In life, I often hear words like "women are afraid of marrying the wrong husband", which actually implies that women must be cautious when choosing marriage partners.
Whether a man is good or not depends not only on his appearance, but also on his character and personality, which is what people call character.
Men have good personalities and most marriages are not bad. On the contrary, marriage is often tragic, which is also a lesson summed up by many failed marriages.
Before choosing a man, it is particularly important to look at a man's character.
Women must understand that a good marriage is not that you give up the whole world for a man, but that you can see the whole world through a man so that you can be happy.
Therefore, whether a man is worthy of communication, the most important thing is to look at his character.
Judging a man's character is good or bad, look at the following three aspects, which are clear at a glance. I hope women will observe it attentively.
First, men with good character have a clean circle, and vice versa. Jia Pingwa said: "The circle of friends is actually the world you live in."
Indeed, a man with excellent character, his circle must be excellent, clean, sincere and affectionate.
As the saying goes, "Birds of a feather flock together." What kind of people a man is, what kind of friends he will have.
When a woman associates with a man, if she can't judge his character, she may look at his circle and what kind of person he associates with will also reflect what kind of person he is.
An excellent person, no matter how he changes, will be with excellent people. This is the law of interpersonal communication.
On the other hand, men's circles are unclean, and friends are all "friends", all of which are insincere and calculated. Such a man can basically conclude that his character is misconduct.
A man's circle of friends is actually his trademark. If he often associates with idlers and makes "fair-weather friends", it shows that he is unstable, immature and has a bad personality.
Such men get together to talk about vulgar topics, which are all insincere and won't make much progress.
Some people say that the environment can affect a person the most. That's quite right. What kind of environment a person is in for a long time also forms his character.
For example, in life, men who often play cards have friends who are addicted to gambling and have nothing to do.
For another example, among his friends, many men regard their feelings as children's play and tease women everywhere for fun. That man will also be affected and will never be single-minded about his feelings.
A man with a really good character will not have bad hobbies, and all his friends around him are people who can talk to each other. His circle is clean and his heart is like a mirror.
Therefore, to see a man's character is good or bad, we must first look at his circle.
Having a clean circle and not associating with irresponsible people shows that his character is acceptable. On the contrary, his circle is full of people who don't want to make progress, and their private lives are chaotic. He is no better.
Second, men with good character respect women and ignore their dignity. Some people say: "liking a person begins with face value, trapped in talent and loyal to character."
That's good. In the end, every relationship is actually a character.
Most men with good personality respect women and are willing to pay for them, giving them the best sense of security. And those men with poor character will only play with women's feelings, ignore women's status and be morally corrupt.
For a woman, to marry a man is not to be his "free nanny". If a man doesn't respect you, you have no dignity and status, and there is no happiness.
Therefore, the man who really loves you will respect you and make you live with confidence.
On the other hand, those men with serious male chauvinism basically can't respect you and don't care about your feelings, which will make you very miserable.
For example, in life, some men have no respect for women. When they associate with women, they are insincere and use various tricks to possess women.
When you are tired, you abandon women mercilessly, without any pity or responsibility. In order to satisfy their own selfish desires, they never think of women, and finally they make women black and blue.
For example, if you get along with a man, he won't ask your opinion anyway. Even if you put forward your own opinion, he will angrily deny you.
If you reason with him, he will not only refuse, but also scold you in words and actions. Such a man is arbitrary, prone to domestic violence, and does not give women any status at all.
If you are with such a man, you will not only get happiness, but also lose the rest of your life, which is not worth it.
Therefore, a man who doesn't want to respect women equally is basically poor in character and can't communicate.
Equality and respect are the most basic principles for women. If you can't do this, then don't marry a woman who loves you again, and don't pay yourself wrong.
Third, a man with good character is consistent in words and deeds and loyal, otherwise he will be irresponsible. Wilde said: "If a man's love hypothesis is not exclusive, he will feel happy with any woman."
A man's character is good or bad, which can be seen from his attitude towards feelings.
A single-minded man has a strong sense of responsibility. Their words and deeds are consistent, and they are willing to be responsible for women.
And those men with extremely poor character, most of them like philandering, have no sense of responsibility and are complacent about playing with women's feelings.
For men with bad character, there is no real feeling at all. Their love is cheap. They can fall in love with one woman after another at the same time, but they will never be sincere.
If women meet such men, they'd better stay away, because they don't deserve your kindness or your efforts.
Just like my colleague Xiaolin, she and her husband have only been married for a year, and her husband went outside to find a woman behind her back. At that time, Kobayashi had just given birth to a child and didn't notice her husband's abnormality.
However, when she realized that her husband came home too late and always lied to her, it was too late.
A man who likes philandering, has no sense of responsibility, is born to lie and can't give women happiness.
A man with a really good character always keeps his word, dares to do what he wants, and can be responsible for women for life.
Whether it is life or feelings, they don't tell lies, have credit and true feelings, and often win the respect of others.
Therefore, when a woman chooses a man, she must see whether this man is consistent in words and deeds and whether he has the habit of philandering. If so, please stop the loss in time.
A man who can only coax a woman but is irresponsible, shows mercy everywhere and keeps his word, which shows that his character is not good and he is not worth marrying.
Before choosing a marriage, a woman must see a man's character clearly and choose carefully.
It is important to marry a man with good character. He is single-minded, honest and reliable, and treats people sincerely. His married life can't be too bad.
On the other hand, a man who is disloyal to his feelings, full of lies and dishonesty, no matter how rich he is, can't give you the happiness you want in the end.
Write at the end:
Bai said: "Character is the highest level, and the combination of ability and political integrity is the real wisdom."
A man's personality directly determines the quality of marriage.
Therefore, before getting married, a woman must observe a man's personality, not just his external conditions. Noble personality and correct moral character are the most important.
The above three aspects, to a certain extent, can make women see a man's character clearly. I hope you can make your best judgment according to the actual situation.
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