Only six tricks are needed to teach you to be a person with a strong heart.
The first trick: don't be manipulated easily by others.
This dress of yours doesn't look good, so don't wear it! Don't bother in the big city, you won't succeed. Sometimes you hit the bottom with a word from others. That dress you like best, never go out again. Your dream full of fighting spirit is in your heart and you don't want to mention it to anyone again.
but think about it carefully, why do you have to sacrifice yourself and become what others like? You don't harm others, and you don't hinder others. You can do what you like.
please remember the mantra of "none of your business, none of my business". Shield those noises and live your true self.
The second measure: Allow unexpected results to appear
Many people's vulnerability actually comes from their inner "must" thoughts. Set too many limits for yourself, but become fragile and sensitive. Here you are taught three kinds of self-relaxing mentality.
1. I don't have to praise what I do
2. The people I contact don't like me
3. What I face can be different from what I imagined
The third measure: in the face of bad things, I can't make any negative judgments
For example, when a glass is broken, negative people will start to think, why am I not so careful? How can I connect this? You won't put any pressure on yourself. A broken glass is broken. Just be careful next time. Learn to describe the facts objectively, and don't give yourself a negative judgment casually, so that you can gradually become calm and powerful.
the fourth trick: please don't please and cater to others
because of a word from others, one look will upset you for a long time. Is there something wrong with me? Does he hate me? People who always want to cater to others will only swing from side to side and let themselves fall into pain. In fact, it is normal to encounter some negative comments in life. Other people's comments are only based on other people's life experiences and may not be 1% correct for you. Listen to others' comments properly, but don't force yourself to change.
only vulnerable people will do what others say. People with strong hearts are often very firm. This firmness is not stubbornness, but a clear understanding of yourself, recognition of your own advantages, and frankly facing your own shortcomings. If there is, change it, if not, ignore it. Don't cater to please others, put more energy into becoming excellent, have the strength to be emboldened, and your heart will naturally be strong.
the fifth trick: find out what you want and stick to it
some people are not strong inside, not because of their weak nature, but because they have not found themselves. They are used to looking for a sense of identity from others, so they always suffer from loss. It's hard to have a constant sense of security.
Just like some people seem to be strong inside, in fact, they have been very successful since childhood, with good family background and mistakes in their studies, so they have been praised a lot. But once in the society, fewer people praised him, and he slowly began to become fragile and depressed. This is caused by lack of self. Compared with such people, people who know what they want will firmly hold their destiny in their own hands.
the sixth measure: exercise the ability to take the initiative to attack
when my career is successful, I will do what I want. When I get rich, I'll do whatever I want. Many people think that when the time comes, the opportunity will naturally throw itself at them. But the fact is that life is full of variables. Some people have things, and if you let them go, you may never meet them again. Those who love to complain and wait have the same characteristic, "like to escape".
they can find all kinds of problems, but they never take the initiative to solve them. I will just stay where I am and talk about it, waiting for the outside world to solve this problem. Most inner strongmen are honed after many failures. No one in the world can completely avoid rabbit failure and face up to your imperfections and fragility. This is the first step for you to become strong. Give yourself a compliment, encourage yourself, and let us become stronger together.