Why did many families in ancient times compete to get married?

It is not that in ancient times, many families held competitions to recruit relatives. I heard that this kind of competition attracts relatives, and it is generally the film and television effects seen in TV dramas. But if it is recorded in ancient books, it rarely appears. Even if one or two people choose this way when they get married, it is only a competition between men, and the person who finally wins this competition has the right to marry his daughter. However, in order to exaggerate the effect in film and television dramas, their daughters are often allowed to compete for marriage, and those who beat their daughters may marry them off.

First, competitive marriage does not conform to the ancient marriage rules. The ancient wedding ceremony paid attention to parents' life and matchmaker's words. So parents decide that a man is suitable for their daughter and can marry their daughter, which has become a rule between families. If you want to find the right man through your daughter's own opinion, it is impossible in ancient times, because ancient marriage is not about what you want, but what your parents think. Competing to recruit relatives simply does not conform to such ancient marriage regulations, so it may be rare in ancient times.

Second, it is unreasonable to compete for relatives. Ancient women seldom went out in public before marriage, and what's more, they couldn't go out. If you let your daughter go out to fight for marriage, it can be said that it is a very unreasonable thing, because those excellent sons often do not participate in this occasion, and even avoid it. Moreover, ancient women would not be courting, because courting requires great strength and endurance. Boudoir women often only know how to embroider, but their martial arts are poor, so it is unreasonable to fight for marriage.

Moreover, in ancient historical records, there are few cases of fighting for marriage. Only when some nomadic people choose their daughter's proud husband to judge whether they have the ability to protect their daughter will they choose this method.