Hakka people have realized that it takes the following steps to marry a bride and go home:
Meet three people (blind date). The man set a time to inform the woman of the meeting time through the matchmaker. If the woman has no objection, on that day, the man and one or two friends or relatives will meet the matchmaker at the woman's house with pork, chickens, ducks, fish, snacks and other items. When they meet, the boy will give the girl an expensive red envelope, and the man-pedestrian will have lunch at the woman's house. If both men and women are willing to discuss the time of engagement (in-laws' banquet), Hakka people have realized that it takes the following steps to marry a new
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On the day of engagement (also known as in-laws' banquet), the relatives of the woman's family (living grandparents, uncles and aunts, parents, brothers and sisters, etc.) all go to the man. The man's family prepared a very rich tea and lunch, and
warmly received these blind date people. And invite the elders who are older and have great prestige to discuss the marriage conditions put forward by their parents with the elders who come to blind date. These conditions are many: (1) Gift money: how much cash; How much silver; (2) Materials: How much pork; How many fish; How many chickens and ducks; How many tea cakes; How many sets of clothes don't niang, etc. (3) How much fish, meat, poultry, wine, etc. are needed to make wine when a girl gets married. (4) How much is the woman's dowry; Wait a minute. In order to facilitate memory and acceptance, a person will be asked to put these conditions vertically on a long piece of red paper with a brush, which is called a gift list. After the above things are done, the man's family will give each of the women's families a red envelope and some gifts. By this time, the two families had become relatives, and when the woman's family left, the man's family set off firecrackers to express farewell. (5) After a period of time, the man's family prepares the conditions put forward in the woman's family's gift list, and the man's family will entrust the matchmaker to birthdates, the woman's family who wants a girl, and then send the boy's birthdates to the local famous Mr. Geography, and ask Mr. Geography to see if the two characters are compatible, and then choose a good date to marry according to their birthdates. (6)
The day before the wedding, the host of the man's family and several relatives of the same family sent the money and materials on the list to the woman's house. On the wedding day-early, the wedding party rushed to the woman's house for a wedding banquet (the woman's house will hold a grand wedding banquet in the morning, ranging from a few tables to dozens of tables). After eating the wedding banquet, a wedding ceremony will be held. After the ceremony is completed, the wedding guests will greet the bride and return to the man's house with their parents. After the bride went to her husband's house to hold ceremonies such as paying homage to the church, the big family enjoyed a wedding banquet. The wedding banquet is also a few tables or dozens of tables, grand and lively.