With the development of the times, Chaoshan people’s weddings have become more and more modern. Many young men and women have already got rid of the marriage custom of “the orders of their parents and the words of the matchmaker”. However, traditional weddings still exist. Proposal of marriage, also known as marriage proposal. That is, the matchmaker goes to the man to propose marriage, or the matchmaker first goes to the man to introduce the woman's situation, and then the man approves and then the woman proposes marriage. Intermarriage. There are two steps here. After both parties approve the marriage proposal, the matchmaker will write the woman's name, birth date, place of origin, and three generations of ancestors into a Geng sticker and send it to the man. If there are no unexpected or unlucky things happening in the man's house within three days, such as broken bowls, pots, etc., this is called "three good days". With this good sign, the man agreed to exchange Geng Tie. After changing the Geng Tie, they each ask someone to divine the marriage and confirm whether the man and woman are symbiotic or incompatible with each other. engagement. After the marriage, the engagement stage begins, that is, from the man preparing gifts to the woman making a marriage arrangement. The gift is usually a pair of gold earrings or a gold ring. Some also give gold necklaces, as well as sugar and noodles, which are tokens of engagement. During the engagement ceremony, the woman should distribute candies and biscuits to her relatives, friends and neighbors to inform her that the marriage has been decided. After the engagement, the betrothal gift will be given. Xingpin, also known as send-in. In the past, the betrothal gifts for the rich were gold, silver, colored satin, pigs, sheep, wine and fruits; for the poor, betel nut, chicken and wine were nothing more. Chaozhou people regard betel nut as a symbol of good luck and good luck, and it is a unique wedding gift. Modern betrothal gifts include gifts in kind and cash. The physical items must be of at least four types each: sugar, noodles, Taiji (Teochew mandarin orange), gold and silver jewelry, cloth, cakes, etc., but it cannot be an odd number, it must be an even number. Cash is also called bride price, and it can be divided into one, two or four parts, but they are all multiples. During the betrothal gift, the woman must give a return gift, that is, return the cakes and food in the betrothal gift, and give "mandarin duck bananas", oranges, pig hearts, etc. in return. Mandarin duck bananas are two bananas growing side by side, symbolizing a hundred years of togetherness; oranges are homophones of "auspicious", symbolizing good luck; and pig hearts (half of which is left on the woman) symbolizes unity. At this time, both parties should use the cakes and snacks from each other's gifts to distribute them solemnly to relatives, friends and neighbors to announce the wedding date. Relatives, friends and neighbors should also return gifts to express their congratulations. During the application period and after the betrothal gift is given, the date of marriage must be chosen and communicated to the woman, including notifying the woman when to cut the wedding dress, when to "turn face", when to bathe, when to marry, etc. Most weddings take place in the dark, and the trendy custom of maintaining weddings at night is actually a legacy from ancient times. Welcoming, this is the ceremony where the groom goes to the bride's house to marry the bride, and it is also the most important procedure in the wedding. There are two types of wedding receptions: one is for the groom to welcome the bride, and the other is for the groom to ask a "lucky person" to welcome the bride on his behalf. At this time, the bride often bursts into tears, which is called "crying for marriage". On the one hand, they cry because they are far away from their parents. On the other hand, it is said that only by shedding tears can the mother's family become rich. When the colorful sedan arrives at the door of the husband's house, the husband's family will set off firecrackers to welcome it. The groom kicks the sedan with his feet, rolls up the curtain, pulls off the Ruyi hair from the bride's head, and pricks the bride on her forehead. Kicking the sedan chair and tying Ruyi are intended to give the bride power: everything from now on must be as her husband wants. This is a hint of husband power. Then the bride, with the support of the bridesmaid, stepped over a pile of burning "fire smoke" under the threshold. After the bride enters the house, accompanied by the "Qing Niang Mu" invited by her husband's family, she and the groom have a "shared room consummation", enter the bridal chamber, and go to the hall to serve tea to their elders and peers, etc. At this time, Qing Niang's mother should be reciting songs of praise. On the day of the bride's wedding, the mother's family will send her brother-in-law to give lily soup to the husband, hoping that the bride will be happy with everyone in her husband's family. The next day, the bride will be given fungus and pig heart soup, hoping that the bride will not forget her family members. Only the third time can I stay at my parents’ house for a few days and express my feelings about missing my parents. There is also a custom of giving "sister money" to girls here when they get married. "Sisters' money" is given by the groom who comes to marry the bride to her younger siblings, usually 4 yuan, 40 cents and 8 cents. Giving money to sisters is given to a man and a woman on behalf of each other, which means "good". 448 points, which means "good things for the world" and "never be separated (for the world)". When the groom is decorating his new house, he must hold a solemn "bed-laying" ceremony. When setting up the bed, a fortune teller is invited to choose a date, and there is also a special emphasis on the orientation of the head of the bed. When setting up your bed, you should do "four sentences" for good luck. When the bride puts on heavy makeup and is about to get into the sedan chair, the bride's family will bring a basin of water and pour it on the sedan chair. While pouring it, they say: "Pour the bowl water on the sedan chair and the bride will become new." The couple is getting married. Bride's wishes. However, now, of course, it is no longer the sedan chair, but bicycles, motorcycles, and cars.