Twenty years ago, the girlfriend of one of my husband’s friends was this kind of person! I brought her to meet her for the first time at a wine table. During the meal, it was originally a pleasant gathering. I saw her saying that she felt uncomfortable here and uncomfortable somewhere else, which made her friend very nervous. So after the whole scene, I saw them showing off their affection...
Later, they got together in the house they rented, talking and laughing. Suddenly she said: Oh, I can't do it anymore! Then he pretended to faint and fall down... The friend was frightened, and he quickly helped her into the bedroom regardless of everyone's expressions. He carefully laid her on the bed and asked her for help. At that time, we women were envious because we were lucky enough to find a good man who cherished her beauty... Unlike our men, the male chauvinism from the countryside only knows how to order people with their mouths, and does not care whether we work hard or not...
Another time I went to another friend’s hometown to play. The road was being built at the time and I had to walk two kilometers away. My son was only a few years old at that time, and he walked along alone out of curiosity. I walked all the way down without even saying I was tired. But she said coquettishly: Oh, this road is the longest road I have ever walked in my life! She said that she looked like a young lady from a big city, even more squeamish than a real person like me!
Later, when they were planning to get married, the fortune teller told her friend that she would get married twice in her life! My friend was young and energetic at the time, and the relationship between the two was heating up, so he didn’t believe in this evil! So they decided not to get the marriage certificate for now and wait until later.
After her marriage, her friend took her back to her hometown to meet her parents. It happened to rain that day. The mud roads leading to the countryside are becoming increasingly difficult to navigate. So she became coquettish again, muttering that she didn't want to walk. Seeing this, her friend hurriedly went home and brought her long rubber boots to her, but she didn't wear them and asked her friend to carry her on his back. My friend was obedient and made my mother-in-law angry in the end. My friend was still protecting me...
We are not surprised by this kind of thing in the future. The so-called one is willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer, and the other is willing to be beaten. Weighing weights, Da Ge is talking about the two of them, right? Love deeply without any regrets! After many years of marriage, her belly has never been as good as expected. She doesn't seem to care about it all day long and lives the life of a child all day long... But my friend is panicking. Our child has long been running and making trouble, plus the urging of her parents back home. ...made him anxious and haggard...
Finally one day, her aunt came to visit, which made her friend very happy. As a result, one day she had severe stomach pain. When she went to the hospital for a checkup, it turned out to be a molar pregnancy! After the operation, at a friend's gathering, she looked in high spirits. She seemed to be talking to herself or to her friends in front of us: It's not my fault. It's not that I don't give birth, it's that she can't conceive on her own. rise! At that time, we were stunned. We had never seen a woman who couldn't have children behave like this! Maybe she was relying on her man to let her go for so many years! Especially when she hums or acts like a sick girl, her friend can't do anything to her...
As she gets older year by year, her friend's desire to be a father becomes stronger and stronger. . Seeing all the friends around me enjoying the unparalleled family happiness, I felt even worse... So I discussed with her to go to the orphanage to hold a baby first, but she refused. If she didn't say anything right, she would do the same thing again, pretending to be a black eagle. I couldn't afford to faint... My friend was anxious and angry, but he couldn't calm her down. She cried, made trouble, and hanged herself, and all I could do was stare... Later, I discussed with her and said that it was really not possible, so I could have a baby through her own belly! Then give the woman a sum of money and have nothing to do with her after that. As a result, she failed once she jumped! Later, my friend gritted his teeth and thought, science is so advanced now, why not spend some money to go to a big hospital to do in vitro fertilization? As a result, the money at home was squandered by my wife all day long, and there was not much left, so I had to shamelessly borrow it! My friend's heart has long been riddled with holes and bleeding...
I tried it once or twice with hope but failed, and the woman still looked indifferent. After my son turned eleven, my friend couldn't bear it anymore and filed for divorce! At that time, we asked: Didn’t you get your marriage certificate? Later, my friend explained that he couldn't help but pick it up shortly after the wedding. She resorted to crying, making trouble, hanging, and fainting to force her friend to submit! The friend finally broke out. He had been making do with her for so many years, he had been doing all the hard work alone, but he didn't get any corresponding reward, not even a word of comfort or an occasional understanding! In the end, during her unreasonable troubles, her friend finally took action and turned her original image of a good man into a demon...
For the last time, her friend resorted to appealing to the court for divorce, in order to prevent trouble. Yu Weiran hid outside without seeing her or going home. She had no choice but to call and cry to us friends. For the sake of her friends, my husband came to mediate between the two parties because he would rather tear down a temple than a marriage! Although she usually relies on the favor of her friends and doesn't take us seriously! Proud of being favored. But my friend is determined to leave her, no matter what methods or threats she takes, she will ignore her!
She has always believed that friends are like Sun Wukong who cannot escape from the palm of her Tathagata Buddha and will never leave her at any time! I had thought that when it came to the issue of heirs, all the tricks she had used would no longer work. This is because she does not cherish the relationship between the two of them. She has been doing this since the day they met, using deception to defraud her friend's feelings and her heart to protect her.
So in the end, she went to the point of divorce, which she had brought on herself; it was also in accordance with the fortune teller's saying that she was destined to have a second marriage...
I understand what the old man said. It's easy to do, but hard to do. My dad is. People like this go to the hospital for check-ups every three days. People say that the uncle is in good health, but he feels uncomfortable from head to toe. He has to defecate and take notes four times every day. His topic cannot be separated from his illness. He can't sleep at night and he won't let him. My mother always asks her what to do about her illness when she sleeps. I really don’t feel uncomfortable anywhere. I also say that I have depression and want to commit suicide. I don’t want to live anymore. I prepare clothes for him and he is ready to die. He doesn’t want to sleep. Sometimes he calls me at 3 o’clock in the middle of the night and asks him why. He says he feels uncomfortable and then says it’s okay. You can go to sleep. My mother and I have been tortured to the point where no one else can. In fact, we are the ones who want to die.
What kind of psychology, morbid psychology, means that this person is unhealthy, at least mentally unhealthy. The family can first take him to a regular hospital for a check-up to see if there is anything wrong with his body. As long as there is no physical problem, He also said that if you feel uncomfortable here or there, you have a psychological problem. Go to the psychology department of a regular hospital for consultation. Early detection and early treatment are important. Having a healthy body is very important, and having a healthy mind is even more important. Only when you are mentally healthy can you live a good life and be less likely to have problems. If you don't pay attention to it and don't treat it, you may develop into mental illness later on, which can easily lead to major problems. So you must pay attention to it and don't take it seriously. In your daily life When problems arise, solve them immediately. Don’t delay. The more you delay, the worse it will be. In short, I think he is either physically or mentally ill. What do you think?
My father-in-law is a typical example. He has suspected that he has cancer four times. Every time, he cries and makes trouble at home, throws things at the door, and says that he will not survive. This makes the whole family fall on their backs every time. But After being admitted to the hospital and undergoing various examinations, it was discovered that he had lied about military information. In fact, he is in great health. He can eat two big bowls of rice in one meal and can run faster than a young man when he goes out. But he just wants to make everyone miserable and there is nothing anyone can do to him.
1. Fear of death
Old people who are over sixty years old always have a strong fear of death, and they are often fooled by those who sell health care products. Lacking physiological knowledge, it is easy to exaggerate some minor uncomfortable feelings into a disease, feel that one is going to die soon, and make endless noises about it.
2. The desire for attention
Some elderly people, such as my father-in-law, particularly like the feeling of "all the stars holding the moon", and all the attention of the family must be focused on him. , otherwise it will make him feel uncomfortable, and he will cause a scene to attract everyone's attention to him. Every time my father-in-law has cancer, the days he is admitted to the hospital are extremely happy. Relatives and friends come to visit, give him gifts and cash, and greet him. He sits in the center of the crowd, and I don’t know how comfortable he is.
3. The mentality of emptiness and loneliness
There are also elderly people who are suddenly free and have nothing to do after retirement. Unhealthy thoughts, feeling that one has no value in existence, and all sorts of uncomfortable physical problems.
Regarding this situation, I think we, as children, should try our best to understand the psychology of the elderly and give them more comfort. Don't let them always be idle with nothing to do. You can spend more time with them. Chatting, or encouraging them to participate in cultural activities, my father-in-law writes big characters at home, sometimes plays mahjong online, and often goes out for a walk. His mood is much better than before.
This is actually a disease. In fact, it is not necessarily because of poor health at the beginning, but because we feel psychologically uncomfortable, the brain will send such hints to the body, and then we will perform corresponding self-comfort or self-treatment behaviors.
Do you have the same feeling? Sometimes you just feel tired and don’t want to move. You just want to sit on the sofa. As a result, I became increasingly tired.
People should exercise externally. Motivation is needed within. When you are full of energy every day, you won’t feel uncomfortable this way or that way.
Lazy people will find various reasons for being lazy, but hard-working people feel that 24 hours a day is not enough!
Depression, or cardiovascular diseases.
I really hate this kind of people. They don’t cook or do any work at home. They pretend to be sick when they say they feel uncomfortable or that is uncomfortable, and they pretend to be pitiful to make people pity them. This kind of person is really pitiful when he gets old, which is why people sympathize with him.
This is called the end!