2. On the day of the engagement, the man takes the betrothal gift (six or twelve gifts) and sets off for the woman's house with a cannon.
the person who goes to the woman's house should be the elder relatives and friends of the man (preferably mainly boys); Parents, prospective groom plus 2 people, ***6 or 8 people.
the number of people/limousines must be an even number, but 4 or 8 people are avoided. Generally, the number of limousines is 6.
both parties should pay attention to the time of wearing the ring (usually before 11: in the morning), and the man should arrive one hour in advance.
3. When welcoming the man to hire a motorcade to the front of the woman's house about 1 meters away, the woman "fired" and responded.
the matchmaker gets off first, and the others get off next; Finally, the groom is invited out by the younger generation of the woman's family, and the groom gives the younger generation a red envelope (opening ceremony).
4. Introduce the man's relatives and friends to the woman's house in sequence, and the matchmaker formally introduces the relatives and friends of both parties; Introduce the man to the woman first.
5. Recruit the staff of the man to carry chun sheng (now known as the red wooden box) into the living room of the woman, and the woman will accept the bride price and give a red envelope (the gift of carrying the husband/the driver), and display the bride price one by one.
The matchmaker will deliver gifts such as large and small employment and gold ornaments to the woman's parents, and the woman's relatives and friends will collect the betrothal gifts and display the offerings on the altar.
6. The elders of the woman who served the sweet tea invited the relatives of the man to sit down according to their age, and the groom took the last seat.
At this time, the bride is led out of the hall by a blessed woman, holding sweet tea to offer tea to the man's guests one by one. The number of cups is the same as the number of people served with tea, not more or less, and the matchmaker reads auspicious words and wishes.
7. Press the tea ou. Later, the bride will be led by the lucky woman, holding the tea tray out of the hall to collect the tea ou (cup), and the man's relatives and friends will put the red envelope and the tea cup (red envelope rolled up and put in the cup) on the tea tray one by one.
8. Hanging finger rings: gold-sharing ring, bronze ring (taking its sound, it means concentric. It can also be replaced by a diamond ring.
When the time comes, the bride will be led into the hall by a blessed woman.
under the witness of parents and relatives of both parties, the bride-to-be sits in the high chair in the hall with her feet on the low chair (facing inward if she is supernumerary).
When wearing a ring, wear the bride's middle finger first and then the groom's middle finger (usually only to the second knuckle, both men and women are left-handed), and the matchmaker reads auspicious words.
The groom pays the official money (red envelopes) to the bride, while the matchmaker reads auspicious words.
The prospective mother-in-law puts a necklace on the bride as a gift.
after wearing the engagement ring, the matchmaker suggested that the two sides change their names and address them one by one.
9. The ancestor worshiper invites the bride's uncle to light candles to burn incense, and the woman should give her uncle a "candle-lighting ceremony" (provided by the man)
two pairs of "incense", one for her parents and four for the bride-to-be.
The matchmaker reads auspicious words, and then the woman's parents worship the gods and ancestors, and tell them to get married to pray for blessing. When inserting incense sticks, you must not insert them again once. (taboo: possibility of bigamy)
1 The gift returned by the woman to the man is called "Huisheng" (also known as "Pressing Sheng") and put into the empty sheng after the man's "employment gift" is taken out.
the woman returned a part of the "employment gift" sent by the man.
The bride prepares the personal belongings (6 or 12 pieces) for the groom from head to toe in advance.
traditional return.
if the engagement fee is returned or only a small amount is collected, the woman will leave a red note, and the matchmaker will take it from the woman's parents and hand it over to the man's parents.
11. After the engagement ceremony, the woman holds a banquet.
At the end of the meal, the man's parents give red envelopes for "table pressing ceremony" and "sister table".
the woman should also prepare chicken legs with red paper and attach a red envelope to the young man.
the young woman holds washbasin water (with towels inside) to wash her hands for the man's visitors (the man gives a red envelope of "holding washbasin water gift"), which can be omitted if she entertains guests in a restaurant.
The man also gave red envelopes to all the people who helped him as a thank-you gift.
When the banquet is over, never say goodbye will leave when the man leaves, so as not to breed complications.
The prospective father-in-law gave his new son-in-law a "face-appreciation gift" (omitted).
The prospective mother-in-law gives her new daughter-in-law a "face gift".
12. The cake giver will distribute the engagement wedding cakes to relatives and friends, and the bride is not allowed to eat her own wedding cakes.