"Boys should look like boys and girls should look like girls." Do you often remind children like this?
When parents choose clothes or buy clothes for their children, they often unconsciously help their daughters choose things with patterns or colors. However, if you put the same elements on your son, many parents will disagree and feel strange! But is this difference in preferences really what children originally liked? Even though the concept of equality between men and women is so common now, there are still stereotypes about boys and girls in education.
Tao Jingying is a clever mommy, who often makes amazing quotations, but she doesn't have much opinion on children's gender consciousness. She and her husband Li Liren have two children, a daughter Doudou and a son Xiaolong. The couple often upload photos of the two children to share their lives. But many people find that the two treasures in the photo seem to be "brothers" rather than "brothers", and it is my sister Doudou who can only be judged by her height.
Tao Zi said that daughters are often mistaken for little boys, and even neighbors played with their children for two years, only to find out that they were girls one day. Tao Zi said, "One day I said to them,' Sister, brother, neighbors and children actually said,' Where did you get your brother? It turns out that neighbors and children have been playing together for 2 years and always thought that Doudou was a boy.
Doudou just turned 9. In the photos, he always has short Qi Mei hair, which looks natural and handsome. Tao Zi said that many people thought she was a little boy. "She is used to it, so are we. Doug usually wears skirts instead of playing with Barbie dolls. Even this year's birthday, he left his mother a sentence "I want to play with the laser gun", and the birthday party of the laser gun happened.
The couple also let their daughter do what she wants, and will not deliberately change. But Doudou's school stipulates to wear skirts one day a week, and Tao Zi especially likes to wear underwear inside. Her husband Li Liren also said, "I have special friends, so don't laugh when you see them. 」
In fact, when Doudou just learned to walk, Tao Zi often revealed that her daughter's favorite clothes are denim jackets, leather coats and other casual dresses. Going out with her husband looks like a handsome parent-child file! Tao Zi, who has a unique opinion on gender issues, has been encouraging her daughter's various preferences since she was a child, and will also provide handsome dressing suggestions for her reference.
Although most parents will not intentionally educate girls by educating boys, the masculinization of girls is indeed related to family education. Now the only daughter is taking care of at home. On the one hand, boys are taken care of too well, and the masculine and strong character in the traditional impression can not be developed. On the other hand, girls can play their own eloquence and character strengths.
The need for survival is also a major reason why girls are masculine. Some parents deliberately strengthen their children's strong attitude in order to cultivate girls' competitiveness. In addition, adolescent girls have the need to achieve a sense of security, and more masculine manners and dressing are conducive to satisfying girls' sense of security. Girls with straightforward personality and a little heroism are also popular in adolescent communication, so there is a theory that people with both male and female advantages are more competitive, conducive to interpersonal communication and have stronger viability.
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In fact, it is desirable to moderately educate daughters about masculinity, but if the behavior is vulgar and aggressive, this masculinity is not worth advocating. The key is to have a reasonable and healthy starting point!