What should I say when the woman proposes? 1. Marriage:
Make sure that both parents agree to the marriage.
2. Date of marriage:
Choice and selection of wedding date. Under normal circumstances, after the proposal, the woman's parents are willing to give the bride-to-be's birthday to the man to choose the date; However, some women decide the date. You can first express your hope to get married in January or how long after your engagement. After reaching a consensus, you can get your birthday before choosing the date.
3. Engagement fee:
The engagement fee is big or small, and the man should take the initiative to ask the woman's views and opinions! For example, the size of the amount and whether to accept the engagement fee. Generally speaking, it means accepting a small employment and withdrawing a large one or issuing a house without paying.
1) Determine the amount of large employment 2) Determine the amount of small employment.
3) Does the engagement fee include wedding cake and other etiquette expenses, such as uncle's gift, dressing gift, mother's birthday gift, table pressing gift, chef's gift, door opening gift, candle gift, serving gift, etc. Or does the money already include the cake money needed for the engagement ceremony, all etiquette supplies, 12 red envelopes? The number of cakes that day should not be said, just a rough idea.
4) Submission of engagement fee:
Check, cash or empty red envelope? 5) The bride's dowry.
4. Engagement gifts:
6 gifts or 12 gifts?
5. Engagement ceremony:
Some people get engaged as a simple ceremony, entertaining 2-3 tables of relatives and friends, while others invite guests when they get engaged.
6. Wedding cake:
The man is responsible for the wedding cake. Generally speaking, it is up to the woman to decide and the man to pay. Some get a quota, some retreat more and make up less, some don't retreat more and make up less, and some retreat less and make up more.
1) The number and amount of wedding cake boxes need to be discussed carefully, which is easy to cause controversy. 2) Confirm whether the number of wedding cakes returned by the man is included in the cake money for the woman.
7. Place and type of banquet:
Engagement is mainly the responsibility of the woman, without too much interference, but for the wedding venue, the parents of the woman should be respected.
8. Give eight words:
When proposing marriage, the two sides exchanged birthdays after consultation. According to the old custom, the number of words on the eight characters must be even. If it is odd, try to add it to even. The woman took out the eight characters and gave them to the man. Or men and women exchange eight characters. Note: Some people will mind this little detail. The man should carefully take off the eight characters and don't put them in the back pocket of his trousers. The two sides exchange birthdays: the man chooses the date for the woman when he gets married, and the woman writes the selected date on red paper, and then gives it to the man in a red envelope to take back.
9. The birthday exchange between the two sides is written as follows:
1) Male: {name}, Ganzao, {year}, {lunar calendar}, {lunar calendar}, Jiansheng 2) Female: {name}, Kun Zao, {year}, {lunar calendar}, {hour. So I will ask the matchmaker to get the eight characters again.
Only the bride's horoscope can be written on red paper, but if both parents pay more attention to customs, they will write the horoscope of the bride-to-be and the bride's parents together, so that the teacher who matches the horoscope of the bride and groom can mainly calculate the date and hour, and then refer to the horoscope of both parents to exclude the days when they will rush to their parents, so that the combined date and hour will be safer. The teacher will also tell you the zodiac signs that will be rushed that day, so please be careful not to let people of these zodiac signs watch the ceremony that day.
10, eight words:
When the man goes back, he will find someone to set an auspicious day according to the eight characters. Will there be another one after the date is set? Ji ke? Send it to the woman together with the red envelope. It's called. Date of invitation? . If Gibbon has an auspicious day of engagement and marriage, show it to the woman, which means that the woman has seen the date and has no other opinions, and accepts the date of engagement and marriage, then she accepts red envelopes ranging from 200 to 2000; If the woman is cautious, this auspicious day will be audited by her familiar master. This red envelope is the reward that the man prepared for her to pay the master. The groom-to-be takes Ji Shi and another red envelope, plus 12 sets of rice fragrance (marked on the outer packaging bag) to the woman's house. Because he had no problem with the date the man saw, he accepted the red envelope, and then asked the groom-to-be to take Ji Shi and six groups of rice incense back to explain to his in-laws.
1 1, a gift from the matchmaker:
Give the matchmaker a gift, and the man will pay a little more than the matchmaker of the woman. Depending on the friendship between the matchmaker and the couple, it is generally 2000-3000 yuan; If it really plays an important role in the communication process, it can be 3,000-6,000 yuan.
12, ornaments:
1) gold ornaments: choose a set, including a necklace, earrings, pendants, rings and two bracelets made by hand or in pairs of dragons and phoenixes, which are gifts for the bride when the husband and mother-in-law buy them. Choose the style first and then make an appointment to pick it up.