without financial confidence. She handles all matters in the company and family calmly. Xu Huanshan not only does not dare to yell in front of her, but also has to kneel down. Begging for mercy.
Therefore, when faced with a man who betrays her marriage, women should imitate Gu Jia in "Only Thirty" instead of being like Zijun in "The First Half of My Life".
You have to put yourself in a proactive position. Even if your husband betrays your marriage, you still have to face him proudly and never let him bully you again.
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