It can be said that Guiguzi, as a saint who understands human nature and has been fighting with others, it is necessary to know people.
Guiguzi, an ancient book, brings together all the knowledge and viewpoints of Guiguzi, as well as the philosophy of life and the skill of knowing people, and is still sought after by many people.
If you can remember these five sentences of Guiguzi, I believe you will have a unique eye and see through the hearts of the world. This is definitely not an exaggeration.
First, check the part after anger.
Guiguzi believes that when a person is angry, he will show his hidden thoughts. In real life, many people can't control their personal emotions. When they are too excited, it is easy to do some absurd things.
It can be said that anger is the best way to test a person's moral integrity, because anger can only reveal its true colors. A person who knows how to control personal emotions is not only seldom angry, but even shows anger.
On the contrary, those who are full of benevolence, righteousness and morality at ordinary times, but easily get angry often, may not be what they seem. Therefore, Guiguzi has repeatedly stressed that you should not be fooled by superficial phenomena, because people who know how to control their emotions can achieve great things.
Second, enjoy it to test its addiction.
In short, if you want to know a person's hobbies, you must look at what he cares about or likes when he is happy.
To put it bluntly, if promotion and wealth make him happy, it means that this person is good at chasing fame and fortune. If he is happy when he is with his friends, it shows that he is a person who values affection and righteousness.
Guiguzi has a profound insight into human nature, so he thinks it is also the key to test a person's character.
We should pay special attention to this point when dealing with people at ordinary times, because how can a person who loves money, lust and power become a confidant?
Third, mourning is a test for people.
There are many uncomfortable things in life. At this time, many people will be particularly sad, especially sad. In fact, through this, you can also test a person's authenticity.
If this person has not recovered because of excessive sadness, in fact, relatives and friends around him are constantly comforting, but they still refuse to listen and go their own way. On this premise, you can be sure that this person doesn't deserve to be your friend at all.
You can imagine that everyone has sadness, but as time goes on, it will be diluted sooner or later.
As the saying goes, the road ahead is still very long. If you always dwell on the sadness of the past, such a person is not worth socializing with at all.
Fourth, test your ambition with suffering.
There is a wonderful conclusion in Mencius' "Gao Zi Xia": "Therefore, if the sky is going to drop people, they must first suffer from their minds, their bones and muscles, starve their bodies, waste their actions, and do whatever they want, so their patience has benefited their health." .
Observing whether a person can do great things depends on his performance in times of crisis. If a person is in trouble but determined, then he must be a person worth making friends with.
On the contrary, those who start to avoid or solve problems head-on when they encounter difficulties are absolutely cowards without ambition. Suffering can hone a person's willpower and test a person's mind, ambition and ambition.
No matter where a person falls, if he can constantly fight against suffering with a tough character, then he is not only a person who can bear hardships, but also an ambitious person. On the contrary, if you can't eat anything bitter, you must be a sparrow!
Fifth, fear of taking exams.
Everyone has their own fears. For example, many girls are particularly afraid of dogs, which is actually a normal psychological reaction. But if you are particularly afraid of something, how can it be a big deal?
Especially when threatened by others, he can easily change his position. Isn't such a person a traitor? Because he betrayed his moral integrity and turned himself into a timid coward.
Just like traitors in some anti-Japanese dramas, the enemy began to shake his will just after being punished or not, and finally told the truth. This kind of person not only has no backbone, but also has no integrity.
And those who would rather die than surrender for the country and the nation are not afraid of extorting confessions by torture? Obviously, such people also have fears, but because they have integrity, or they have the idea of taking care of the overall situation, they will not hesitate to resist fear and become an epic figure.
conclusion
Under these circumstances, if you can deeply understand these five sentences of Guiguzi, you will certainly master more skills of recognizing people. After all, everyone has two sides.
Sometimes they seem like good people on the surface, but when things really happen, they become completely different people. So once you don't know how to meet people, it's easy to be cheated or fall into the trap of others.