Thank you, Secretary Wukong, for the invitation!
I don’t agree with the saying “There are times in life that must come to you, but there are times in life that don’t force you to force them.”
Because people's destiny is in their own hands. As long as you want to be talented, study actively. You can achieve it even if you create conditions without conditions. Just look at the number of people who have worked hard to change their destiny, such as Zhang Haidi, Brother Dayi...
As long as you want to get rid of poverty, just create the conditions for yourself earlier and be prepared, and you will succeed. Just look at how hard you study and become a leader in all walks of life! God will not favor a person without any preparation.
Without a positive and upward pursuit of mentality, you can only accept the arrangements of "God", and you will accept your fate and not make progress, and you can only drift along with the flow throughout your life.
To sum up, we know that destiny is not planned in advance, but depends on everyone's understanding to get different destiny!
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Destiny, if you believe it, it exists, if you don’t believe it, it does not exist. There is a saying that man can conquer nature. Let me tell you the two most true stories. One is that she was tortured by love and challenged fate for two years, but finally lost to fate. The other is about a couple who do not succumb to their fate, but their mentality determines the success or failure of their fate.
In 1992, when we were both 18 years old, my best friend Xiaoyuan fell in love with her boyfriend Xiaoxian, who was three years older than him. Her parents were very opposed to him because of his family problems, but they still couldn't stop him. Two young people fell in love together.
One night when the moon was full, they were dating by an abandoned bridge. Suddenly they heard the sound of someone beating with a stick. The two of them felt something was wrong and got up to leave. They saw two people under the moonlight. A man came towards Xiao Yuan's boyfriend with a stick in his hand. Xiao Xian subconsciously moved to protect Xiao Yuan and asked him who he was, but the other party didn't say anything and just hit Xiao Yuan like Xiao Xian. Xiaoxian had practiced martial arts with a relative of his since he was a child. He quickly snatched the other's stick and injured one of them. Later, the two of them ran away.
It turned out that the person who attacked Xiaoyuan that night was called by Xiaoyuan's father. He meant to warn Xiaoxian not to look for Xiaoyuan. He had no intention of hitting anyone. Unexpectedly, an accident happened.
After the accident, Xiaoyuan was also placed under house arrest by her family and could not go out. Only then did she realize that the injured person had a serious head injury. A large group of Xiaoyuan's mother and aunt went to find a fortune teller. According to the hexagram, the fortune teller said, "Xiao Yuan and his wife will not be able to fall in love smoothly. There will be many disputes. They are destined to have ups and downs. They must see red (blood). No matter how much their family objects, it will be of no avail. They will still be together in the end." A pair of mandarin ducks that cannot be broken up."
When Xiaoyuan heard this, she had brought her family to this point for a man, and thought that she should break up. If she continues, she doesn't know what terrible things will happen. She said she didn't believe in fate, let alone fortune tellers, so she wanted to resist fate's arrangements and challenge fate!
In this way, Xiaoyuan sent a breakup letter to Xiaoxian, but Xiaoxian was unwilling to accept it and often wrote to Xiaoyuan. However, he did not know that Xiaoyuan had been under house arrest and could not receive his letters. letter.
During the period of house arrest, Xiaoyuan cried every day. She often laughed and cried while talking to herself. Once, she had a mental hallucination. She walked out of the door alone and had to pee and take off her pants. She only came back after she had half taken off her pants. When God came, I thought I was dreaming, it was so scary. Xiaoxian, who often talks about her, looks back at the sweetness of her love, and feels like she is about to collapse, and her heart bleeds.
The incident of beating someone and getting injured suddenly spread in the village. As everyone knows, everyone is talking about it.
It took about two months for Xiaoyuan to slowly come back to her senses under my care and care. From then on, she destroyed all the letters and photos of her boyfriend. In order to forget someone who loved her so deeply, she made up her mind to burn even a single word of Xiao Xian in her diary, including love letters. A big box, and the relationship was destroyed. It hurt in my eyes and in my heart.
Two years passed in such a seemingly peaceful life. On a New Year's Eve in the third year, they met by chance on the street of a small town. They only glanced at each other lightly and then passed each other...
On New Year's Day, Xiaoyuan and I were at a neighbor's house. While watching the Spring Festival Gala, a brother of the same age suddenly said to her, "I saw you yesterday, and you seem to be getting more and more handsome."
Yes, she has definitely changed after not seeing her for two years. With just a few words, Xiaoyuan immediately went home and wrote a letter to the man with whom she was disconnected, and asked him to meet at the same place the next day. I personally sent the letter. After reading the letter, Xiao Xian replied that he didn't have time for the second and third grades of junior high school. Later, I made the decision and asked him if it was okay for the fourth grade of junior high school, and he said it should be OK.
It turns out that Xiaoxian also has a new girlfriend, but they are still together after meeting. The road to love and married life have tasted all the ups and downs in the world, and not ordinary people can bear it. Now.
Xiaoyuan's fate has verified the saying "Sometimes in life, you must have it, and there is no time in life, don't force it." She ultimately failed in her challenge to fate, but she achieved a marriage that had gone through ups and downs. He and she have been destined to spend most of their lives together, and it can be considered happiness despite all the hardships and joys.
Many times I believe in fate, so for me, the sentence "Sometimes in life must be there eventually, but there is no time in life, don't force it". To me, I believe that there is, I believe in fate, but Never accept fate.
The above answers are only personal opinions and are for reference only! This sentence has been circulated among the people for a long time and comes from Zengguang Xianwen. Most ordinary people believe this statement. Often when life is unsatisfactory, we blame it on this sentence instead of looking for the reason from ourselves. There are many other factors. This will dissolve people's will and lose their confidence in life. The right time, right place, and right people have different meanings from this sentence. This sentence contains numerology. For example, for businessmen, the right time, place and right people mean to seize fleeting business opportunities. Whoever has the right vision will be the first to seize the business opportunity. And for those with poor eyesight, if they just enter the market and encounter a market decline, the consequences can be imagined. Know. Geography refers to geographical advantages, and people refer to connections. Networking is very important in business. If the right time, place, people, and people are not used properly, it will ultimately be the fault of fate. Obviously biased. Many people's unsatisfactory lives are also related to their own personalities. There is not a single reason, there are many factors.
First of all, I believe in fate.
What is fate? Destiny is created by the heart, and luck is determined by emotions. What kind of heart you have, you will have your destiny, and what kind of emotions you have, you will have your luck.
Of course, destiny is also a subjective and objective existence. Objective existence is destiny, which is the foundation of innateness. Subjective existence is the foundation of acquired nature, that is, human subjective initiative, or acquired self-effort.
Being born at the wrong time is an objective existence and is the foundation of innateness.
Low emotional intelligence is an acquired trait. You always treat yourself as a master, are too selfish, don't know how to be grateful, and don't know how to take responsibility. Then you won't have good luck.
Therefore, fate exists objectively, and it is not always based on human will. If you believe it, there will be it, if you don’t believe it, there will be nothing.
People’s understanding of destiny can be divided into three stages.
The first stage is before the age of forty, when most people do not believe in fate. During this period, people are young and strong, and they think that people can conquer heaven. As long as you work hard, struggle on your own, or manage your life, everything is in your own hands! People during this period don't pay attention to their fate.
The second stage is from forty to sixty years old. During this period, through hard work and hard work, some people have successful careers, while others are still running around for three meals. During this time, people slowly realize life. Why sometimes everything goes smoothly, and sometimes there are many hardships and repeated failures? During this period of life, you will slowly realize that there is an invisible force controlling you in life, and you will have some understanding of the God of fate.
The third stage is after sixty, when life has completed the path of starting a business, establishing a career, and keeping a career. I will calm down and recall the decades I have gone through, and believe that life is fate, and no one can control it at all! I also understand that there are times in life that we must have, but there are times in life that we must not force.
But my understanding of fate is that most of it is in my own hands. It is said that one-third of it is destined by nature, and seven-cent depends on hard work! No matter how good your destiny is, it depends on you to grasp it, start a business, and fight! It is destiny to have a lot of achievements! Therefore, people have their destiny, but they must fight hard, do good deeds and accumulate virtue, and respect the old and love the young in order to control their own destiny. Go and strive for greater results! A person's life is arranged by his destiny, but he must fight on his own to change his bad destiny!
Destiny
In real life, both family affection and love are equally touching. In an era under the impact of the market economy, some cultural heritage and tedious and ordinary things are always cherished. What to say about fate, there is resistance and submission, each has its own reasons. Changes occur due to various reasons, but we are human beings. Even if we are humble or insignificant, we cannot live without love in our hearts. The door of destiny is always open to you.
Some people say that destiny is yours and you can control it yourself. There are two situations:
First, you have the right direction and strive for it through hard work, from quantitative change to qualitative change. Such as ideals, studies... and future.
2. Destiny, sometimes you want it but can’t get it. Such as opportunity…. When a couple wants a boy or a girl, it is inevitable to go against destiny and not follow their wishes...
Agreed: However, life requires diligence and frugality, and there is no such thing as pie in the sky. Without hard work and forging ahead, there won't be much gain. It's impossible to get something for nothing and reap the remaining profits. If you have good luck, you may get a little more from your efforts than others, which would be good.
What is your destiny in this life? That is:
The causes sown in the past are the fruits produced in this life. Good causes lead to good results, and evil causes lead to bad results.
Metaphorically speaking, the fruits of this life are seeds, good fruits are high-quality seeds, and bad fruits are inferior seeds.
The process from seed taking root to maturing and bearing fruit is life.
What kind of life you have depends on your pursuit and choice!
Without pursuit, there will be no good or bad destiny. If a person does not pursue official position, there will be no good or bad official luck; if he does not pursue marriage, there will be no good or bad marriage; if he does not pursue wealth, there will be no good or bad financial luck. Then you won’t cause yourself any pain because of this! Appropriate letting go and indifference can lead to happiness! So the quality of destiny depends on the pursuit!
In fact, life is a process of constant choices. What kind of choices will lead to what kind of life.
People born on the same day, same year, same month, have different lives because of different choices.
Do you think divorce is doomed? How many children are destined? Is it destined to be a peach blossom? Is it destined to be official and non-official? etc…….
Will a hit with this information definitely happen? If you think it will definitely happen, you are wrong, couldn’t be more wrong! Can it be changed? Can it be lowered or avoided? I can tell you clearly that it can and absolutely can!
The answer lies in your choice! Remember it’s a choice! Rather than spells, rituals, talismans, etc., these are of no use. If they are useful, they are to use these tools to change your heart and thus change your choices!
In the 1960s and 1970s, the divorce business volume of the civil affairs department was almost zero. Now, divorce requires an appointment. What an exaggeration! Is it destined? It’s a matter of choice!
In the past, a couple had five or six children, sometimes seven or eight, but now many have only one. Is it destined? A matter of choice!
Is it destined to commit a sex crime? It’s also a matter of choice. There is information about peach blossoms. If you don’t select it, it will not appear, and there will be no problem of peach blossom crimes! For example, if someone outside your marriage likes you appears in your life, you know how to choose to say no. When someone you like appears, know how to choose to cultivate your mind and be alert. So seeking good luck and avoiding bad luck lies in choice!
The horoscope is like the seed of this life. High-quality seeds are higher-level horoscopes, and inferior seeds are ordinary-level horoscopes.
As for how to make the seeds of this life grow better, that is, how to change destiny? It is to give the seeds more nutrients. For destiny, nutrition is what we often call "feng shui, accumulation of virtue, reading, choosing a mate, choosing a career, making friends with noble people, and maintaining good health."
Among them, reading and accumulating virtue are very important to us. Because reading absorbs knowledge, knowledge increases wisdom, wisdom determines choices, and choices change life.
And by accumulating virtue, you will sow good graces, bear good fruits, change your destiny, and benefit your descendants!
There is a saying, "There are times in life that must be there, but there are no times in life, so don't force it." How to understand it?
There is a time in life, but must it eventually happen? The answer is that if you pursue it, you will have it; if you don’t pursue it, you will have nothing. There is an official in your destiny. If you pursue it, you will have it. If you don’t seek it, you will have none. There is wealth in your life. If you pursue it, you will have it. If you don't seek it, you will have it. This is true for official luck, financial luck, marriage, etc.!
So I would like to remind those who think about being lucky and lie in bed all day long, waiting for the money to come. If you don’t pursue it, even if you are lucky enough to be rich, you won’t get a cent. arrive!
Even if you are destined to have no wealth, don't feel that the sky is dark. As long as you pursue it, you will have any amount of wealth. There is a saying that "big wealth comes from fate, small wealth comes from hard work."
This is true for wealth, and it is true for all aspects of life. Let’s slowly understand it!
Regarding the sentence "Don't force anything in your life," you should pay attention to the three words "Don't force it." It tells us that if we can’t get it despite our efforts, we shouldn’t force it. If we learn to let go and look down on it, life will be more comfortable and comfortable!
The quality of your destiny lies in pursuit, taking advantage of good times and avoiding bad luck lies in your choices, and improving your destiny lies in accumulating virtue and learning! ***Mianzhi.
"What is fate?" Written by Wei Canxin
I often wonder: What is fate? Why are some people born with a silver spoon in their mouths and enjoying endless wealth and splendor, while some people live in the open air as soon as they are born and cannot endure the misery of the world.
As the old saying goes: "Life and death are determined by fate, wealth and honor are in heaven!" Is it possible that people really cannot escape their destiny?
I was born in a remote mountain village in western Henan in the late 1970s. At that time, transportation was backward and materials were scarce. In my memory, if I wanted to eat a white steamed bun or wear a new piece of clothing, I could only eagerly look forward to the Chinese New Year.
There are six sisters in our family, and I am the youngest. The eldest brother in the front is twenty years older than me. There are fourteen people in the family (the eldest brother is married with four children, and my grandmother is nearly 70 years old). ). In order for these fourteen people to have enough food and clothing, the parents led the eldest brother, eldest sister-in-law, eldest sister, and second sister to work at sunrise and rest at sunset. They even took advantage of the slack season to take advantage of the corners that others looked down upon. The barren slopes were reclaimed into fields, and they worked so hard that they had to borrow grain from others all year round.
As the days pass by, I grow up day by day. I remember entering the fifth grade (primary school was a five-year system at that time), which meant that I would graduate from primary school in half a year. At that time, I made a major decision in my life: drop out of school.
I want to drop out of school and work! Why do I have such an idea, and I am so good at studying (there are more than 20 students in a class, and I get first place in the exam almost every time)? ——Because, at that time, the second brother and the third brother were at the age of dating, and their parents were worrying about their bride price. I really couldn’t bear to add insult to injury to this devastated family! So, after the Chinese New Year, I followed my brother-in-law to work on a construction site in other places early. At that time, I was not even fifteen years old!
Time flies, time flies, and more than forty years have passed in a flash. I went from an ignorant boy to a vicissitudes of life in the blink of an eye. During this period, in addition to working in construction, I also collected junk, worked as a security guard, sold clothing, ran business, stood on the assembly line... and so on. No matter what I do, God doesn't seem to care about me. Even when I was just thirty years old, I unfortunately got divorced. My life seems to have entered a strange circle; no matter how hard I try, no matter how hard I try, I still can't escape the destiny. What is fate? I really don't understand!
In Luoyang on April 3, 2020.