It's almost a month before the new school year. Some parents, children and teachers are getting better and better, some are still groping, perhaps, some are struggling with how to communicate with teachers and schools, and even hesitate to change classes.
It is difficult to judge whether children get along well with teachers. Especially for children in middle and lower grades, it is difficult to express their emotions clearly. Parents should carefully observe their children's description of the school and find out whether they have abnormal anxiety symptoms such as headache, stomach pain, unwillingness or fear of going to school. These are the challenges now.
When should parents intervene? When they find that they or their children seem to be "out of place" with the teacher, parents are even more afraid or don't know how to deal with it. Eileen Kennedy-Moore, a clinical psychologist who specializes in family counseling, was quoted in the Life Edition of The Wall Street Journal as saying that parents should not rush to ask their children to transfer schools or transfer schools, because it would send their children messages such as "This is too difficult for you" and "You can't handle it". After all, life is about facing different people, and children should understand this.
There are indeed incompetent teachers in the world, but most of the time they may just meet strict or difficult teachers. Carol Lloyd, executive editor of GreatSchools, an American non-profit organization, pointed out that children can learn to face challenges and solve problems in this case. When my daughter was in primary school, she met a teacher who would loudly scold and insult her students. At that time, she decided not to interfere and encouraged her daughter to study and understand the teacher's requirements. As a result, my daughter really lived in peace with her teacher for a year and didn't feel hurt.
Another situation is that parents have negative rumors about teachers, or have a bad first impression on teachers. These preconceived experiences make parents and children have a knot in their hearts when facing the teacher. At this time, parents need to observe the real interaction between children and teachers for a while, and seeing is believing.
However, if the children's complaints are still unresolved after a period of time, parents should consider taking action.
6 tips and 5 "no's" to communicate with teachers more smoothly. What parents should do at this time is:
1. Understand the teacher's expectations and goals by participating in school activities or reading the instructions given by the teacher carefully, and then give the other party a chance;
2. Ask the child what the reason is, whether he doesn't like the teacher or is punished. When emotions break out, we often cut in from the most wronged point, but there may be more than a dozen processes behind it, leading to such a result.
3. think about whether it is possible that the child misunderstood. Maybe the teacher just played a joke that the child didn't understand, or hoped to encourage the students to accept the challenge, but the child thought it was unwilling to help. If so, you can talk to the teacher, understand his goals and discuss how to help the children.
Discuss methods with the teacher with an open mind and see if it is possible to cooperate with this teacher.
When parents want to communicate with teachers or schools, please release positive information first to express their understanding that the school has just started and many things have to be on the right track. Next, you should describe what happened to your child, the problems you saw, and the root causes you traced.
6. Parents should also pay attention that children are observing parents and learning how to solve problems. Therefore, parents should set an example, establish an attitude of positive communication and cooperation, and become role models for their children.
Experts remind parents to avoid five common mines:
1. Don't be influenced by preconceptions just because you've heard what a teacher looks like.
Don't complain and criticize the teacher in front of the children.
Don't go directly to the headmaster without communicating with the teacher.
4. Don't threaten teachers or school officials.
5. Don't gossip in public, and don't criticize teachers on social media.